Sponsorship problem, they started to demand money I feel scammed!

[JustMarried81]

go for a walk.....it helps....I did that 2 years ago when I was in the darkest of days. It helps !!! ;D

Thank you, I think I will.

Have a good night people.

 

[amikety]

Beyond heart break my friend, I didn't eat in a few days or sleep that much. It's 3:30 in the morning and nothing is open. Not like North America that has things open 24/7.

I might go for a walk, still in shock about it all. Imagine you in my shoes. The pain doesn't go away so easily either if it did I could sleep.

The USA does. That's one thing that annoys me about Canada. I'm a night owl and nothing is open, even in a city like Calgary except bars. I don't go to bars......... even freaking Wal-Mart closes. Not that I shop at Wal-Mart, but it's good for an indoor walk in the winter.

 

[sunsun]

In Ontario,few Mc Donald, Tim Horton , Metro , Shoper , Convenience Store open 24 hours

 

[Lv.f]

Beyond heart break my friend, I didn't eat in a few days or sleep that much. It's 3:30 in the morning and nothing is open. Not like North America that has things open 24/7.

I might go for a walk, still in shock about it all. Imagine you in my shoes. The pain doesn't go away so easily either if it did I could sleep.

Fair enough. I didn't mean to sound like a total a**. I just find it interesting that you would find comfort here rather than friends or family. But to each their own!

 

[amikety]

Fair enough. I didn't mean to sound like a total a**. I just find it interesting that you would find comfort here rather than friends or family. But to each their own!

(He's in a foreign country with a significant time difference to his home country.)

 

[moochops]

Can I just point out the obvious here?

His wife has gone all cold and wants to split.

There's no immigration papers filed yet.

So basically there's no issue aside from an unfortunate relationship break up, so no idea where all this talk of tax havens / lucrative online businesses .

I'm sorry your relationship is over i really am, but there's no immigratiom issue here at all?!

 

[scos]

There never was one as the app was never filed.

 

[darwinwap]

Can I just point out the obvious here?

His wife has gone all cold and wants to split.

There's no immigration papers filed yet.

So basically there's no issue aside from an unfortunate relationship break up, so no idea where all this talk of tax havens / lucrative online businesses .

I'm sorry your relationship is over i really am, but there's no immigratiom issue here at all?!

Exactly what I was thinking, I was in the impression he just wants to vent out he doesn't need to move to Canada because he earns more and he comes from a RICH country.

 

[anticipation]

I learned a long time ago to never judge someone unless you walk a mile in their shoes !!!!!

You know what they say:
"Never judge an enemy until you've walked a mile in his shoes...
if he is still your enemy at least he is a mile away and doesn't have any shoes."

Sir Terry Pratchett

 

[butyak01]

just one question:
You said
""Marriage is only for those people who truly love each other and not for those who would just like to try to work out a relationship.""

then why is the divorce rate about 60% in North America ? ???

I grew up in the country where we value marriage and family more than money. Marriage is only for love and it's not just all about the feelings. To truly love a person, there has to be respect and acceptance of each one's weaknesses. It's not just having to get along with the partner because it is not just about the joy the couple experiences but the whole package includes sorrows and trials. I maybe wrong but some don't want to deal with these. Spending so much time at work leads to stress and lack of interest to spend time with love ones can lead to lack of communication. One simple mistake gets complicated and leads to blaming or finding each other faults. The lack of time and lack of communication would eventually cause infidelity. In terms of physical abuse, I believe that childhood causes such behaviors. If we think of it, family background really matters. It matters a lot on how we are brought up by our parents who mold us to what we are now. And remember, family is the basic unit of the society. Nobody is perfect so we don't know how our marriages would end up but to know your partner better is very important. It always takes two to tango they say so when one doesn't want to make a step that's when divorce happens. Divorce has become a disease in North America and blame it in the culture. I do understand those who gets divorce because of infidelity or physical abuse. My country, Philippines, belongs to a 3rd world country but people even without money are happy as long as their family are together. I observed that a high rate of Filipinos who work abroad get separated because they work too much and there's no time left with the family. That is why I believe that time and communication is a very big factor in this matter.

 

[zenn]

There never was one as the app was never filed.

I second scos on this one! Good God! Since when has the applicant become the so called victim?

If this guy knew that his GF was in debt and had such a big problem wiz it then why on earth did he decide to marry her in the first place?! The whole point of getting married is becoming a "couple"- splitting everything from profits to losses; sharing good times and bad!
If all he ever wanted to do was be a slob and work only an hour a day and live off the gov and OPM then why bother marrying someone who lives in the different country?!
Canada treats its citizens very well! From medical to unemployment to everything.. If thats not good enough for you then you're just greedy!!

It's true some people unfortunately have really bad marriages.. and my heart goes out to them and I admire their strength to move on....
In your case 'Justmarried', you're equally responsible for the failure!!

 

[ready_fi_move_on]

wow i find it odd that the applicant is the one complaining of being scammed never seen that one before ..... sorry for you loss buddy but as others have mentioned before its very sad that your relationship is ending...however your beef is with your wife and putting down Canada well i gotta say i take offense to it .... the papers have not been filed so you have nothing to worry about ...... cut your losses and move on

Good luck in life
next time make sure you know someone well enough before you marry them ......if only married for month and you already having so much problems it is clear that you did not take the necessary time to get to know this person you married .......

I hate to sound harsh but the sad fact is you have no one to blame for your situation but yourself

 

[Steph C]

Divorce has become a disease in North America and blame it in the culture. I do understand those who gets divorce because of infidelity or physical abuse. My country, Philippines, belongs to a 3rd world country but people even without money are happy as long as their family are together. I observed that a high rate of Filipinos who work abroad get separated because they work too much and there's no time left with the family. That is why I believe that time and communication is a very big factor in this matter.

I have to disagree.. I see more infidelity tolerated among my Filipino friends then I do my North American friends. Maybe that's because North Americans are allowed to divorce and a lot of Filipinos must tolerate infidelity. Maybe it's because North American women and men are often financially independent of each other. I actually see our culture as healthier for allowing divorce and not living in denial. None of my close friends or family have near the soap opera in their lives as do my Filipino friends, inlaws and neighbours. Maybe I'm an exception but there is no divorce among my Canadian family or friends. Just so you know I'm not religious. The people I am around are honest and forthright, and I believe most Canadians are also honest people who value family.

 

[CanadianJeepGuy]

I have to disagree.. I see more infidelity tolerated among my Filipino friends then I do my North American friends. Maybe that's because North Americans are allowed to divorce and a lot of Filipinos must tolerate infidelity. Maybe it's because North American women and men are often financially independent of each other. I actually see our culture as healthier for allowing divorce and not living in denial. None of my close friends or family have near the soap opera in their lives as do my Filipino friends, inlaws and neighbours. Maybe I'm an exception but there is no divorce among my Canadian family or friends. Just so you know I'm not religious. The people I am around are honest and forthright, and I believe most Canadians are also honest people who value family.

I would agree.

 

[Steph C]

I would agree.

It's such a common misconception that our culture is diseased. I love Filipinos and the culture of course.. but there are some things that just leave me scratching my head. Sure there's things that could be changed about our own culture.. but I actually do like it