How long after you met face to face, did you get married?

[HoneyBird2]

This is based on another discussion by another poster....


Anthropos: {EDITED}

I have a strange situation, and it's really starting to stress me out. My husband and I (he is the sponsor) started dating in August of 2008. We became engaged in April of 2009. We got married in August of 2010.

Here's the tough part. They don't know we're married. My husband insists that here in Canada people just don't get engaged, and certainly not married, as quickly as we did. He would feel embarrassed to admit that he got married so quickly.

So I wanted to conduct a little survey on the forum to kinda figure how soon after people got married after physical contact.

Me:
Hubby and I met June 2009, Engaged Feb 2010 and Married May 2010. All the time this was long distance eh. Appx 1 year. But we talked online from June 2008 thereabouts.

 

[ocu_canadian]

My wife and I met April 2008
Engaged January 1st 2009
Married May 8th 2010

 

[scylla]

Met June 2004
Began dating September 2005
Engaged September 2008
Married October 2009

 

[gillespiedc]

Met 11/11/2007
First Date 11/18/2007
No Official Engagement Date
Married 3/18/2008
Still as happy as the day we met over 3 years, and have a baby on the way (my first at age 50, her 2nd at age 40).

 

[ufa]

Met March 2007
No official engagement
Married October 2010

We were long distance the whole time, except for a couple short visits by me and a 4 month visit by my husband (the applicant) here July - November 2010. I didn't think officially marrying would make a difference in how we felt, but the distance is SO much harder now than it was before (or maybe that's the result of the four months of knowing how good it could be...)

 

[MandiF]

Met 25 Dec 2008
Engaged June 2009
Married 30 Dec 2009

Married almost one year to the date we first met, although we chatted online for almost a year before meeting and the year between meeting and marrying all long distance, except for a number of visits me to Canada and him to UK. Oh and there is a 12 year age difference between us.

I think two years between meeting and marrying is fine and not half as quick as quite a few other people I know, not even on this forum.

 

[sven48ca]

met on-line through a matrimonial website Nov.05/08
met face to face Jan.07/09
married Jan16/09
temp. res. visa refused x 3 re: section 179.
perm. res. visa refused Jan.27/10 accused of marriage of convenience
appeal filed Mar/10
still waiting to hear back for appeal date to be set.

so... the answer would be 9 days after face to face meeting.

the girl i met was the exact same person as she described herself in our letters. the IO stated the concern that the time was so brief between meeting and marrying as one of the causes to invoke an interview along with 3rd marriage each and 11 years age difference.

that was not brought forth in the denial letter. they insisted that we did not share a language. we insited that we shared two language between us. we have found that it was easier and more fulfilling to communicate between ourselves, communication with immigration has proved protracted and difficult if not almost impossible.

we conducted our own interviews with each other. it was our love and our lives on the line that we were protecting. we committed instantly after meeting. immigration spent an hour to confirm their concerns and to develop a few more. it was not an interview, it was a lecture and an ambush.

we have past the point of interviewing each other, past the point of thinking about how we are both concerned with if our relationship is genuine and we are years now into enjoying our luck to find such compatible and perfect partners. we still have to write about it and get ready to defend ouselves against the personal bias of the IO and immigration lawyers. we have just celebrated our second anniversary together. ( that should read our second anniversary enduring this forced separation) we are delighted with our marriage and with our relationship.

i wish i could help your husband get over his feelings and his thoughts. as canadians we should feel free enough to follow our hearts in accord with the dictates of our personalities and predilections.

 

[Patricksgirls]

Hmm this will be our third marriage and 23 year difference but we spend a lot of time together and still are not married almost a year after meeting face to face so here's hoping for no denial.

 

[HoneyBird2]

met on-line through a matrimonial website Nov.05/08
met face to face Jan.07/09
married Jan16/09
temp. res. visa refused x 3 re: section 179.
perm. res. visa refused Jan.27/10 accused of marriage of convenience
appeal filed Mar/10
still waiting to hear back for appeal date to be set.

so... the answer would be 9 days after face to face meeting.

the girl i met was the exact same person as she described herself in our letters. the IO stated the concern that the time was so brief between meeting and marrying as one of the causes to invoke an interview along with 3rd marriage each and 11 years age difference.

that was not brought forth in the denial letter. they insisted that we did not share a language. we insited that we shared two language between us. we have found that it was easier and more fulfilling to communicate between ourselves, communication with immigration has proved protracted and difficult if not almost impossible.

we conducted our own interviews with each other. it was our love and our lives on the line that we were protecting. we committed instantly after meeting. immigration spent an hour to confirm their concerns and to develop a few more. it was not an interview, it was a lecture and an ambush.

we have past the point of interviewing each other, past the point of thinking about how we are both concerned with if our relationship is genuine and we are years now into enjoying our luck to find such compatible and perfect partners. we still have to write about it and get ready to defend ouselves against the personal bias of the IO and immigration lawyers. we have just celebrated our second anniversary together. ( that should read our second anniversary enduring this forced separation) we are delighted with our marriage and with our relationship.

i wish i could help your husband get over his feelings and his thoughts. as canadians we should feel free enough to follow our hearts in accord with the dictates of our personalities and predilections.

Wow! When my hubby first met me face to face...well the second time (2 days)...I knew he wanted to get married...but I wanted to play it safe!

 

[Kaycee1]

Met online August 2007 on U2 website
Met in person in Portugal August 2008
Partner came to Canada in February 2009, we've been living together since - has been here since on 2 work visas
Engaged December 2009
Married September 2010
PR application submitted Jan 2011

Only concern is 17 year age difference between us, but we have all the same interests and love to do things together! Its great to find your soulmate

 

[fleo]

* began yapping online in July 2009
* met in person in November 2009
* between November 2009 and August 2010 (when I came to Canada for what turned out to be a permanent stay, although that wasn't our intention... at all ) spent about 2 months of "real time" together visiting; everything else was long distance
* married more or less on an impulse in October 2010

So just under a year, with 4 visits between us and 4 months in the same physical space. And not even my hub's very old school Canadian parents thought it was weird

 

[Bangkokcanuck]

Hmmmm, met face to face June 2005,
married Jan 2007,
Moved to Bangkok April 2007, have lived here since then,
Our son was born March 2009
Applied for PR yesterday haha... guess we'll see.

 

[Kenomee]

Met my wife in Warcraft in October 2007.
Met face to face in Portland, OR airport on October 29th, 2008
Married November 6th 2008.

Got married eight days after meeting face to face. Still married for over two years now. I knew when I saw her after getting off the plane that she was the one. We still act like newlyweds LOL

 

[AllisonVSC]

Met online Jan 2004
Met in person Mar 2004
Long distance relationship until 2009
Immigrated to Canada 2009 as a conjugal partner
still not married...

 

[Glogirl68]

Met here in Canada he on a work visa Aug 2006
Engaged Fall 2007 no officail date we just decided.
He went home Jan 2008
Married Aug 2008
Perm Res 2010 Finally!!!!

Here in Canada I have known plenty of ppl who meet and months later are married. My sister and her husband did, they met in Sept/Oct engaged in Feb married in June.