Can Family Cause Issues With Spousal Sponsorship?

[kaur2019]

Hi,
This might be a long post but I would appreciate any help I could get.
I am a Canadian Citizen, born and raised in Alberta and married my best friend back in Punjab, India during Early Spring 2019. We both are in our mid 20's, he's an Indian Citizen. We met over social media in 2018 and my family was in favour of this marriage. However right at the last moment, they decided they wanted nothing to do with this marriage. I however still hoping they would show up paid for my mother's EVisa then flew off to India to get married. I kept in touch with my mother and she acted like she had a change of heart and reassured me she'd be there in no time. This did not happen as 2 days before the wedding, her phone was unreachable. We had a very traditional Punjabi style wedding with all the pre wedding bride and groom rituals done by my in law's. All of my husband's family showed up to the wedding but I was fortunate enough to have one uncle from my Mother's side come to bless us at the wedding. After being married for 3 days, my husband gets a call from the District Police Station in Punjab saying my mother had filed a case accusing my husband of kidnapping me and brainwashing me into marrying him. She had come to India without me knowing and later on I learned bribed the police with hefty amounts in order to get me back to her. We were shocked but immediately my in laws and I hired an attorney in the High Court in Chandigarh, Punjab to be granted High Court Protection Orders. We feared for our safety and were kept in hiding for about 5 days until the orders were processed. Afterwards due to the seriousness of this case, I had my Attorney in India make a written statement that I no longer wanted to be in communication with my family in Canada or India. This was also a clause in the High Court Protection Orders. This was mailed out to all the relatives who had threatened us. We had our marriage registered and shortly after had to require security from Police as before my Mother left India tried to track us down through threatening the Temple council we had gotten married at. We spent about $2000-$3000 on this whole legal process.

After nearly 3 months, I still have friends of my mother tell me what an awful thing I've done breaking off communication and I'll only be allowed back into the family if I divorce my husband. Now I have came back to Canada to start the sponsorship process for my husband. I am currently working 2 jobs and planning on restarting a whole new life on my own.
My questions are:
- Can my family in anyway tamper with my husband's sponsorship? If they were to complain about the authenticity of this marriage would what been taken into consideration?
- Should I do a self declaration letter stating all of the events leading to and after my marriage and have it notarized? Would that help support the application at all?
- Would I be able to go see my husband during the sponsorship process in India? I've heard it takes upto a year and you can't leave the country for more than 2 weeks or else you jeopardize your application.

I know it's a long read but I would be so grateful if anyone has been through a similar situation or knows what direction would be best for me, that would be great!

 

[aby1098]

The quick answer for your concern is 'No" . You dont have to write any explanation about the family drama .CIC will consider it as an application and process if it is a legal wedding and you have enough photographs and documents to support that.

 

[kaur2019]

The quick answer for your concern is 'No" . You dont have to write any explanation about the family drama .CIC will consider it as an application and process if it is a legal wedding and you have enough photographs and documents to support that.

Thank you, I will keep that in mind. I have had so many people throw in their opinions that your reply just made my day! Thanks, again!

 

[Newbi]

The

Hi,
This might be a long post but I would appreciate any help I could get.
I am a Canadian Citizen, born and raised in Alberta and married my best friend back in Punjab, India during Early Spring 2019. We both are in our mid 20's, he's an Indian Citizen. We met over social media in 2018 and my family was in favour of this marriage. However right at the last moment, they decided they wanted nothing to do with this marriage. I however still hoping they would show up paid for my mother's EVisa then flew off to India to get married. I kept in touch with my mother and she acted like she had a change of heart and reassured me she'd be there in no time. This did not happen as 2 days before the wedding, her phone was unreachable. We had a very traditional Punjabi style wedding with all the pre wedding bride and groom rituals done by my in law's. All of my husband's family showed up to the wedding but I was fortunate enough to have one uncle from my Mother's side come to bless us at the wedding. After being married for 3 days, my husband gets a call from the District Police Station in Punjab saying my mother had filed a case accusing my husband of kidnapping me and brainwashing me into marrying him. She had come to India without me knowing and later on I learned bribed the police with hefty amounts in order to get me back to her. We were shocked but immediately my in laws and I hired an attorney in the High Court in Chandigarh, Punjab to be granted High Court Protection Orders. We feared for our safety and were kept in hiding for about 5 days until the orders were processed. Afterwards due to the seriousness of this case, I had my Attorney in India make a written statement that I no longer wanted to be in communication with my family in Canada or India. This was also a clause in the High Court Protection Orders. This was mailed out to all the relatives who had threatened us. We had our marriage registered and shortly after had to require security from Police as before my Mother left India tried to track us down through threatening the Temple council we had gotten married at. We spent about $2000-$3000 on this whole legal process.

After nearly 3 months, I still have friends of my mother tell me what an awful thing I've done breaking off communication and I'll only be allowed back into the family if I divorce my husband. Now I have came back to Canada to start the sponsorship process for my husband. I am currently working 2 jobs and planning on restarting a whole new life on my own.
My questions are:
- Can my family in anyway tamper with my husband's sponsorship? If they were to complain about the authenticity of this marriage would what been taken into consideration?
- Should I do a self declaration letter stating all of the events leading to and after my marriage and have it notarized? Would that help support the application at all?
- Would I be able to go see my husband during the sponsorship process in India? I've heard it takes upto a year and you can't leave the country for more than 2 weeks or else you jeopardize your application.

I know it's a long read but I would be so grateful if anyone has been through a similar situation or knows what direction would be best for me, that would be great!

Hire an immigration lawyer, they will help you and guide you throughout the whole process. Yes it is pricey, but you will feel more safe and less worried as they will know how to go forward with this situation. Family and friends CAN send letters to cic, but it doesn’t mean what they say will affect it. It’s just safer if you stay protected with an immigration lawyer who knows your situation and can do everything needed to help with your application and to ensure the smoothest process possible. Very sorry you’re dealing with this, I hope it works out for you.

 

[StephanH]

Canada is not India, we don't care about drama that occurs in other Countries, as long as all papers are legal and your relationship is genuine then you should be fine. Since you are born and raised here, you should know that parents of newlyweds have no voice here in Canada, not like in India where they have arranged marriages usually planned by parents. Your Mom as no voice, she can't do nothing.

 

[canuck_in_uk]

Hi,
This might be a long post but I would appreciate any help I could get.
I am a Canadian Citizen, born and raised in Alberta and married my best friend back in Punjab, India during Early Spring 2019. We both are in our mid 20's, he's an Indian Citizen. We met over social media in 2018 and my family was in favour of this marriage. However right at the last moment, they decided they wanted nothing to do with this marriage. I however still hoping they would show up paid for my mother's EVisa then flew off to India to get married. I kept in touch with my mother and she acted like she had a change of heart and reassured me she'd be there in no time. This did not happen as 2 days before the wedding, her phone was unreachable. We had a very traditional Punjabi style wedding with all the pre wedding bride and groom rituals done by my in law's. All of my husband's family showed up to the wedding but I was fortunate enough to have one uncle from my Mother's side come to bless us at the wedding. After being married for 3 days, my husband gets a call from the District Police Station in Punjab saying my mother had filed a case accusing my husband of kidnapping me and brainwashing me into marrying him. She had come to India without me knowing and later on I learned bribed the police with hefty amounts in order to get me back to her. We were shocked but immediately my in laws and I hired an attorney in the High Court in Chandigarh, Punjab to be granted High Court Protection Orders. We feared for our safety and were kept in hiding for about 5 days until the orders were processed. Afterwards due to the seriousness of this case, I had my Attorney in India make a written statement that I no longer wanted to be in communication with my family in Canada or India. This was also a clause in the High Court Protection Orders. This was mailed out to all the relatives who had threatened us. We had our marriage registered and shortly after had to require security from Police as before my Mother left India tried to track us down through threatening the Temple council we had gotten married at. We spent about $2000-$3000 on this whole legal process.

After nearly 3 months, I still have friends of my mother tell me what an awful thing I've done breaking off communication and I'll only be allowed back into the family if I divorce my husband. Now I have came back to Canada to start the sponsorship process for my husband. I am currently working 2 jobs and planning on restarting a whole new life on my own.
My questions are:
- Can my family in anyway tamper with my husband's sponsorship? If they were to complain about the authenticity of this marriage would what been taken into consideration?
- Should I do a self declaration letter stating all of the events leading to and after my marriage and have it notarized? Would that help support the application at all?
- Would I be able to go see my husband during the sponsorship process in India? I've heard it takes upto a year and you can't leave the country for more than 2 weeks or else you jeopardize your application.

I know it's a long read but I would be so grateful if anyone has been through a similar situation or knows what direction would be best for me, that would be great!

Your family can send "poison pen" letters but IRCC generally takes such letters with a grain of salt.

The application asks who attended the wedding, so you will need to provide an explanation about why your parents didn't attend. Give a brief explanation on the form of how they disapproved and tried to cause you problems. You don't need a notarized declaration.

As a Canadian citizen, yes, you can go see your husband. The 2 week recommendation is for Canadian PRs, as they are required to be living in Canada throughout the sponsorship process.

 

[maria_786]

dont worry most indian applicants r getting PR in 2 to 3 months these days! Just submit ur application but dont tell anyone in ur moms family not that they can do anything

 

[canuck78]

Would also make sure you gather documenta

dont worry most indian applicants r getting PR in 2 to 3 months these days! Just submit ur application but dont tell anyone in ur moms family not that they can do anything

Wouldn’t say 2-3 months is normal for any spousal sponsorship. 12 months is the estimate.

 

[kaur2019]

The

Hire an immigration lawyer, they will help you and guide you throughout the whole process. Yes it is pricey, but you will feel more safe and less worried as they will know how to go forward with this situation. Family and friends CAN send letters to cic, but it doesn’t mean what they say will affect it. It’s just safer if you stay protected with an immigration lawyer who knows your situation and can do everything needed to help with your application and to ensure the smoothest process possible. Very sorry you’re dealing with this, I hope it works out for you.

That sure helped a lot, I am in the process of looking into finding a decent immigration lawyer. Thanks!

 

[kaur2019]

Would also make sure you gather documenta


Wouldn’t say 2-3 months is normal for any spousal sponsorship. 12 months is the estimate.

That's what it said on their website as well, 12 months. But I have heard it can be as speedy as 4-5 months. I guess we'll just have to see. Thanks for your comment!

 

[kaur2019]

dont worry most indian applicants r getting PR in 2 to 3 months these days! Just submit ur application but dont tell anyone in ur moms family not that they can do anything

I've cut off any communication with both my mother's and father's side, even family friends I've known since childhood. 2-3 months sounds good to be true but I'll keep you updated if that does happen, thanks for your response!

 

[kaur2019]

Your family can send "poison pen" letters but IRCC generally takes such letters with a grain of salt.

The application asks who attended the wedding, so you will need to provide an explanation about why your parents didn't attend. Give a brief explanation on the form of how they disapproved and tried to cause you problems. You don't need a notarized declaration.

As a Canadian citizen, yes, you can go see your husband. The 2 week recommendation is for Canadian PRs, as they are required to be living in Canada throughout the sponsorship process.

Your comment helped a lot, I did have a conversation with someone about giving a brief explanation as to why my family was not present. I am starting to get that drafted out. And as a Citizen, you were right, I can go back whenever. Thank you so much for your reply!

 

[kaur2019]

Canada is not India, we don't care about drama that occurs in other Countries, as long as all papers are legal and your relationship is genuine then you should be fine. Since you are born and raised here, you should know that parents of newlyweds have no voice here in Canada, not like in India where they have arranged marriages usually planned by parents. Your Mom as no voice, she can't do nothing.

You are absolutely right. I was born into a pretty traditional Punjabi household while being a Canadian by birth. I have read up a lot on my rights lately and feel forever grateful to be born here. As for my mother, she surely has no voice but boy oh boy is she still creating such a big scene.

 

[canuck78]

That's what it said on their website as well, 12 months. But I have heard it can be as speedy as 4-5 months. I guess we'll just have to see. Thanks for your comment!

Given your situation it will likely be closer to 12 months. You met on social media in 2018, married in 2019 so not a very long relationship, your spouse is from a country where there is potential for immigration fraud, not sure how much time you have spent in person but that would also be a negative, etc. 12 months is very normal and nothing to be concerned about. The very quick processing tend to be relationships with US citizens or maybe European citizens with well established relationships like often having lived together for long periods.

 

[kaur2019]

Given your situation it will likely be closer to 12 months. You met on social media in 2018, married in 2019 so not a very long relationship, your spouse is from a country where there is potential for immigration fraud, not sure how much time you have spent in person but that would also be a negative, etc. 12 months is very normal and nothing to be concerned about. The very quick processing tend to be relationships with US citizens or maybe European citizens with well established relationships like often having lived together for long periods.

That sounds very reasonable, I really appreciate you pointing that out. India has had a very bad rep for fraud/contract marriages and I think that is pretty sad for anyone with a genuine marriage, like myself. But I am planning to go back within a few months before I resume post secondary to spend more time together. Thanks for your response!