rambopg said:
I am sorry to say this but NDVO is not keeping you apart from your spouses. They have no right to keep you apart. We ourselves are. It is my decision or your spouses decision that their career or job is more important than being with the spouse. The Canadian spouse might as well take un-paid leave from his/her career and spend some time in India.
Fiza is right. We cannot just leave everything behind that we earned after hard work.
I believe there two major factors that force person to stay away from loved one:
1. Career :
Regarding un-paid leave, people who works in retail or food or general labor industry, has very minimum impact on losing job. You quit one, then find other next day. it does not affect your career. I have friend who drives truck. he goes to India on vacation for 2-3 months every year and he is not even married because, again, you drive truck today with one person, next day with other. My other friend got married in India and she used to work in grocery store. she quit job and went to India for 4 months. when she came back, she got job in gas station.
I am Mechanical Engineer. The maximum leave i can get is 2 or 3 weeks. If you want more, you have to give very strong season (separation from loved one does not count). if i quite my job and live in India for 4-5 months, i have huge gap in my resume. it is going to take me long time to get new job when i come back. it will be huge financial and career blow , which is something i can't afford. This brings me to second factor:
2. Money :
Some has it, some don't, some has just enough, some has shit lot of it.
i would say mostly immigrants families make their kids get married in India. Some of those immigrant families are already well settled here in Canada and has tons or more than enough money. You will never see applicants belonging to that kind families come here and cry about how they are separated from there loved one. They can take as many "un-paid" vacation they want. Going away on long vacation make no financial impact on family. Then there are other immigrant families who work as team so that they can settle down in Canada. Its not like they don't money, they do, but having one person going on long vacation will have financial impact.
I think i am just stretching this too much. the main point is we all have different lives and responsibilities. if you can do something, probably i can't and vice versa. Some of us are forced to make this choice. I know i married someone in India, but that does not mean i have to mess up my whole future planning.