Kingston,Jamaica

[witty]

hey forum peps whats up?

 

[AMANDAWOOD]

10 Days till christmas ..... i tell you I am more looking to to see this year over and a start of a new year with new possibilites ..... everyday that goes by is 1 less that i have to deal with my family being seperated

 

[Mrs Proper]

Hey witty!! how you holding up?

 

[witty]

just hanging in there proper.tuff but i am

 

[LifeSoonSortOut]

Hi Everyone,

It has been one year, five months and twenty days since the CIC approved me as a sponsor and one year, four months and 12 days since JA started processing my husband and children's application. I would be lying if I said that this has not been the most frustrating experience of my whole entire life. I am a reasonable person and for the most part patient and understanding, but I am really frustrated with this system and the amount of time it is taking to approve my husband.

I did not hire an immigration lawyer, my husband did not stay in Canada he returned to Jamaica and I am beginning to doubt the decisions we made. I guess I just need reassurance that we made the right decision. In my last follow up with my MP, they stated that Jamaica has deemed our marriage to be true and valid and that they are continuing to conduct background checks. Can we expect to get the call soon? Will he have to complete his medical and police clearances again?

I would love to have someone explain to me why this is taking so long. I miss my husband and am ready to start a real life with him!

Signed: Lifesoonsortout

 

[CharlieD10]

Hi, LSSO, and welcome. Stick and stay, this is the right place to be to share the frustrations and joys (when they come) of this journey.

If your husband was in Canada, it could be one reason why the processing is taking a while. I understand from reading and discussing with knowledgeable persons that an RCMP check can take as much as 4-6 months to be completed, most of that time is just waiting for it to actually be done.

I hope the process is concluded soon for you, it must be hard to be apart from him and the children.

 

[LifeSoonSortOut]

Thanks for the information Charlie. Imagine it takes the RCMP up to six months to provide a background check?!? If I take longer than 48 hours to reply to an email at work, fiyah start light a work. They've caressing his application for 17 months now, it's time to let go

 

[witty]

my wife get this email from the mla.

Our File Fxxxxxxxxx

Dear Sir



Thank you for your email.



There seems to have been some mis-communication or mis-understanding. At the end of the interview, I requested that Mr xxxxx submit additional proof that he and his sponsor resided together. These documents were received here on the 8 December 2011. The application has now been placed in our review queue and the assessment of this application will continue early next year.



I hope the above assists you in responding to your constituent's concerns.



Regards



Designated Immigration Officer

High Commission of Canada /Haut-commissariat du Canada

Government of Canada



So this is not bad information. It just means they requested additional information, which you provided and the review process will move forward. I know you said xxxxx felt the officer was rude and intimidating, but she could have actually denied the file progress further if she had felt the marriage was in question. You have provided proof that you are a couple, so let's give it some time and I will request a follow up in six weeks....Feb. 1 I'll send another message. Should you receive any information please let me know.




this is really sad fourm peps?

 

[SmoothiesQueen]

I wouldn't say its sad nessessarily..it sucks yes that they didn't reply and say it was basically done and you'd soon leave, but at least you know where you stand. Its in que...the new year is less than a month away....half a month actually. So if its review early..yes you might not make it to your wife for Christmas which I know is hard....but at the same time...you know your file is up for final review and not lost, or denied etc.

I think its positive that you have an update!! Now lets just hope the review comes quickly...and you soon get your passport back so you can get on a plane to join your wife and start your new life!! I highly doubt they would refuse you...as the MP said...she could have denied the file at that point if she felt it was in question. Clearly she thought it valid enough to move forward!!

 

[witty]

sometimes i just feel like this immigration thing is not comming to an end.

 

[AMANDAWOOD]

witty --- keep up the faith i am sure things will come through for you soon ....

 

[Mrslwsn]

jus breezing thru guys....nothing new....bless up

 

[witty]

i feel ur pain@lifesoonsorthout.but just hold the faith

 

[SmoothiesQueen]

You know Witty...I know its so hard on you and your wife to be apart. I know that it kinda casts a shadow on everything else. But my advice to you my friend...enjoy Jamaica...enjoy it while you can. I can't tell you the depression I'm going through right now realizing we have everything in hand and are about to leave. I had no idea it would be like this...I've cried just about every day. It was all pure excitment...until it came through and you realize the reality of getting on that plane. I have to look at my daughter every day and remind myself that this is the best thing..and that once are settled we will be happy. I need my husband to have his citizenship...we need to be able to do more for ourselves as a family. But it doesn't matter how right this decision is...it's never going to make that homesickness and longing for yaad go away. Despite living more years in Canada then Jamaica...I don't identify with Canada at all. It's not home...and when I visit I feel like I'm on vacation in a farrin country.

I am going through the stage right now of regrets...all the things I wish I had done when I had the chance...things I guess right now I feel I will never get to do heading to Canada. One of them was...I wanted to find my bio grandmother that I've never met...assuming she is still alive...and because of family estrangements...I always put it off because of the struggle it was to get details. I wonder if she is still alive..where in Jamaica she is...and why I didn't try harder to find her.

I keep thinking about all the family I have across the island I don't know anything about...time I wasted that I could have been getting to know them.

I think about all the things I'm gonna miss...the friendliness of the island...being able to walk out and run jokes with my neighbours and just chat with someone I've never met as if we've known each other for ages. I'm gonna miss the food...the smells...the music that is playing all hours that for some reason never feels loud. I'm gonna miss the entire vibes of the island...my friends...so much of my family...I'm gonna miss the lifestyle...I'm gonna miss the energy. I could go on forever except its making me cry again just typing this.

I wish when I was waiting more anxiously than I probably let on to the forum...for our papers to come through...I wish I had just put it to the side and just lived my life. Because I'm thinking...wow I have one child and we soon want more...I'm turning twenty five next month...this is probably the last time I will have been able to live in yaad as a young person and do things like a young person..even if we return...we will be middle aged or elderly. It will be yaad...but a different side of it at a different age.

Sorry...kinda venting here...been really struggling with this.

But I'm just saying...there are things you can't change. One of them is how long it takes immigration....and another is the frusteration of not knowing...and the heartache of being away from your loved one and waiting to start your life together.

But one thing you can do..is enjoy life in yaad. I dunno what your plans are with your wife...but you never know with life. What if you never get to return to live....you never know what life will deal you!! What if the amount of vacations you plan don't happen because things get tight? What if before next time you come back a yaad friends or family pass away? I just had this conversation last night with one of my good friends who just migraited to Canada from Kingston....and right after he left two family members and a close family friend passed on. I'm not trying to depress you about leaving either DWL....I'm just saying what I wish had clicked in my head when we were waiting...enjoy yaad while you can.

Because I never knew it would feel like this....even up to the day we got our passports back..I never knew I would feel this way. I mean I had moments...but they always passed and excitment took over. Now...its just pure depression!! Its ridiculous...I'm worse than a pregnant woman...if someone so much as mentions something about Jamaica to me...I start bawl lol...I need to get a grip. You don't even want to know how I react if someone mentions the airport to me DWL!!

Just my advice...but then again being apart from your wife..I imagine its hard to see where I'm coming from because I guess we have everything sorted out so maybe it would be hard for me to see where I'm coming from if I was in your shoes!! I really hope it soon sorts out for you!!

Oh and because after tommorow I might not be on much for a while....all you yaadies...please have a blessed Christmas season..and stay safe during this election madness!! xx

 

[CharlieD10]

Good morning everyone! I hope folks have been enjoying their weekend and taking it easy. 6 days to Christmas

SQ - Your feelings are entirely natural. All change brings about huge emotional tideswells, even changes we initiated in our lives, such as immigration. You think you're in control and you have everything in hand, and then the reality comes and it hits you like a tsunami. Suddenly all that is involved unfolds on you and you feel like you're drowning in the tide.

Your advice is spot on, though. It's important to live your life as normally as possible, to enjoy the things you always have about one place, because you never know when life is going to come along and fling you some place else, even if you asked it to do so! All the best to you and yours, don't forget the landing story!

Enjoy the upcoming week, folks, anticipation is what makes times like Christmas so enjoyable.