Thanks for starting this thread! I know I leaned on this forum a lot this past year, looking for good news while going through this stressful process! I hope my story can bring a ray of hope to someone!
My story:
It all began in the spring of 2011. A very good friend, set me up on a blind date with his cousin. His cousin had come to Canada a few months prior and made a refugee claim. At the time we met, he didn't know if the decision was a yes or a no, but everyone who knew the story, was positive it was going to be a yes.
One Sunday afternoon, we met at a coffee shop. It sounds super cheesy, but it was love at first sight and we instantly 'clicked.' We talked for hours that day...and every day since. We have so much in common, so much to talk about. But after the first few months of bliss, a dark cloud came over us - the negative refugee decision was made. We were devastated. The future had now become uncertain. And it stayed that way for a long time. We knew by this point that we loved each other, but neither of us wanted to rush our relationship and get married for immigration purposes. So, we waited and just stayed together. I think our relationship became stronger through all this hard time. When he was deported from Canada, we had been together for two years. His leaving was an insanely sad time. A very tearful airport scene.
A month after he left Canada, I, along with my two young children, went to visit him in his country (El Salvador) and meet his parents. This was a pivotal moment because I knew his parents approval of me was highly important to my now husband. I knew they were conservative and might have a problem with me (divorced, children, older than their son). But it went really, really well. I fell in love with his parents and they seem to return the sentiment to both me and my kids. Leaving was again very sad (another tearful airport scene), and we knew this was it, we had to decide - Do we get married or spend our lives apart?
It didn't take long for us both to know that we could not stand to be separated. So, we joyfully decided to get married. As I had the summer off work, we set a wedding date for mid-July. In early July, the children and I, along with my parents went back to El Salvador. We got married on a beautiful evening. It was very sweet. As well as my parents and children, his closest family and friends were there and we had a small dinner after the ceremony. In total, the kids and I spent 6 weeks there, just being together and exploring the country. Leaving again was so hard, but this time, we knew it was only temporary (less tears at the airport)
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As you can see from our timeline, we sent our application in August 2013, about a month after we were married. We had to go through the ARC (Authorization to Return to Canada - to overcome his deportation order), which added extra time to the process. And now, 8 months later from the time Mississauga received our application, we just had our ppr. We sent it and are just waiting for the embassy to mail the passport back to my husband. Once we have that in hand, we will book the plane ticket. We are thinking he will come in early July. That means we have been apart for 10 months. I can't believe we are finally at the end. It's been a long journey, and I can't wait to start our official lives together!
Red flags:
-Husband a failed refugee claimant
-Short time since he left Canada
-I am older by 5 years
-I am divorced with previous children
-First marriage for him, no children
Strengths:
-Both university educated
-Both speak each others language (Spanish/English)
-Same religion
-we plan on having more children
-dating for over two years before married
-Full support of both families
-Know each others friends
-Tons, and tons, and tons of evidence - letters of support; 2 years worth of pictures, text messages, emails; etc
There you have it, our story in a nut shell. I wish each and everyone of you the best of luck possible!