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planning to sponsor my wife..she is 30. and am 22...will there be any probs

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Hello every one... just wanted to know if ther eis any one who expereinced and got visa like me.. i am plannning to sponsor my wife who is 9yrs elder than me... please any sort of tips and advise is recommeded... thanks ..
 
Age is not a huge factor. What is a huge factor is how well you can prove that your marriage is bona fide, or genuine. Make sure you outline your relationship start to now, with proof, (pics, bording passes from travel, money transfer receipts, phone bills and stuff like that)

That should be the focus not the age difference....

If you have a long strong relationship, then there is not as much concern with the ages...
 
Stumpedmom said:
Age is not a huge factor. What is a huge factor is how well you can prove that your marriage is bona fide, or genuine. Make sure you outline your relationship start to now, with proof, (pics, bording passes from travel, money transfer receipts, phone bills and stuff like that)

That should be the focus not the age difference....

If you have a long strong relationship, then there is not as much concern with the ages...
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hi..dear..
i just met her in chat on june and am planning to go to india next month to surprise her.. and marry her....she is single mom with18mths old kid-I skype with her and i really like her so much.yah i am collecting emails.. i will be going to meet her ..i hope it works..:) fingers crossed...
 
Well when you go India, why don't you meet her, spend time with her and her child, and then come home. Once you have met a few times or 'dated' online for a while, then I would recommend getting married. Do either of your families know about the relationship?? Is your family going to be able to attend the wedding ceremony?? Are you going to go through with a traditional Indian wedding??

You need to convince the officer that the relationship is genuine, and it may be hard to prove if you met her online in June, and then went to visit 3-4 months later and got married, especially is there is a child from a previous relationship...if no one from either family knows about the relationship, and do not attend the wedding, that may cause issues. Going through the traditional ceremony may help with proving the relationship...

JMO...but maybe someone can throw their thoughts into this...
 
You met her online in June 2011? As in, 3 months ago? And you're both Indian and she has a child from a previous marriage/relationship and is older than you are? Then yes, you will have issues to be addressed on your application.

If this is a "love match", you will need to show why you are willing to circumvent your cultural/ethnic traditions and marry an older woman with a "past" so quickly into the relationship. If this is an arranged match, then you will need to show why you and your family think she is a suitable match for you and why her family is willing to accept you (aside from the fact that you can sponsor her to Canada!). Address all the ways you are compatible (ethnicity, goals, education?, religion) and say how those things overcome your perceived incompatibilities.

Ordinarily, an age difference of 8 years is not an insurmountable obstacle. In the OP's case, it is definitely not a cultural norm and has to be addressed if he plans to marry and sponsor her.
 
Did I miss the fact that OP is Indian??

I completely agree whether the OP is an Indian PR here, or not, it is going way against the culture, for her to marry him too....
 
Stumpedmom said:
Did I miss the fact that OP is Indian??

I completely agree whether the OP is an Indian PR here, or not, it is going way against the culture, for her to marry him too....
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No, you didn't necessarily miss it. I made an assumption, that is why I phrased the part about them both being Indian as a question. If he's Indian, as I assume, their age difference is a "red flag", as it is not usual for a younger male to marry an older female in that cultural/ethnic background. Especially given that she has a young child, which means until recently she was involved with someone else. That's why it will be important for them to address why this match is thought to be advantageous to them both, again, leaving aside the obvious benefit of him being able to sponsor her to Canada.
 
CharlieD10 said:
No, you didn't necessarily miss it. I made an assumption, that is why I phrased the part about them both being Indian as a question. If he's Indian, as I assume, their age difference is a "red flag", as it is not usual for a younger male to marry an older female in that cultural/ethnic background. Especially given that she has a young child, which means until recently she was involved with someone else. That's why it will be important for them to address why this match is thought to be advantageous to them both, again, leaving aside the obvious benefit of him being able to sponsor her to Canada.
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I am going to india this 1st week of oct. We both are northeastern people living in india. I want to visit more and bring her here because recently there was an earthquake and i am the one who is more interested in her.Her past relation she was about to get married but that guy dumped her..anyways...Her parents had accepted but i am scared to tell my parents.. I dont know what there reaction will be.They dont know about it but i am mature enough to decide on my own.She is an eduacated MBA graduate. I think i will have a small ceremony with her parents and just keep records of our communication..i dont want to wait any longer...........u guys wrote very well.. i know it will be vital question that why i have to choose her.. the main thing also is she is in same religous and caste..And i dont care about her past.she is really genuine...anyways keep posting what ever u guys think.. am leaving to india on 10th oct.... for three weeks.. she doesnt know i am coming...
 
karran said:
I am going to india this 1st week of oct. We both are northeastern people living in india. I want to visit more and bring her here because recently there was an earthquake and i am the one who is more interested in her.Her past relation she was about to get married but that guy dumped her..anyways...Her parents had accepted but i am scared to tell my parents.. I dont know what there reaction will be.They dont know about it but i am mature enough to decide on my own.She is an eduacated MBA graduate. I think i will have a small ceremony with her parents and just keep records of our communication..i dont want to wait any longer...........u guys wrote very well.. i know it will be vital question that why i have to choose her.. the main thing also is she is in same religous and caste..And i dont care about her past.she is really genuine...anyways keep posting what ever u guys think.. am leaving to india on 10th oct.... for three weeks.. she doesnt know i am coming...
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just try to show that your relation is genuine and explain all the issues. good luck and have a nice and fruitful trip to india.
 
karran said:
I am going to india this 1st week of oct. We both are northeastern people living in india. I want to visit more and bring her here because recently there was an earthquake and i am the one who is more interested in her.Her past relation she was about to get married but that guy dumped her..anyways...Her parents had accepted but i am scared to tell my parents.. I dont know what there reaction will be.They dont know about it but i am mature enough to decide on my own.She is an eduacated MBA graduate. I think i will have a small ceremony with her parents and just keep records of our communication..i dont want to wait any longer...........u guys wrote very well.. i know it will be vital question that why i have to choose her.. the main thing also is she is in same religous and caste..And i dont care about her past.she is really genuine...anyways keep posting what ever u guys think.. am leaving to india on 10th oct.... for three weeks.. she doesnt know i am coming...
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May I suggest that you visit at least a couple more times before you get married? This is your first time meeting her, it's only been a few months since you got acquainted. Take your time, build up a really strong relationship by spending time together.

As for your parents, it's even more important for you to think about why they might oppose the relationship and how you will overcome their objections, especially if you plan to bring your new spouse to live with your family. She's well-educated, you are of the same caste and religious background, these are all great points in your favour. Still, your parents might have some objections about her age and her past. How are you going to overcome those objections? Start thinking about that now, because those are the same objections CIC is going to ask you about.

Have a great trip, enjoy meeting your new love, but don't make any final decisions too quickly. Just my advice, from someone who met her spouse online too.
 
Karan, dont you think you need to convince the girl too? Since you said you were going to surprise her with the visit and you are more interested in her. Girls these days have become independent & since she was in a bad relationship before she could be a case of 'once bitten, twice shy'. She's educated too & capable of supporting herself & her son all by herself. Also, her son would be her priority, so you need to try and get along well with the son too!

I suggest you visit her first, hang around with her & the kid and take it from there. Don't let yourself in for heartbreak. And more importantly, find out how she feels. In India, you just dont marry a person, you marry the family! In case you get married, how are you going to deal with your parents? Do you think its right to make her go through the hassle of convincing them? I suggest you convince your parents first and do not be scared of them.

Just my two cents :) All the best!
 
shamsia said:
Karan, dont you think you need to convince the girl too? Since you said you were going to surprise her with the visit and you are more interested in her. Girls these days have become independent & since she was in a bad relationship before she could be a case of 'once bitten, twice shy'. She's educated too & capable of supporting herself & her son all by yourself. Also, her son would be her priority, so you need to try and get along well with the son too!

I suggest you visit her first, hang around with her & the kid and take it from there. Don't let yourself in for heartbreak. And more importantly, find out how she feels. In India, you just dont marry a person, you marry the family! In case you get married, how are you going to deal with your parents? Do you think its right to make her go through the hassle of convincing them? I suggest you convince your parents first and do not be scared of them.

Just my two cents :) All the best!
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shamsia : yah i think u r right.!! i am just in deep thought..I think i should just visit her and her family this oct... and..give her some time to think and also get to know eachother... and then may be go in winter..dec or jan if she agrees...ITs good also i will get to know her personally...Hmm... i think its better for both of us...
i also have to convice my parents.. I understand them how they feel ..But i think they'll love her..Well...i hope things works out between us .Thanks guys.... Take care.. and wish me all the best.I will keep posted about my trip...:) cheers///
 
You sound like a nice guy. I hope it works out for you :) And look at the positive side, if she says yes later on, and you guys get married sometime next year, you can present a very straightforward case to CHC-ND. You will get through with no hassles. If you do it now, you might be called for an interview and it might be that much more harder to convince the VO that your marriage is genuine. As it is the VO's look at internet relationships with suspicion.

Have a great trip & do keep us posted :) Good luck!
 
hi !! u know i was thinking... my mind changes all the time... i was thinking okay to get married this oct.... and don't claim she has a child...as her child is anyways taken care of her parents.and after she comes here then after some time.. as things get settled she can sponsor her kid and just give some reason why she didn't claim it.. is it possible...
 
Very bad idea. It's called misrepresentation she could get deported even after she has PR. If she has a kid she has to tell it to immigration or else she will never be able to sponsor the kid.
 
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