Hello. I Need some advice and help about my relationship please !

[Curiousme]

Hello everybody! Now i have done it, I fell inlove with a girl from Canada that i have met over internet. We have been talking for like one and a half year soon (Yes i know, long time ) and i gotta tell you guys i am crazy about this girl. It may sound silly to you guys but that's how it is. I've had previous relationships (normal ones) but noone of that does even come close to what this means to me. This girl makes me really happy and she feels the same way.

So i kinda want to make this whole thing real because i feel like i cannot afford to lose this girl from my life just because we're stuck in different countries. She's Canadien and i am Swedish. I have been reading around a bit on this forum though and collected information but i haven't really found out what the best thing to do in our situation is. I have this plan on getting a working permit for a year since i am below 30 years old so i can go to visit her and work in Canada and also enjoy ice hockey which i love. I have my favorite NHL team since long in the very same town she's living .

But how do i go along with this i wonder ? I read somewhere that you must be together or live together for 12 months ? I am not even sure that i can live together with her at this point in life (even if we're both in Canada ) Although we'll be spending every single day together but i don't know if that counts? If it counts i have another question. Is it legitimate that i met her online , or must i meet her in real life for it to be considered real, even tho i am going there for a year to be with her and work ? in that case , should i buy a visit ticket and then "meet her my first time " during that trip, come back to sweden and apply for my working visa to collect those 12 months ?

I am not sure how this works so that's why i ask about this.. Also thinking in these terms may seem shady , but guys and girls. We really love each other and we want to make this work and i will do anything for it if i have to. Altho i am not sure if we're ready to get married yet because she's both working and studying right now and one would want to have the life a bit more set up before marrying.

Anyway, i apologize if this text is rather messy i pretty much just wrote my thoughts here. Would appriciate any help though!

Best Wishes /Curiousone

 

[scylla]

For your relationship to be recognized for Canadian immigration purposes, you must either be married or common law. Common law means that you have lived together at the same address for a minimum of one full year. Yes - you certainly need to meet her in person for your relationship to be considered "real" by immigration. No - spending every single day together will not count towards becoming common law. You need to actually LIVE together for a full year.

Yes - I would certainly recommend you visit her for a few weeks first before deciding if you want to come to Canada on the one year working holiday visa program.

 

[brucem]

+1

Toally agree, you need to meet with her in person before you decide anything about moving. Talking online is massively different from actually being with someone in person, and especially living with them. The computer interface can take away much of our natural human inhibitions and we are often not our true selves. Go for a holiday, spend some quality 1-1 time. Canada is a fantastic country....have fun and if it works out well then you can start making plans. Best of luck!

 

[Souricette]

Or you come here for a year, enjoy your experience. After a couple of months you two move together if you feel it's working. And then, after a year when your visa expire, if it's still working with your girlfriend you have a few options:

- She goes to your country and you continue living together. When you complete one year of living together you are considerated common-law and can apply for you to become PR in Canada. Has you are from Sweden I think you have good chances.
- You get marry, so even if you havn't live together a full year you can still apply for you to become PR in Canada

I don't think you have to "meet her" in real life, CIC will considere the online meeting. But in order to proove a real common-law relationship maybe it's not enough to have only one year since the very first day you met in real life. And no, spending everyday together is not enough.

But I think the important here is: focus on starting your relationship, then focus on immigration...

 

[Christoph100]

I don't think you have to "meet her" in real life, CIC will considere the online meeting.

Yes you would have to meet in person...Not meeting in person would not be considered a true relationship regardless how one feels that it is.

With out meeting in person it will be very difficult to further your relations with one another. Long distance relationships are not easy be prepared for a long road ahead. Takes a lot of time, sacrifice, money, patience and travel to make it work.

Your first step as mentioned earlier is your relationship.. You need to spend quality time with each other in person, One of you will have to make the decision to travel to the others country of residence to visit and actually meet.

Good Luck

Chris

 

[truesmile]

The application forms will vet that out. One of the questions asks on what date did you first meet "in person".

 

[Jamesdavid3]

I don't want to sound like a Negative Nancy but...

"I fell inlove with a girl"

I think you really need to rewind here and go back a few steps before you just come over here as it looks like you have never even really met her in real life..why don't you just visit for a week or two and see how that goes?

Have you even met this girl before? Yes you have been talking for 1 and a half years but have you at least came over to Canada to visit her....?

 

[Curiousme]

Thanks for the answer everybody And yeah. I am planning on going to visit there now in the coming months for 1-3 months depending on how it works out and i hope that it'll be great..

Thanks again. I think i have all the answers that i needed for this question. So i don't need anymore help right now!


Take care!