Hi to everyone,
i just want to say if you have sponsored spouses from Morocco and it's working out for you,then please tell me how you do it.At the moment i am in hell with my spouse.We met online in 2006,after 3 visits there got married in 2007.i sponsored him in 2008 and it was refused.i appealed and went to ADR,That was a bust,i went to full hearing 2 times and finally won in may of 2010.File went back to Rabat in June and processing resumed in August of 2010.File was finalized in December,they finally called him to pick up his visa in January,he arrived here in the middle of January.
I tell you i was so emotionally drained from fighting with CIC for almost 3 years,but at the same time i was elated,my battle was finally over and my family would be reunited.It has been one of the most difficult year of my life,i am more miserable living with him than i was without him.We fight constantly,everything i say,turns into a fight,and the worst part is,whenever we have a disagreement,he will not talk to me for days,even weeks.he will never discussed anything with me,just silence.everything,he says i am not wrong,you are wrong,he will sleep beside me everyday,but does not even look at me.every single time i have to be the one to say look,we need to talk.if not he will continue to not speak for months if i let him.I knew there would be issues with the culture difference,but i had no idea the extent of the problems i would face.i am so stressed, i am one step away from ending this marriage.He hasn't worked for a long time,it took him 5 months to find a job when he came here,i paid for everything,i buy him clothes,pay for everything in the house,never once did i complain.he finally got a job and now instead of discussing how we will split the bills,he is saving money to buy something else and is telling me that i have to be patient with him,i should continue to pay for everything until he gives me money and i should accept what he gives without saying anything.at first i was like.ok.Christmas came, he doesn't celebrate it but i do,he didn't help to buy food,things were so bad,i had to borrow $100 from my boss.When i asked him about it,he said you used to pay it by yourself,you can do it for a while.even then,i didn't say anything,he comes home,he ate the food that money provided without even knowing where it came from,even then,i was desperately trying not to have a fight with him around the holidays.he hasn't spoken to me since boxing day,i was home all that morning,my neighbor called and said she was going to the mall,i told her to pick me up,this was about 1:30 in the afternoon.i said to him,i will be back soon,he then turned to me and said,i was going to ask you out for lunch,just because he didn't want me to go out,i was home all morning he didn't say anything,so i said to him,why didn't you ask me before,i can't cancel now,she is already waiting outside.He got in a huff,when i came back,he didn't speak to me,not even to look in my direction and not one word since.i am not telling my story to deter anyone here from their love,i am just venting,i am afraid to tell any of my friends,as everybody told me not to continue with application after it was refused,they begged me and i didn't listen,that's why i can't share this with my family or friends.
i am so ashamed,my mother lives in another country and is battling cancer and i forsake her to fight for him,when i should have been trying to bring her here for better cancer treatment which could possibly save her life.i feel so terrible and at my wits end,i don't know how to fix this problem,how to get through to him anymore.This is like the 6 consecutive times that he will not speak to me if there is a disagreement,i don't think i can take it anymore.
Congrat's...Great new's locolynn...hoping 2012 will bring our loved ones home fast 
