Kingston,Jamaica

[lonely_cdnwife]

Good morning everyone. Hail to what O&O said... no two files are alike.

I was awoken this morning around 4am to a distraught husband who was asking me to pray with him (my husband is not normally a Godly man). He fears he cannot handle this long drawn out process and definitely cannot handle being apart from me. It's so odd how I have been the one begging for his affection and desires to whine with me about how long this process is (silently, not necessarily to him), and now that he has broken, I immediately find myself in a place that I didn't think I would be. I have become the rock. I am now the one assuring him that this is all on God's plan and that he is not meant to be here before his time. That another month has passed? That's great news! It means we are another month closer to being together. He does not see it this way, just as I had not in the past.

The immigration process has broken my husband emotionally. I don't think that it could be any better than me already having a trip planned to see him in a few days. We definitely need this time together...


As well... WELCOME BACK KADI!!!!! *BIG HUG*

Good morning Fam Jam,

Congrats to COG, Wifey, and LDL on your progress! I have been lurking for the past few weeks but i am around, still waiting for Chickie's and DG's PPR

Nini I think this is a true quality of a relationship that will last. It is normal that as individuals we will have our moments of weakness (which may come more frequently due to CIC) but to have a partner in life that is able to strengthen you during these times is invaluable. So many times during this process I would call my husband crying feeling discouraged and he is always there to remind me to be patient and we are one day closer, and likewise when he was upset something would switch inside of me and all the sudden i was convincing him that we were almost finished and remain positive.

I'm glad that you have a trip planned soon, because once you are back in his arms everything will be ok again

Keep the faith hun you're almost there <3

 

[CanadianWifey89]

@ CW - cheer up and think happy thoughts....sunshine, beach, warmth, hubby's kisses, cute puppies, etc. (whatever makes you smile). We all have those craptacular days bc of this process and so many other reasons, but need to remember that there are better days ahead.

We all have or had one of these days before hoping you have a great day. Maybe hubby will give u something to smile and laugh about. We're here for you like always.

Thank you all - we definitely all have these days! Thanks for being here JamFam!

 

[Ninirae]

Aww Nini I'm sorry to read that your hubby has broken down thankfully your his rock at this time. One of you always has to be the one to lift spirits when their low. Hopefully this trip will brighten him up for a bit. Did u get the seat sale that was going on? This process is a test on patience and our marriage the strong get through and the the weak will break apart if they can't hold up the walls. Praying for you both enjoy your time together it's well needed you deserve it.

Girl, let me tell you and brag to the forum... I am going to JA for $429 return (taxes incl)!!! Woohoo! lol

 

[CanadianWifey89]

Girl, let me tell you and brag to the forum... I am going to JA for $429 return (taxes incl)!!! Woohoo! lol

That's amazing!! Who are you flying with?!?

 

[Ninirae]

Morning JamFam!

I must say..I'm having a craptacular morning...just feeling super down + I don't even think it's the immigration process (hell...I've just started!).

Anyway - hope all is well everyone

Awww!!! :'( CW89, you okay girl? We all have our down days. And remember, it's not the process that depresses us, it's not being able to be with our spouse that makes it so hard! Love you bad! :-*

 

[CanadianWifey89]

Awww!!! :'( CW89, you okay girl? We all have our down days. And remember, it's not the process that depresses us, it's not being able to be with our spouse that makes it so hard! Love you bad! :-*

That's so true - I feel horribly because at times..it gets me down and I literally am a crabby patty...get upset for the slightest thing! Anyone that knows me, knows I rarely get upset/bothered...so this is something new for me.

You would think that after 4+ years long distance..I can wait a bit more eh....

Ps, love yuh like cook food! :-*

 

[Ninirae]

That's amazing!! Who are you flying with?!?

I'm flying with WestJet. I could have gone direct BOTH ways, but my crazy work took FOREVER to approve the time off, so on my way there, I have to take a connecting flight (through YUL), but I am still arriving in MBJ around 3:30pm (not too bad). On my way back, I am flying direct (MBJ-YYZ) thank goodness!

 

[Ninirae]

That's so true - I feel horribly because at times..it gets me down and I literally am a crabby patty...get upset for the slightest thing! Anyone that knows me, knows I rarely get upset/bothered...so this is something new for me.

You would think that after 4+ years long distance..I can wait a bit more eh....

Ps, love yuh like cook food! :-*

It's funny because I've had a couple of people who recently married long distance and said to me "It will get easier, right? Now that we're married, it's easier." I didn't even hesitate... "Nope! It's harder. And it will NOT get easier. Do not fool yourselves." When my hubby and I were just dating, the LD thing was hard, but not so bad. But now it's your other half. It's like you're missing a piece of you.

 

[CanadianWifey89]

It's funny because I've had a couple of people who recently married long distance and said to me "It will get easier, right? Now that we're married, it's easier." I didn't even hesitate... "Nope! It's harder. And it will NOT get easier. Do not fool yourselves." When my hubby and I were just dating, the LD thing was hard, but not so bad. But now it's your other half. It's like you're missing a piece of you.

Agreed completely - definitely harder now than ever before. I knew it would be...but dang!

I'm flying with WestJet. I could have gone direct BOTH ways, but my crazy work took FOREVER to approve the time off, so on my way there, I have to take a connecting flight (through YUL), but I am still arriving in MBJ around 3:30pm (not too bad). On my way back, I am flying direct (MBJ-YYZ) thank goodness!

Awesome!! I've never flown to MBJ, only KGN. Right now the flights direct w/ Caribbean airlines is $550. I might do one way fly Jamaica airways and return with Caribbean Airlines.

 

[Ninirae]

Awesome!! I've never flown to MBJ, only KGN. Right now the flights direct w/ Caribbean airlines is $550. I might do one way fly Jamaica airways and return with Caribbean Airlines.

It's funny, I'm the opposite. Never flown into KNG! Whatever works out the cheapest, go for it girl! I'm also flying from Tuesday-Tuesday. I find mid-week flights are cheaper.

 

[lovindahubby]

Let me tell you all something. This process is bitter sweet. Nini we almost have the same problem. My husband as come to the point that he has given up hope. The whole journey I called a test. This processing test you to see how strong your marriage is. The reason why immigration especially kingston takes so long is because " they claim the jamaicans are the ones who are coming here and do drugs, marriage fraud etc" sad but its not only jamaicans who come here and ruin the country! (A little birdie told me, they spoke with a member who works there) so that's how they look at jamaica,and now the good have to suffer for the bad.
Nini a famaily that pray together, sticks together. I just keep telling hubby, you will be here soon, I guarantee, just trust me.. No longer than this year.. You will be here.. We cried sometimes, pray, smile, everything just to make us forget about this sometimes. I don't think these VO every went through these long process like we do, or even if they, I dnt think its long.
So everyone need not to worry.. Yall need to pray.. Prayer helps.. It heals and it sure do wonders.!
Faith moves moutain!

 

[CanadianWifey89]

Let me tell you all something. This process is bitter sweet. Nini we almost have the same problem. My husband as come to the point that he has given up hope. The whole journey I called a test. This processing test you to see how strong your marriage is. The reason why immigration especially kingston takes so long is because " they claim the jamaicans are the ones who are coming here and do drugs, marriage fraud etc" sad but its not only jamaicans who come here and ruin the country! (A little birdie told me, they spoke with a member who works there) so that's how they look at jamaica,and now the good have to suffer for the bad.
Nini a famaily that pray together, sticks together. I just keep telling hubby, you will be here soon, I guarantee, just trust me.. No longer than this year.. You will be here.. We cried sometimes, pray, smile, everything just to make us forget about this sometimes. I don't think these VO every went through these long process like we do, or even if they, I dnt think its long.
So everyone need not to worry.. Yall need to pray.. Prayer helps.. It heals and it sure do wonders.!
Faith moves moutain!

You are so right! Prayer really does do wonders! Thanks for the reminder

 

[Leshatesha]

Medical

Just so that I am clear, hubby and I are having a disagreement. Do I need to send the medical with the application or when they need the mediacal they will request it?

 

[lovindahubby]

Re: Medical

Just so that I am clear, hubby and I are having a disagreement. Do I need to send the medical with the application or when they need the mediacal they will request it?

Send everything with the application. Because they will say the application is incomplete. So its best for you to send it with the application.. It may also delay the processing of your file.
A next forum member can help though, I could be wrong..
Hope this helps.

 

[CanadianWifey89]

Re: Medical

Send everything with the application. Because they will say the application is incomplete. So its best for you to send it with the application.. It may also delay the processing of your file.
A next forum member can help though, I could be wrong..
Hope this helps.

Agreed - it should be sent with the application. I've seen other folks get their applications returned from Mississauga because the medical wasn't included in the application therefore it was deemed incomplete.