Jan 2018 – I got my permanent residency in 2018 (Landing date – 20 Jan 2018). I stayed there for 2 weeks and returned to India. I was at quite a good salary in big US based tech company, and I was still thinking if I want to move or not
Nov 2019 – Feb 2020 – I went again to Canada for 1.5 months looked for a job an even got one, but salary was lower than expected, however, I thought I will get around to stay longer. I went to India, however, COVID-19 struck and my employer in India without even knowing I will resign, gave me promotion and hike. Salary increased further by almost 60% of what I was getting 2018.
I thought I’ll go in Jan 2021 seeing whole situation of COVID-19 in Europe, US/Canada, I thought my salary is good in India and I’ll stay here given my parents who were 69 and 71 years old. I am the only kid who stays with them in India, my sister lives in the UK and my elder brother lives in the US. Please note Canada banned flights March 2020 – July 2020. It opened in Sep 2020 – April 2021 where it again banned the flights (ban is still in place till Sep 2021)
Feb – Mar 2021 – My mother and father got minor surgeries in eyes and planned to get major surgery in April 2021. My parents got first dose of COVID-19 vaccine in March end
April 2021 – I got moderate COVID-19; my mother/father got very mild COVID-19. I showed moderate symptoms and my mother showed very mild fever with father showing very mild throat infection. I got high fever 104.5 and CT Scan showed moderate score.
May – July 2021 – Whole Chennai was in mess, and I started to rethink if money if everything, my anxiety post COVID-19 was so high which increased my blood pressure (150-160/90-110) and god I get mild-to-moderate anxiety and moderate headaches even now (once every 8-12 days) which my doctor thinks mostly due to moderate anxiety. In June and July – I used to go to my Family Physician 2-3 times a week. I got my first dose in first week of July. I became hypochondriac (even smallest symptom seems like to me I may die or something). I feel this stress that I have to stay in India because of my parents (now 71 and 73 years old). I am cursing myself everyday and more I curse, more I feel I should be away from environment even at lower salary, but, in Canada.
August 2021 – I got good offer from Canadian firm whom I have told I’ll join in Oct end (I am currently in 3 months’ Notice period) and they are currently doing background check on me and they have confirmed my start date to Nov 4.
Here is the dilemma now – Leaving ageing parents. I’ll get another cataract surgery for my mum in end of August 2021. They get anxious and emotional even when I start to talk that I want to go outside. My mental health is declining every day. I used to travel a lot to EU/US and now I feel I am stuck here...I feel I have stress as I am caregiver to elderly parents.
Another pressure is to marry, I am 34-year-old single guy and my mum thinks that my life is waste without marriage. This may be cause of my anxiety in addition to Caregiver stress. My siblings are married, have kids and I just want to leave India so that this pressure could be eased out. I stayed in on and off relationships since 2014, I feel I am feeling lonely which I think Canada may able to ease out. I am done with arrange marriage meetings.
Lastly, I feel what all questions I have to go through at PoE by Canada Immigration given I’ll short of RO by close to 7-8 months. This is another thing giving me anxiety. I have searched enough, I think I can show them I’ll stay but having doubts given leaving parents, high paying job to join medium job in Canada. I believe if I stay here my mental health will go to another low...
Guys, please help me out here.....What could I do....I really want to come to Canada
Nov 2019 – Feb 2020 – I went again to Canada for 1.5 months looked for a job an even got one, but salary was lower than expected, however, I thought I will get around to stay longer. I went to India, however, COVID-19 struck and my employer in India without even knowing I will resign, gave me promotion and hike. Salary increased further by almost 60% of what I was getting 2018.
I thought I’ll go in Jan 2021 seeing whole situation of COVID-19 in Europe, US/Canada, I thought my salary is good in India and I’ll stay here given my parents who were 69 and 71 years old. I am the only kid who stays with them in India, my sister lives in the UK and my elder brother lives in the US. Please note Canada banned flights March 2020 – July 2020. It opened in Sep 2020 – April 2021 where it again banned the flights (ban is still in place till Sep 2021)
Feb – Mar 2021 – My mother and father got minor surgeries in eyes and planned to get major surgery in April 2021. My parents got first dose of COVID-19 vaccine in March end
April 2021 – I got moderate COVID-19; my mother/father got very mild COVID-19. I showed moderate symptoms and my mother showed very mild fever with father showing very mild throat infection. I got high fever 104.5 and CT Scan showed moderate score.
May – July 2021 – Whole Chennai was in mess, and I started to rethink if money if everything, my anxiety post COVID-19 was so high which increased my blood pressure (150-160/90-110) and god I get mild-to-moderate anxiety and moderate headaches even now (once every 8-12 days) which my doctor thinks mostly due to moderate anxiety. In June and July – I used to go to my Family Physician 2-3 times a week. I got my first dose in first week of July. I became hypochondriac (even smallest symptom seems like to me I may die or something). I feel this stress that I have to stay in India because of my parents (now 71 and 73 years old). I am cursing myself everyday and more I curse, more I feel I should be away from environment even at lower salary, but, in Canada.
August 2021 – I got good offer from Canadian firm whom I have told I’ll join in Oct end (I am currently in 3 months’ Notice period) and they are currently doing background check on me and they have confirmed my start date to Nov 4.
Here is the dilemma now – Leaving ageing parents. I’ll get another cataract surgery for my mum in end of August 2021. They get anxious and emotional even when I start to talk that I want to go outside. My mental health is declining every day. I used to travel a lot to EU/US and now I feel I am stuck here...I feel I have stress as I am caregiver to elderly parents.
Another pressure is to marry, I am 34-year-old single guy and my mum thinks that my life is waste without marriage. This may be cause of my anxiety in addition to Caregiver stress. My siblings are married, have kids and I just want to leave India so that this pressure could be eased out. I stayed in on and off relationships since 2014, I feel I am feeling lonely which I think Canada may able to ease out. I am done with arrange marriage meetings.
Lastly, I feel what all questions I have to go through at PoE by Canada Immigration given I’ll short of RO by close to 7-8 months. This is another thing giving me anxiety. I have searched enough, I think I can show them I’ll stay but having doubts given leaving parents, high paying job to join medium job in Canada. I believe if I stay here my mental health will go to another low...
Guys, please help me out here.....What could I do....I really want to come to Canada
