Just an interesting thought on Jamaican men, based on my experience living in Jamaica, and perhaps some of you ladies who've lived there can identify this.
The men who flock to tourist areas are often there searching for a farrin woman, and I know a ton of men who won't be seen in certian areas on say " cruise ship days" because they don't want the stero type cast at them. Not everyone you will meet in a tourist area will be the hustling type, but your chances are pretty good. I've learned that those kind of men, which are often the reason that we have to go to so much trouble to sponser our husbands, make up about ten percent of the male population in Jamaica. Now in perspective to the nasty stereo types, ten percent is not a lot and they certianly do not reflect the majority of the population. When my husband drops me off at the airport when I fly back for a week here and there...he always tells me it makes him feel emmbarressed and humiliated even though he knows he shouldn't have to feel that way and generally doesnt worry about what others think. He feels like everyone looks at us and thinks...ahh yes...another one of those and he gets angry that he has to always put up with the sterotypes and stares because some silly little boys used women to the point where real marriages like ours are put in a nasty spotlight!
Now out of the rest of that population you have to sort through, like any where in the world, and you have men who believe its ok to have a wife you love, and still " flirt" with other women. But you have a lot of really good men, who will settle down for a good woman. Jamaica stereotypes are a pile of crap if you are looking for a good man and not just a silly hustler whose looking for you. I think the signs are all there if a women really looks in their gut...but alot of woman don't want to face of acknowledge that..and they let themselves get wrapped up in a dream until they actually believe that dream is real!!
With my husband, we met online, and had a long friendship before dating. I feel blessed to have found a man who my mother says is " better than any man you could have found here in Canada or anywhere else in the world" and has been adopted fully into my family.My parents call him their beloved fifth son lol!! Sometimes being married to a Jamaican all us ladies face some nasty stereo types...island fever and what not. But props to all you ladies that realize there are some really wonderful men in Jamaica, and we were blessed enough to find them amidst the horror stories!! Glasses up to our good men ladies!! And God speed to Kingston LOL!!
