I found this thread very interesting -- I lived in Thailand for many years, where international marriages are part of the culture. On this thread you see the complaints of people who feel that they have been tricked by scheming foreigners, but you don't hear so much from the other half of the equation.
- it is common that the people who marry internationally choose this route from the get-go; it is not a 'love' marriage on their part either, they have found a foreign woman and convinced themselves that they love her. Why? You can see it in the OP's beginning comment, he doesn't like western women who 'party' and are presumably independent. The corollary of this is that when the wife arrives she often finds that her husband is much more controlling than she realized; and here in a strange country she is dependent on him for everything. Such a marriage can collapse very quickly.
- in many countries marriage is more contractual than in Canada. In Thailand, for instance, courtships are short and there is a financial element in marriage. At the same time, marriages are 'guaranteed' by the relative positions of clans and families in society -- if it breaks down, it is more in the nature of a contract falling apart than a betrayal. When a partner like that comes to Canada, they may feel that the other person has broken the contract first, for various cultural reasons, and their leaving is not necessarily a sign of fraud.
- foreign brides are vulnerable. Any requirements that make them inferior to their husbands legally are dangerous. There are three principals involved:
1) the requirements for bringing a partner into Canada should not be too rigorous, or true marriages will be discomposed.
2) the ability of CIC to deport the partner in a marriage that fails should not be too strong; because there is no way that CIC can adjudicate the failure of a relationship.
3) foreign brides are PRs within Canada, and should have the same rights to leave a relationship as all other PRs and citizens.
- stop using CIC to validate or comfort yourselves after a relationship fails. And don't always assume that you were tricked, very frequently these marriages begin honestly and fail when the sponsoring partner turns out to be a different sort of person than they presented as in a foreign country.
- it is common that the people who marry internationally choose this route from the get-go; it is not a 'love' marriage on their part either, they have found a foreign woman and convinced themselves that they love her. Why? You can see it in the OP's beginning comment, he doesn't like western women who 'party' and are presumably independent. The corollary of this is that when the wife arrives she often finds that her husband is much more controlling than she realized; and here in a strange country she is dependent on him for everything. Such a marriage can collapse very quickly.
- in many countries marriage is more contractual than in Canada. In Thailand, for instance, courtships are short and there is a financial element in marriage. At the same time, marriages are 'guaranteed' by the relative positions of clans and families in society -- if it breaks down, it is more in the nature of a contract falling apart than a betrayal. When a partner like that comes to Canada, they may feel that the other person has broken the contract first, for various cultural reasons, and their leaving is not necessarily a sign of fraud.
- foreign brides are vulnerable. Any requirements that make them inferior to their husbands legally are dangerous. There are three principals involved:
1) the requirements for bringing a partner into Canada should not be too rigorous, or true marriages will be discomposed.
2) the ability of CIC to deport the partner in a marriage that fails should not be too strong; because there is no way that CIC can adjudicate the failure of a relationship.
3) foreign brides are PRs within Canada, and should have the same rights to leave a relationship as all other PRs and citizens.
- stop using CIC to validate or comfort yourselves after a relationship fails. And don't always assume that you were tricked, very frequently these marriages begin honestly and fail when the sponsoring partner turns out to be a different sort of person than they presented as in a foreign country.