Thanks for all your responses. It's really comforting to know that there are others who are in the same boat.
In our case, I literally feel suffocated.
We met overseas 3 and a half years ago. We were travelling and working all over the place. We decided that we wanted more with each other so we made the decision to come to Canada and settle down. His family are from Newfoundland and they live in a remote area (2 hours from the city). We've been staying with them for over a year. They've welcomed us but I feel like we're a burden sometimes.
In August, hubby got a job in the oil sands in Alberta. They pay for his camp living and return flights. So now, he is gone for 2 weeks and only home for one. That means that I am with his parents at their house on my own for most of the time.
There was no point in me going back to the UK. I haven't lived there for 8 years. If I went back to try to set up life while waiting for this process to be done with, it would have been more hassle than it's worth. We applied outland because the process is supposedly faster.
Our plan was to move to Vancouver and set up life as soon as my PR came through. We were getting ready to leave until we discovered that Mississauga had never sent my file to London (they were supposed to in July). As of yet, they've given no other information. We have NO timeline. As far as I know, we could be waiting 2 more months or we could be waiting 10 more.
Not knowing when things are going to change is what makes it hard. I am alone with his parents in a remote area and everyone around there who is my age has families and jobs and so they're busy. I can't go out running or walking because a. it's FREEZING NOW but also because I am afraid of the animals - moose/coyote etc. Our basement room is small, dark and dingy.
I take my frustrations out on hubby all the time. I feel like he doesn't understand that I am wasting my life. He at least is working. He complains about his job and hates being away for 2 weeks at a time but I am envious that he can work and feel like he should appreciate his job.
He's making good money but we can't spend it because our move to BC is going to cost around $10000. On top of that, we're trying to save for a family of our own and so on. When we move, we're going to need to buy all new furniture etc because we've never had our own place here in Canada before so we need a good chunk of cash behind us.
Every time we argue, I fish for the cause of the problem and it seems like no matter what the fuss is about, the root of the problem always leads back to one place - HERE. CIC. VISA.
Of course we'll have problems when this is all over because that's normal but I want our problems to be about anything BUT this.
I'm 32. I want a job. I want a family. I feel like time is running out. I was 30 when we came here. I get frustrated with my biological clock.... hubby is a man so of course he doesn't completely understand.
Just feels like I am drowning in a pool of stress and immigration BS that I have no control over.
Keep your stories coming in because it's comforting to know that other people out there understand and are in similar boats.
). But you know what? The fact that I still am madly in love tells me were paired for life. I'm somewhat glad (only when not arguing) that our relationship is being tested like this. Trial by fire.