hi dear,
I can realize ur pain cos my case also refused initially then we appeal and win at ADR. Take it easy, be patient and be positive. Every thing will be just fine. U r just initially refused that's it, this is not the final decision, keep it in ur mind. So now what u need to do 1st is read ur blue book very carefully and point out each and every concerns of the immigration officer. write down all concerns. And try to make ready all answers of those concerns. Concerns are the various reasons u were refused for. Try to address all concerns because u and ur spouse know each and every single details of ur application. Discus with ur spouse, give lot more time on it. We did like this, we wrote letter to the immigration officer. Me and my wife individually and in the letter we discus our full story first then we address each and every single concerns of our blue book. We also give some reference letters from our parents, friends and relatives who attained our marriage.
We hired a lawyer, she did a good job. She attach a lot of photos of our wedding and other photos from her visit. All air ticket copy, money receipt of western union, travel documents and hotel bill copy, we went for 3 days together. Our joint bank account document and account and bank statement. And more then a thousand copy of SKYPE AND VIBER chat transcripts. Our lawyer print all this things and send to them whiten 2 months of getting our blue book. And after 2 months they selected our file for an ADR. So if u can satisfy them only then u can get a ADR chance. If not then u have to wait about 2 years. So give some afford to get an ADR. Best of luck. Wish info is helpful.