hi..dear..Stumpedmom said:
fingers crossed...
No, you didn't necessarily miss it. I made an assumption, that is why I phrased the part about them both being Indian as a question. If he's Indian, as I assume, their age difference is a "red flag", as it is not usual for a younger male to marry an older female in that cultural/ethnic background. Especially given that she has a young child, which means until recently she was involved with someone else. That's why it will be important for them to address why this match is thought to be advantageous to them both, again, leaving aside the obvious benefit of him being able to sponsor her to Canada.Stumpedmom said:
CharlieD10 said:
just try to show that your relation is genuine and explain all the issues. good luck and have a nice and fruitful trip to india.karran said:
May I suggest that you visit at least a couple more times before you get married? This is your first time meeting her, it's only been a few months since you got acquainted. Take your time, build up a really strong relationship by spending time together.karran said:
All the best!shamsia said:Karan, dont you think you need to convince the girl too? Since you said you were going to surprise her with the visit and you are more interested in her. Girls these days have become independent & since she was in a bad relationship before she could be a case of 'once bitten, twice shy'. She's educated too & capable of supporting herself & her son all by yourself. Also, her son would be her priority, so you need to try and get along well with the son too!
I suggest you visit her first, hang around with her & the kid and take it from there. Don't let yourself in for heartbreak. And more importantly, find out how she feels. In India, you just dont marry a person, you marry the family! In case you get married, how are you going to deal with your parents? Do you think its right to make her go through the hassle of convincing them? I suggest you convince your parents first and do not be scared of them.
Just my two cents
cheers/// And look at the positive side, if she says yes later on, and you guys get married sometime next year, you can present a very straightforward case to CHC-ND. You will get through with no hassles. If you do it now, you might be called for an interview and it might be that much more harder to convince the VO that your marriage is genuine. As it is the VO's look at internet relationships with suspicion. Good luck!
