[quote I am getting more anxious as Maddant's pending interview date draws closer. I know in my heart that this process will come to an end soon. I won't be able to spend his birthday with him. Also, will probably not spend our second anniversary together either. Sad But somehow, maybe I will get to go back to Jamaica one more time? Depends on timing and whatever situation comes first.
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This post is now old news but I think the fears/suspense still lingers.. I hope what I am about to say will in no way serve to offend. I am not very good at being politically correct and always hope individuals focus on the message rather than the delivery. Maddant I am especially speaking to you and your wife in this post. I see that you have already faced the big fearsome Immigration Officer. You were called to answer some questions which were perhaps aimed at bringing clarification to the mind of someone with many doubts and questions about the validity of your marriage. You answered truthfully and stated that at times you just did not know the answers.. good for you. Who really know their partner inside out, especially in the early stages of marriage. Some of the questions were straightforward, others meant to rattle you a bit. My position is this, how can an IO really know what is in the heart of someone. There are experts who decide they will marry someone for one purpose- to immigrate, such an individual is charming and will use every resource at his or her fingertip to sweep the unsuspecting sponsor off their feet.. and in the end this person has no love for the person bringing them to Canada.. yet they get in cause a IO is tricked by a charming stranger.. if they can be tricked what can you say about the person left with his or her heart broken
Then there is someone like Maddant who may not have the opportunty to impress his wife with gifts or trips that becomes suspect... You may be sincere and love your wife maddant but it is those scammers who cause you to pay with the wait and the fifty questions. Please know that the age difference does not matter if you are ok with it. It does not matter how different your culture is if you are prepared to work through it.
At the end of the day only you maddant know the answer to how you feel about your wife. The io really could not care less, she is placed there to make it difficult for individuals to come to paradise.. or so we are made to feel that we live in paradise. When you are alone Maddant and you are left alone with your thoughts, you know what you say to yourself about the person you married.. Only you know and hopefully as time goes by you wife can say with certainty, my husband is sincere about his feelings for me, so this makes two persons in the world plus the creator who can read the heart.
I wanted to address what your wife said in a recent post.. she briefly talked about some injustices done to her mother. This is the hypocrisy in society.. I dont know if she had gone in detail in past post on her mothers situation but I assumed she is referring to the way the canadian government had taken the first nation children away from their homes and family and brought them to live in "religious" schools where they were abused. This is rather ironic how years later you are told that they wont let your husband come if he is not sincere.. Isnt that your lesson to learn, your problem to resolve.. No one can really say whose love is real or not, after all love is a selfish thing.. we all want something from the other person we are committed to... seek in one way or the other to take it for our self and so on. Some women marry here in Canada for money, who is questioning their motives? The thing is by the time the wedding takes place and the process has begun, it is too late to be wondering if you are being used.. horse done run through the station. If I am going to advice someone about marrying and sponsoring a foreigner, I would warn them at the beginning, before the vows are taken. After this point, it is no longer my business if they did the right thing or not.
Maddant, the fact that they returned the passport does not really say much, since at the end of the day if Jah wish for both of you to be together to carry out his plan then IO or not, you will be here with your Canadian- "true Canadian" wife. So blessing to you both. If for any reason they say no, know that they cant deny you forever, and though the process would be long and hard, if you are both committed to each other you will be in each others arms no matter what. This time apart today allows you to reflect and grow to understand each other. When I post I know individual may get the impression I am not happy in my own circumstances but this isnt so. I am just letting some folks realize that love in all its forms require work, patience, much understanding and if things dont work out for everyone, Jah never promised us fairytale endings but gives us lessons to inspire the various chapters of our lives.
