nice discussion...heres my 20 cents worth
for all of you who are wondering whether to make the move or not...heres a situation, analyse the situation and decide on your reaction from the choices I have provided below...based on the choice you make...you can decide whether to move or not
situation
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You live in a middle class area, close by there is a below poverty line slum full of immigrant labourers, house hold help, beggars and so forth. The health standards and sanitation in your area is alright, but you have to cross the slum to get anywhere and they have garbage on the roads and occassionally sewage overflowing on the roads but the roads in your area are clean and better maintained, though you also have garbage on your streets. The slum ggradually grows and there are anti social elements living there now, not terrrorists but eve teasers, drug peddlers, prostitutes, rowdies etc. You have complained to your local authorities, no chanage. You have tried to address the issue in your local residents welfare association meetings, no change.
Now the slum has grown bigger, encroachments are taking place on the empty spaces in your area, your water and electricity are being stolen. The anti social elements are now on your street corners. Your wife/parents/sister/girlfriend face a harrowing time whenever they have to go out of the house...nobody does anything to them, but the journey is not a pleasant one. their pressure is passed onto you.
What do you do?
Choices
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1. You decide to move out of the locality, you sell your ancestral house, leave your neighbouors who have known your family for generations, move away from your local gurudwara/temple/church/mosque, your kids/parents/wife's friends.
2. You decide to stay and ignore the things going on around you, you try to accept it as a change out of your control. You put up with it and stay there for whatever reasons
3. You decide to take matters into your own hands and make a change, you form a local welfare committee, constantly petition the authorities till you get a response, work with local NGOs for rehabilitating the slum people etc
4. You decide to get a bomb and blow up the slum!!
Results
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If you chose 1 – pack your bags, get your visa and get out!!...NOW!!..
the situation mentioned above is India, a land which has great culture...only in its museums and history books, none in daily life. The real India is apathetic, crude, rude. Passive, complacent, opportunistic, intruding, dysfunctional and corrupt. The minute some people read this they are going to pounce on me and wax eloquent on India's greatness...but in their hearts everybody knows the truth so please spare me!! India is beautiful, historical, colourful, warm (weather), welcoming (only to foreign tourists), resilient etc...but please also understand that these positives don't make a speck of difference in an individual's life...they lokk extremely good on tourist brochures and that's that. Again LEAVE NOW!!
If you chose 2 – If you have decided to stay on and put up with your surroundings, you will be happy there no matter what...or you will force yourself to pretend you are happy. You don't need change. You are ok with change...for good or bad but you don't wish for a better life!.. Your history, culture, surroundings are more important to you than the quality of your daily life.
If you chose 3 – You are an activist, you should DEFINITELY NOT MOVE!!...stay and fight the negative change. Try your best to make a positive impact, change society and show everybody the better path. You will get your own statue after you die in the heart of the city and crows with uncontrollable bowels will forever remember you and thank you!! Or you just might get wiped off without a trace by some politician or local goon who has vested interests in the existence of the slum!!...either ways you will be a hero...posthumously!!
If you chose 4 – You require serious urgent psychiatric help!!
I chose 1. I do not like what I see and have to put up with. I do not wish to spend the rest of my life here wondering whether there will be electricity when I switch on the fan on a hot day, or whether the water will flow when I open the tap, I do not want to play the “guess where the pothole is and how big it is game” when it rains on the roads, I don't want to have a bath, wear a crisp white shirt and reach office in a brown or black shirt thanks to the buses and lorries which run on a hybrid fuel mix of kerosene, petrol, and dog piss. I do not want to go to doctor because of ailments caused by no fault of mine...they are all environmental diseases..sinus, eye infection, skin infection, lung infection. I don't want to bribe anybody to do their job. I have thought over this for a year and made my decision...I'm moving!!
I may have to work at McDonalds and serve burgers, I may have to live in somebody's basement, I may have to bear with inhuman cold, I may face racism, I may not get the opportunities which I deserve as soon as I land. I am ok with all that because from my research I know that its only a temporary phase and I have the courage, determination, faith and perseverance to get through it and reach for a better life...and when I do I will get it and then there will be no looking back.
Canada may not be the best place on earth, but for me its better than where I currently am, and its giving me an opportunity to move...I am taking it!!
For all of you asking is India better or Canada better??....the answer is always a personal one...its like asking a crowd of people is biriyani better or burger better...the answers and the justification for the answers will always be beyond your imagination or comprehension..
Don't take my word for it...do your own research..dont move because somebody you know moved and has a great life in Canada now...don't not move because somebody else you know went there and is having a tough time...do diligent research and find out for yourself...if you have the money and time, plan your next holiday in Canada to get a better idea...you are the only one who can decide whats good for you!!
All the Best and God Bless
Cheers
Rishab