steerpike said:
You dismiss marriage as "just a peice of paper" and then proceed to list a bunch of other peices of paper. I just found that interesting. And they were all related to financial arrangements. As if that is the be all and end all of everything. Traditions do evolve, but its sad to see what they are evolving into.
You even have a "piece of paper" outlining the contract for your pet, but refuse to have one outlining your relationship with each other. Personally, my spouse is more important to me than my pet. But I guess i'm just hopelessly old-fashioned.
Common-law exists because some people were living together for a long time, and then would split-up. Courts felt that in that case one partner (usually the woman) was entitled to some financial compensation, just like in a divorce. Far enough, i suppose. I don't have a problem with that.
But by extending common-law into being a qualification for sponsorship, CIC has moved the meainging of the relationship far beyond the purpose intended by the courts.
What I said was that to me, marriage is a piece of paper. Those other connections mean more to me than marriage. For you, they are simply financial arrangements; for me, they are the combining of our lives. We have no contract for our pet, so I'm a bit confused by what you mean there.
Again, it's only your personal belief that "it's sad to see" what traditions are evolving into. Many of us have no issues with this evolution and actually welcome the changes that fit better with our chosen life.
It's not that we refuse to have a contract outlining our relationship. You need to understand that WE DON'T SEE THE NEED TO HAVE CONTRACT DEFINE OUR RELATIONSHIP.
The definition of common-law was not created because unmarried couples were splitting up. It was created because they were
staying together and wanted the same rights as married people: to share benefits such as medical/dental, life insurance, to have legal rights to their common property if one partner happened to die, to file taxes together, to deal with the legal responsibilities for their children together etc.
CIC hasn't in any way "moved the meaning...beyond the purpose intended by the courts." The courts recognize a common-law relationship as essentially equal to a married relationship, as does CIC.
Really, this is simply a matter of our differing beliefs and views on the world. Luckily, we live in a free country where we are all entitled to our own beliefs and no one person is right or wrong. I respect your belief that marriage is important and fully support you in your choice to be married. However, I expect that you will fully support my choice of a common-law relationship, even if you don't agree with it.