Well I got a lot of hot responses and brought the forum back to life but I know what I have done is wrong and sinful. About going to the gym to decrease my sexual desires. Well that is what got me in the first place, the more I go to the gym the more my body gets muscular, combined with my flirting type personality (which I have had since I am like 13) spells disaster. And if all you people are in denial saying that how can someone do this and that well you haven't seen the world yet. Go into a strip club and look at how many muslim 40+ yr olds are at the stripclub. Go into highschool see how many muslim girls are living a double life (one as a pious girl at home) and one outside life with boyfriends, sex, flirting, etc.
Yes all this is wrong and I condone it and I get really upset especially when their married with their spouse living with them. I have been married for more than 2 yrs now and have only seen my wife for a total of 122 days out of a possible 730 days of being married. There are people in pakistan/afghanistan etc that have four wives without the first wife having any say. There is no uproar about them. I know myself and my wife has the looks that can keep me in check. When I am with her I dont need anybody to sleep with, or to start a fling with because she is perfect for me.
For people who say just go visit her, I am born in Canada, and I hate Pakistan and their bribery ways makes me disgusted. I went couple months ago to visit them and had a fight with two scrawney police officers who started pushing me around saying come to jail you dont have some paper on you, etc and I just went beserk on them in the bazar and had bystanders serparate them from me.
Anyways everyone cheats, there is no romeo in this world the question is how far he exceeds in cheating from just a stare, to a crush, to a lust, etc. May Allah give us all the tawfeeq and hidayat to become better muslims
