Re: My story for all those who waited.
Bangkokcanuck said:
Maybe it's not for you. Seriously and I don't mean to be harsh but you started the process because at one point you DID think it was worth it.. or did you only think it was worth it if it was really easy and fast.. in other words if it takes any actual work or waiting on your part you aren't up for that?
You have to look to yourself, why did you apply in the first place and do the reasons that you filed the app still apply? If they do then tough it out once done you will never have to go through it again.
If those reasons no longer apply just pack it in withdraw the application and carry on with your life.
Canada is NOT the cure all to all the world's ills nor is it perfect or even a good fit for everyone. But ONLY YOU can decide what is right for you and your family. Just be honest with yourself, if you have family in Canada as you say ask them honestly are they glad they live there, would they rather be somewhere else??
I started the process after I got married and not because I wanted to its something I had to do. I was born and bred in canada, my whole family is there, friends are there. My career and everything involved was there till i said screw it. my wife is more important to me than anything else and left. I have no other country that I can call mine, than Canada. so it wasn't a choice, it was a compulsion. learn the difference. only choice was; I did choose to fall in love with someone from another country, if that can be considered a choice.
so i do not wish to be harsh, but your diatribe is kinda hmm you know.
2 years plus, just think, if my wife didnt get her visa and lived with me while she waited, 2 years just think if I didnt decide to quit all and live with my wife in bangladesh. what emotional turmoil would we have gone through? heck few of my friends marriages didnt last 2 years. 2 years, what if we werent emotionally strong. 2 damn years, where we were unable to plan, chart our life, didnt change jobs which would have caused me to move (coincidentally singapore)just cause I thought it might affect her application.
big words can be used by you as u didnt wait as long, but i lived through pain and uncertainty for 2 years.
and yes I do have another choice, I am fortunate, I can leave canada without giving a damn, but I do.
so i dont wish to be harsh, but pls .. stop lecturing. my post was to raise a debate, is canada really worth the wait?