so tired of waiting

[sweetstrawberry]

i am so tired of waiting for my hubby and I to reunite, I miss him so much and want him with me . I sent my application since december 2014. why is it taking forever? It hurts so much to be far away from him and especially because i have to stay here because of work and all that. Why is life so tough? Can anyone relate? I really need someone to make me feel better this is so hard.

 

[anam9094]

i am so tired of waiting for my hubby and I to reunite, I miss him so much and want him with me . I sent my application since december 2014. why is it taking forever? It hurts so much to be far away from him and especially because i have to stay here because of work and all that. Why is life so tough? Can anyone relate? I really need someone to make me feel better this is so hard.

Hey sweetstraeberry,
Your not the only one!I am in the same boat as you.I applied in March and it feels forever.I got married in December 2014 and had to leave me husband just after 5 days after the marriage.I have not seen him since.The wait feels forever!!! I cant wait to be with him when he finally comes here Don't worry everything will go fine.Just keep busy and be patience that is what I learned from this whole process Good luck with your application!

 

[ttrajan]

Why don,t you apply visit visa?

 

[bublo ksa]

i am so tired of waiting for my hubby and I to reunite, I miss him so much and want him with me . I sent my application since december 2014. why is it taking forever? It hurts so much to be far away from him and especially because i have to stay here because of work and all that. Why is life so tough? Can anyone relate? I really need someone to make me feel better this is so hard.

Hi Sweetstrawberry.... Yes I agreed with you its very hard to live apart Every single day is like a huge long day without hubby
I am also sick and tired now. How long I have to wait more???? I don't know where his file got stuck. His medical has expired in June
even though I sent an email to know current status but no reply No other option we have except waiting waiting Please CIC, send my hubby to me ASAP and all others to their beloved ones.

 

[Sa3Sa3]

So sad ans so true.

All of us are in the same boat. It is taking them for ever to process our files.

I thought of resigning from my work several times now. I lost all my focus in my work.

It is really very tough !!!

 

[Beaverdiva]

I totally understand how you're feeling.

I feel so isolated sometimes. I've got no-one who really understands how it feels. My friends are lovely and they're very supportive but sometimes they say things like "I don't know how you cope" or "I don't think I could be apart from my husband like this". I don't like to talk to my parents too much about it because I know they're sad that I could be leaving them. I'm in my mid-forties and it's harder when you get to my age to talk about relationship issues with your mum and dad (!).

I have to act normal at work and at home. I haven't told my boss about our plans at this stage in case it all goes wrong and I look like a fool if my hubby returns to the UK if he doesn't get SA (there's no reason for him not to but I don't like to tempt fate). I've got kids and I find it really hard to put on a brave face some days and to pretend that everything's okay. My hubby needs my support because I know there's days when he misses me so much that he feels he can't stay in Canada and I support him and encourage him to stay strong when inside all I want to say is "come back, I need you to hold me".

We've been apart for 2 years - because he had to restore his PR status by returning to Canada in 2013 (long story). Now that his PR is back in good order we've been able to file our application, but it means we have another year to wait until we can be reunited properly.

I know it will be worth it in the end and I do everything I can to stay focused but some days are so difficult.

I find myself feeling jealous of other couples when I see them holding hands or when my friends tell me about their plans and I try to be happy for them but inside I feel envious and then I feel guilty for feeling like that!

I miss my husband so much. He's my world.

They say "a trouble shared is a trouble halved" so keep posting and we'll help each other get through this nightmare.

It WILL be worth it in the end, Good luck

 

[mikeymyke]

Why don,t you apply visit visa?

+1

Surprised no one mentioned this

 

[Sa3Sa3]

Because Visit visa is not possible if you are applying for a PR

Correct?

 

[Canadianinlove]

It is possible but most visitor visa's are denied as you are currently going through the application - personally I would try anyways. the worst thing is they could deny your visitors visa.....BUT what if they say yes!

Because Visit visa is not possible if you are applying for a PR

Correct?

 

[adnarim74]

Hello to all of you
I am in te same position,I haven't see my husband from april last year because he couldent left his job to come here to visit me, I apply last decembar for visitors visa but the VO dident gave me the visa because my sponsorship process, next week I have the interview and I am so scared if anything goes wrong.
I miss my husband so much and yes sometime I feel jelouse for the other couples when I see them together,but anyway one day I hope that this nightmer will be over and we will be together too.

 

[Aquakitty]

Because Visit visa is not possible if you are applying for a PR

Correct?

It's possible, you need to be very, very thorough if you are from a visa-requiring country. Check out this thread: http://www.canadavisa.com/canada-immigration-discussion-board/visitor-visa-grantedwife-of-pr-t273759.0.html

If you've been denied for a visitor visa in the past, look at why they denied you, and fix those issues and apply again.

 

[sweetstrawberry]

What I hate the most is how everything is UNCLEAR like you apply and then its all like a show...a long show where you sit and wait. You know nothing behind doors and if you ask NOBODY answers, why do they have to make it soo complicated.

 

[Aquakitty]

What I hate the most is how everything is UNCLEAR like you apply and then its all like a show...a long show where you sit and wait. You know nothing behind doors and if you ask NOBODY answers, why do they have to make it soo complicated.

Well, you have to remember there are ~196 countries in the world, each with their own languages, customs, papers, etc. Background checking from some countries probably takes a good chunk of time.

 

[sweetstrawberry]

Ya i know, I just miss him alot though

 

[amostpainfulwait]

While it is true that there are many countries and customs and this may cause a variance in the processing times, I believe anything over a year is unreasonable (even for couples having to go through the interview process).

In fact, one of the reasons for the insane processing times in some of the countries is a long backlog of previous applicants. Visa officers are overworked in these countries, having to handle thousands of cases under severe time constraints. Therefore the solution, I believe, lies primarily in allocation of additional resources to CIC's workforce. With more visa officers, there will likely be greater transparency throughout the entire process as well.

With that being said, the greatest way WE can possibly impact the processing times is through appeals for government action. Please see the thread: http://www.canadavisa.com/canada-immigration-discussion-board/letter-to-mp-to-decrease-application-processing-times-and-petition-to-minister-t346748.0.html

Especially with elections around the corner, I encourage those who can, to voice these concerns. Be heard.

In addition to notifying our local MPs, perhaps we can create a social media group where couples who are separated can post their personal & moving stories (Humans of Canada going through Spousal Sponsorship [HOCGTSS]? ). Hopefully these real life stories of the struggles of being apart from our families can become viral enough for the government to take notice...