Unfortunately is not fair, and no system is perfect.
I am lucky to have been born in Canada, but my mother met a guy when she was visiting me once time and they started seeing eachother. She went back to our home country and he wanted to persue the relatinship, so this guy, who played the nice guy, even went to my home country to visit, meet the family, etc. He proposed to my mom, and then when my mom and sisters got here, he became abusing, and my mom was terrified of leaving him because he kept saying how he was going to call immigration to tell them she was a fraud, and that they would send her back.
She endured it for 1.5 years, and finally made the choice to leave him, but she has gone through hell and back with both the government and this guy. A lot of people didnt believe her because she didnt have "visible" wounds, and to have a law saying she would have to stay no matter what makes us both sick. I know they say that if the relationship is abusive they would make an exception, but how do you prove that when is verbal, emotional and financial abuse. There are many ways to be abusive and controlling, and is hard to say that theyll be able to control all cases.
On the same token I am sick about all the fake marriages.
I am now married and sponsoring my husband who I met almost 4 years ago, and the process is extremely difficult, long, confusing, but worthwhile because I am going to spend the rest of my life with the person I love, and for people to mess with that makes me furious.
I just hope the government gets it right, and doesn't ignore the people for the economy.
