I may get a lot of flack for saying this but i;m gonna say it, none of us knows what the relationship between our exes and their children mothers were prior to getting together with us, a friend of mine from alberta just went down yesterday and she called her parents last night crying because she found texts in her husbands phone showing that he's still sleeping with his child's mother proving that they were most likely still together when they got married, she was supposed to stay there until September now she's in a rush to leave so when you call these women bitter that may be true but why are they bitter?? For most of our relationship we are away from our husbands we have no idea what they're really doing all we have to do is have faith and hope for the best, I understand why some of these women don't want to send their children ppl are talking about a better life money doesn't always provide a better life the education system back there is much better than the Canadian one and they make do with whatever they have so calling JA poor and just blinding judging these women shows a lot, remember these children don't know you their father does but the children haven't gotten to know you in the traditional sense of being around you etc etc prior to their fathers marrying you and when they come here you will be the ones more than likely taking care of them most of the time, the mothers do not know you so i understand their side of it, having said that i would at least allow the child to do the medical so as they get older they have the options of coming here later on in life, put the shoe on the other foot i'm sure a lot of you wouldn't send your child off to live in a new country with a total stranger and your miles away yes daddy would be there but like i said most of the caring won't be coming from him because he would be out working. So try to understand just lend support to your husbands and let him deal with his child's mother this is between them and not you so don't directly get involved.
