You are most CERTAINLY not alone. I seem to get more insane when I am doing nothing. Which isn't very often but damn... The SECOND I have a minute alone and start to think. BOOM panic, stress and/or water works.
Well where do I begin. I should just copy and paste his account of how we met from the app haha. jokes.
We met on Christmas day in 2006 when I was down with my family for one of our many visits. He had just come home from working in Cayman and showed up to a party my cousin brought us to. He is my cousins bf at the times best friend. At first I avoided him and any other man cause i can't stand to hear that pssst pssst bull from them or telling me they love me within seconds of meeting me. kmt. likkle bwoy dem nuh know me. He actually didn't do any of that. He post up pon di wall a watch everybody and then ask my cousin to talk to me for him. (Yes... he it sounds like jr high and he is a grown @ $$ man but it was cute and different :-*). I eventually went to talk to him and we danced for a bit. Yes mi buss a likkle wine pon him.
It wasnt until we went to a few more parties where he showed up to EVERY one of them to see me, and called me on my cousins phone (I didnt have one then), called me on my birthday when we went to the north coast and basically put in a lot of effort that I started to give him a chance. (I was there for almost a month this trip so I took my sweet time).
After all that we have never been apart (at least in spirit). I came home went back to college. I would text him all day and he would call me at night. :
It was frustrating but you gotta do what you gotta do. As our phones got better with internet and everything communication got easier and BBM and whats app helped A LOT over the last few years.
We have seen each other 9 times in 7 years. I said I love you after 9 months. He waited until he saw me in person the next time 2 months later. We have survived me being in college and university the entire time as well as me doing study abroad twice and travelling Europe for a total of 3 months of our relationship. (All those postcards went into the app). We got engaged in 2012 when we went to New York for Christmas to visit family and for a change of scenery but ended up attending his father's funeral. It was very sad and I cannot believe he missed being at our wedding by 1 year. So I definitely didn't think he would be asking me to marry him any time soon once that happened which was fine obviously but he did.
I spent a year planning a country wedding with my parents here in Canada. North coast was too expensive and not really an option if any yardies were to come. So we got married in Maypen on New Years day of 2013. I had an amazing photographer and my aunt is a photographer so she took pics too. LOTS to choose from for the app. Nuff food and liquor fi everybody a gwan bad. Only two friends could attend as bridesmaids as the others were students and couldn't afford Jamaica at Christmas.Then I came home and continued putting everything together. I tried getting him to start the papers before i came back for the wedding so we could sign everything and put it together before I came home but that didn't work out.
So I came home. i asked my friend who had filed for her husband a billion questions as I went along and called the help line which was really no help. They just went through the manual and regurgitated what I had already read which was the reason for my call. I finally handed it all in on April 26th 2013 and here we are now waiting for a passport request according to all your posts that I've read!
Sorry I get long winded with my stories. But I like telling it.