oh no, i did not mean like that.
In my talk, by desperation, i mean the life and death situation. Sure if he wants to stay in NA, he should be allowed to apply. I was merely trying to say that while NA is nice, there are other nice countries one can consider if they do not get into NA. By the way, my initial statement had nothing alluding to desperation in any form or meaning. I used the word desperation to reply to you because i was trying to distinguish between people who are really interested and people who are on this forum as a second choice and those people who practically have no choice due to wars, etc. Perhaps you could tell me what I said wrong in my first message that pissed him off because I still don't understand what I said wrong.
I will stop now. I did not mean to insult his sensibilities.