Kingston,Jamaica

[oneandonly]

Of course you can find cheap barrels on kjiji if your on a buget. That's a great idea to send it down.

 

[Maddants]

Thank you for your kind words, fromadistance. :-*

I'll let you in on a little secret, I'm not always positive; this process can really get me down, especially being in it for as long as I have been. I have gone through a roller coaster of emotions these last 16 months and I couldn't have gotten this far without this forum and the amazing people that have helped carry me through. I give so much thanks to the 'old school girls' - CharlieD, Chickie, Daddysgirl, Halfmoon, Ready, Jamgirl, FirstLadyKing, Blondie, Cee, etc. (And of course, our brother Maddants!) They were always there for support and guidance, it seemed someone was always around at any time of day or night. I learned so much about this cRaZy process through them! And then there's frankfield who always seems to post something on this thread whenever I'm at my absolute lowest and speaks straight to my heart. She's my forum angel.

I don't discuss the process with a lot of my friends and family because they can't relate to me the way people on this forum can. (I guess that's why I spend so much time here!) My friends and family are wonderful and always ask how things are going and where things are at but I don't go into great detail because it's exhausting to try and explain it.

It's amazing how supportive people are and how signs appear out of the blue when I think I can't take it anymore. A few examples:

- one day I went to the mailbox and there was a card from my aunt and the Reverend of her church. They dedicated a mass offering for the intention of my husband coming to Canada. It truly is one of the most beautiful gifts I have ever received and I balled like a baby. I cried a river that night and I felt so refreshed after I let it all out. It gives me so much hope to carry on when I know I have an entire congregation of people praying for me and my hubby.

- another day when things weren't going so great, a friend of mine showed up out of the blue and gave me the Angel of Hope from the Willow Tree collection. I cried my eyes out knowing someone was thinking of me and what I was going through without my knowledge.

- a colleague knocked on my office door one day and told me she had something to give me because she was thinking of me and my husband. It was a beautiful orchid! I know you probably won't believe this, but I started crying! This woman has never seen my wedding pictures and the orchid was identical to the one I wore in my hair on our wedding day!

- one day last week I was really down and I shed a few tears in my office (I cry a lot, don't I?). I swear I live and breathe this process! I decided to go out for lunch and get myself together. When I got back to my office there was a card on the floor. It was from one of the women in my office that I have very little interaction with. (She certifies all of the paperwork I send to JA and she also prompted me to contact my mp earlier this year). The card spoke about hoping, dreaming, and believing. Inside she wrote a beautiful message of how she added my husband and I to her prayers. Guess what? I cried again!!!

I have also been very frustrated and angry through this process. I am ALWAYS happy for someone when they get through but I'm not going to lie, it hurts like heck when someone gets through that applied after me. I get angry at the process, not the person. It would be so much easier if our visa offices communicated with us quarterly, updated e-cas, or added valuable information to our GCMS notes. I think we can all agree that it's the not knowing that is so painful.

So my girl, the point I'm trying to make in my essay ( ) is this process is hard on all of us and it's not always easy to stay positive. We need to surround ourselves with people who know what we're going through and this forum is a great place to be! Anytime you need someone, you make your way over to the Kingston thread and there will most likely be someone around to support you. You are going through so much more than this process. You just had a baby a few months ago and your mom recently passed away. Most people go through these major life experiences with their spouse by their side. You are a strong woman and you are getting through this one step at a time. Please email me or pm me whenever you need a shoulder and I promise I will be here for you.

There are so many amazing people on this thread: Daddysgirl, Chickie, Carm, O&O, Sammy, Sam, ChildofGod, danielle, tamarindball and everyone else that pops in from time to time! We are all blessed to have each other. Together we are strong and we are making it through this one day at a time!

hey there sis......i just finish reading your post. you are a angel sent to this forum from God to let us know that we are not in this process alone. your story is very inspiring for the all of us who read your post and if it wasnt then oh well. life is not set of for everyone to be ontop. you have to drop down to realize what is really going on. so for you sis, you will always be in my heart and everyone else on the forum. i pray everyday before i eat my food and give God thank for letting me see another day and bless everyone on the forum, help them get thru these rough times that we are facing. things like that i pray to God about........you will always be my sis from another mother

 

[Maddants]

Thanks hun. Someone else once told me and I forgot

Btw I forgot to say Happy Anniversary yesterday.

hey sis if you can, try and get the plastic barrel because before you leave you can sell it if you dont need it anymore.....ppl out here use the for drum to catch wata inna

 

[sammystorm19]

hey sis if you can, try and get the plastic barrel because before you leave you can sell it if you dont need it anymore.....ppl out here use the for drum to catch wata inna

That's what I was thinking. We can even use it at my husbands place for the addition he's building for us.

 

[frankfield]

Nev,

I believe you have really done a great job in keeping it real.. and poured out your heart about the struggles you face as you go through this journey. Time is so precious, it is the fuel that drives us to our destiny. Trust it, for it will one day carry you through doors filled with joy and peace. As you are prepared to open the gifts that await, may your courage and patience be renewed. Have a blessed day.

 

[Who God Bless]

Hi everyone, it has been a whirlwind, i am in JA, returning in 2 weeks with hubby, dont have a computer, but visiting a friend who's son lent me his laptop, see the time, lol, only time i can tear him away from it. Anyhoo, Ms Neveah, listen to me, your time is coming real soon, believe that, use us as your yardstick! 23 long long months and it does not matter now, all that matters is we are together. Hold strong. It will happen, soon too, you are right near the end of the journey, and this is the time your patience will wear thin, at the end i remember saying to God, i give up, i just cant stress no more, and couple weeks after that we got called for the PP, so throw it to God or the higher power that you believe in.

Chickie72, Maddants and all the early 2012 still waiting, just be strong and hold on, it will happen for you! Take care folks and the good thing is the forum family is here for you to strengthen you when you feel weak.

Will give you my landing story in 2. something weeks. as i wont have access to a computer after this, we are heading to the hills of St Mary, this morning, Lord, coconut water and jerk chicken is all i have been living on. and not to mention the tastee patties

 

[Kadi27]

Good Morning Forum Fam;

Have a superific day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

KGN Come on; I need to get my green crayon going

Everyone in JA; enjoy enjoy, enjoy ;D

 

[tamarindball]

LOL. That's ok Miss Nev. I know you can't name everyone and I don't post all t he time but I do try to catch up most time. I just really wish that TODAY IS YOUR DAY !!! You're one of those persons that if I were to ever get thru before you, I'd be inclined to feel really bad and if it were ever possible to make a query I would on your behalf!!! The question I'd be asking is "How come?" But we know in everything God knows best as right now he's pruning you for greater joy ahead. Keep the prayers going as he's hearing you.

*smacks forehead*

How could I have forgotten the lovely tamarindball in my original post? I went back and snuck your name in there! That's the problem when you start listing everyone by 'name' someone is left out by mistake! :-*

Thank you for your beautiful words.

 

[chickie72]

Good morning everyone. Glad that I have a corner office where not too many people walk by as I am sitting here bawling my eyes out reading your post Nev! And all the posts of everyone after that. You hit the nail on the head of all our feelings here, we love our family and friends but they truly can't relate to what we are going thru and really how do we answer them when they all ask "when is your hubby coming home? Any news yet on your hubby?" We can't answer what we don't know either.
This process is long and hard and I agree that we don't hate the person that gets thru before us but we do hate the process, especially when they try to tell us they process them in order of receipt which is pure bs.......if it was that way then our spreadsheet would be all green above and not scattered green everywhere!
Truly I believe for anyone new here, you have to believe you will be here for a year at least......if you get thru before that then it is a blessing, but if you want to make your process less stressful then shot for a year time line.......expecting something in 5 months is just setting yourself up for depression, stress and anger when that 5th month go by and you don't hear anything.(Believe me! I know this for a fact) At the time that Nev, Maddants, DG and myself applied, our sponsorship was 55 days and it slowly increased to 91 days eventually so most of us didn't even get our sponsorship approval until June after applying in Feb & March. Now people are getting approved in a month time!

Faith is what will truly get you through this. If you believe in God then put everything into God's hands and he will send your hubby home when it is your time! If you don't believe in God, at least have faith in the fact that this process has to end one day and your hubby will be home no matter what!

Come on Kingston, last week of the month, clear up some files today please!

 

[oneandonly]

Good afternoon forum family what warm but sticky weather were having. Nice to see the sun trying to peak through. For the newbies chickie is right it sure will be a long process and journey ahead set yourself up for a year. I set myself till feb 2014 with Gods blessing I hope it will happen that is 15 months for me but who knows.

 

[danielle902]

That's what I was thinking. We can even use it at my husbands place for the addition he's building for us.

If you get a jumbo steel drum. You can always make a jerk pan out of it. That's what I did for my house and it works fabulous!

 

[danielle902]

Hi everyone, it has been a whirlwind, i am in JA, returning in 2 weeks with hubby, dont have a computer, but visiting a friend who's son lent me his laptop, see the time, lol, only time i can tear him away from it. Anyhoo, Ms Neveah, listen to me, your time is coming real soon, believe that, use us as your yardstick! 23 long long months and it does not matter now, all that matters is we are together. Hold strong. It will happen, soon too, you are right near the end of the journey, and this is the time your patience will wear thin, at the end i remember saying to God, i give up, i just cant stress no more, and couple weeks after that we got called for the PP, so throw it to God or the higher power that you believe in.

Chickie72, Maddants and all the early 2012 still waiting, just be strong and hold on, it will happen for you! Take care folks and the good thing is the forum family is here for you to strengthen you when you feel weak.

Will give you my landing story in 2. something weeks. as i wont have access to a computer after this, we are heading to the hills of St Mary, this morning, Lord, coconut water and jerk chicken is all i have been living on. and not to mention the tastee patties

YAY! That's awesome! And still proof that Kingston is not sleeping

Congrats !

 

[yolo1980]

Good afternoon everyone

I hope all is well with everyone and that there has been good news coming out of Kingston.
As for me life has been great these last few weeks wow its amazing how things came together and how it feels as if my husband has always been here with me. I pray that all of you get this feeling of completeness. I pray for one and all here especially those who have been waiting on what seems like forever for this process to come to a close.
As for me I have been a busy beaver trying to tie up loose ends before I leave for my trip to Jamaica, it’s funny I thought once my husband was through Jamaica would not see my butt for a bit however life threw me a curve ball and things with the adoption is going quickly than anticipated so off to JA I go. I will be leaving next week my plans is to be back by the end of September with my little family. I will check in from time to time . God bless you all and thank you all so much for your support during our immigration process. This forum is filled with a lot of warm friendly helpful people and God will eternally bless all of you. I will check in from time to time.

 

[chickie72]

If you get a jumbo steel drum. You can always make a jerk pan out of it. That's what I did for my house and it works fabulous!

that is an awesome idea....never thought of that!

 

[Samilanaire]

U know wat i am here everyday n i read posts this foru i will never forget i will pop in n out at times hope all is well kgn cum on gud ppl are still awaiting their call hang in there everyone its a hard process but in the end theres a prize awaiting on the other hand my hubby will finally be coming home soon so hey my landing story is sooner than u think will keep everyone posted enjoy the weather