Re: SPOUSAL Sponsorship PAKISTAN @ London Visa Office
I feel for you flx2015. Don't get bogged down with what you read on the forum. The fact that your family did not go to Pakistan for the wedding is NOT a problem if you explained it extremely well. And knowing you, I'm sure you did. People have families that are dispersed around the world and OBVIOUSLY you cannot expect people to attend a wedding by leaving their schedules and lives in an instance. Weddings are held on specific dates, they are not things that go on for months like sales, where you have a large period of time to find some free time and go attend it. Furthermore, weddings are often held with urgency, what if a girls parents are both very sick and want their daughter to get married ASAP, would they wait around for EACH AND EVERY family member to find free time and then make all the arrangements? Of course not!
Main point is this, if your immediate family, parents/siblings attended the event (and even if someone from this category missed and a legitimate reason was behind it), then its fine. Asad A also makes a good point that it depends on the visa office. A lot of people become arrogant when their files are accepted. They think that its because they have something special. I know a girl who went to Pak for ONLY 10 days. She met her future husband 2 days before the Nikah, got married and had the rukhsati same day. NO Mehndi, walima etc. Was her case strong? NO! But she got a good visa officer who did not even ask for additional docs!
And this thing has been in me for a long period of time and I wanted to get it out. Do you know who's fault it is when the visa officers have a sheet of paper telling them what to check when they get a case? Like the wedding ceremonies, dresses, customs? IT'S OUR FAULT. It's the people who have applied before, who are applying now and who will apply in the future. THEY HAVE MADE marriage into a set of steps that must be taken in order for it to be LEGITIMATE. Such as mehndi, bride make up, rukhsati, Quran over head, and so on. This is our fault. When Pakistani people send in their applications, instead of emphasizing things that CANNOT be faked like how you and your spouse feel about each other, what you talk about, what your thoughts are about politics, music, literature, life in general, THESE People emphasize things like "mehndi dance, mehndi cups holding henna, rukhsati, Quran over head, milk in a cup and so on". What do you think the officers will believe is true about this culture when 99% of people do these things in order to make their relationship seem "genuine". And ironically enough, these are the very things that can be faked. How hard is it to get 100 people (actors) to attend a marriage dressed up? Not very hard when your intention is to get to Canada by lying. Hasn't anyone ever seen a bollywood movie? How real does that marriage look in the movies yet we all know they are fake!
Basically my point is this, it is our own fault that we have given these officers a stupid list of cultural things that we do and they think that this list is carved in stone and every relationship should be judged based on it. We are screwing each other over, our own brothers, sisters and Pakistanis.