Thank you so much for all the help by the way. I already feel like some of the stress is lifting. I was hoping because she was from the US it might make it easier.If you can prove your relationship is genuine, these aren't really red flags, especially from the US, where immigration fraud wouldn't be as high. You've been in a relationship long enough and sounds like you've visited multiple times. Red flags in your case would be more like marrying the first time you meet, or never visiting each other, etc.
Does it look like a red flag if we plan to elope? Because we’re both so broke and because we’ve been waiting years to be together, we were thinking of eloping (with some of my family and friends present) then having an actual celebration or whatever later down the road when we could afford it.