I was just reading older posts, and read what happened with durram. I hope this never happens with anyone else, I was so shocked and hurt to read about his dilemma. Imagine waiting for your spouse for two years, spending so much time waiting for someone to arrive, building up hopes inside all along, making plans and dreaming about a good family life...all shattered and left only sorrows behind. I pray this sort of thing never happens to anyone.
I've read a few posts from past couple of days and have observed that some people have been complaining about long distance relationships, about their spouses' attitudes, et cetera. I am no relationship expert, in fact I'm new to this thing just like anyone here, and please forgive me for my intentions are not to hurt or offend anyone. However, I would still like to say that don't share your personal feelings with others. You don't have to tell others that your spouse is boring or doesn't treat you right, or fights with you over the phone or any other thing for that matter. You are only humiliating yourself can't you see that? Durram clearly had problems, and I pray that Allah shows mercy on him and takes his sorrows away. Ya all should know that this long distance is nothing compared to what living together in actuality means. If we work on our relationships and learn to appreciate our spouses from the outset and especially during this time (which I don't regard as tough as living together) I am sure that we will have a meaningful and happy life when we unite IA.
I do not intend to offend anyone by writing this message, many may not agree with me but seriously I don't care. I only wish that no one ever has to face embarrassment by the hands of their loved ones. I wish you all the very best of luck, and may Allah always be there with everyone to guide them and shower His blessings on every relationship.