I guess this legal prenup is because you own a home right? Tell me more about that? I am thinking money i have in the bank is mine since it is my account however it must be different with property right?DDG said:
DDG your so brave for doing it again.....I have had many conversations with hubby and bascially told him you do anything to me in regards to betraying me for my country. I will make it happen that you are shipped back to Cuba. I swear. He has always said just trust me and I have for 4 years. However it crosses my mind this could go bad or good just like anyother relationship however this one I really gave it all my all.DDG said:
shuster2210 said:
I too have been going to Cuba for 11 years, and have seen the negativity go both ways... It's true that there are a number of people wanting to get out of Cuba and willing to do anything to do it. But I would not say this is true about most Cubans. They're proud people, and you have bad apples everywhere, including right here. Having said that, wayyy before I met my husband I have had Cubans come after me and I could tell it wasn't genuine. Including one who fell on his knees crying that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me after I had only met him for a week, and nothing had even happened between us. When I met my husband, although we had intense chemistry from the beginning, I told him I had no intentions of EVER being in a long distance relationship and this would NEVER turn into anything more (obviously, never say never.... lol) I could tell he was different. He was very well respected by others and not known to be a chaser. I even found out pretty early on (from mutual friends) that an Italian older woman had asked him to marry her and for her to bring her back to Italy with her... he denied. He'd never been married nor had children and although he had dated one Canadian girl for 3 months, she turned out to be controlling and manipulative (and a little crazy) and he ended that relationship. It took a looong time for me to trust him, since before I met him I lived with a boyfriend for 3 years, someone who I had known for 10 years, and HE turned out to be cheating on me and manipulating and lying to say that our relationship was dead and he was sleeping on the couch looking for a new place to live (ya, right). After being hurt, I was not prepared to trust anyone, especially not someone who lived a zillion miles away... but I have to say that I now trust my husband implicitly. I fell victim to the sad Cuban/Canadian stories too early on, before agreeing to be committed to him and it led me to be paranoid and check everything, even having spies.. haha, it later came up in conversation and he said "So thaaaaats why xxxxx showed up at my house at 7am!" lol It's not easy, and the distance makes it scarier, but you have to trust your gut feeling. I trust mine, and I trust my parents' and friends' too, and I know that all the right intentions are there. Be strong everyone, and remember, most people who write on blogs and groups (excluding this thread of course) are the ones who HAVE been hurt. There is not enough people who are living happy fulfilling lives with Cuban wives/husbands who have the time to sit and write on the internet about it, so it's the ones who have been hurt that do! (except for us but thats cuz all were doing is waitiinnngggg.... lol) I guess what also helps is that I know so many Cuban/Canadian couples that are perfectly happy and living a normal life, for 5, 10 years... so there is definitely a possibility for happiness!shuster2210 said:
and we all deserve it!
Avana said:I too have been going to Cuba for 11 years, and have seen the negativity go both ways... It's true that there are a number of people wanting to get out of Cuba and willing to do anything to do it. But I would not say this is true about most Cubans. They're proud people, and you have bad apples everywhere, including right here. Having said that, wayyy before I met my husband I have had Cubans come after me and I could tell it wasn't genuine. Including one who fell on his knees crying that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me after I had only met him for a week, and nothing had even happened between us. When I met my husband, although we had intense chemistry from the beginning, I told him I had no intentions of EVER being in a long distance relationship and this would NEVER turn into anything more (obviously, never say never.... lol) I could tell he was different. He was very well respected by others and not known to be a chaser. I even found out pretty early on (from mutual friends) that an Italian older woman had asked him to marry her and for her to bring her back to Italy with her... he denied. He'd never been married nor had children and although he had dated one Canadian girl for 3 months, she turned out to be controlling and manipulative (and a little crazy) and he ended that relationship. It took a looong time for me to trust him, since before I met him I lived with a boyfriend for 3 years, someone who I had known for 10 years, and HE turned out to be cheating on me and manipulating and lying to say that our relationship was dead and he was sleeping on the couch looking for a new place to live (ya, right). After being hurt, I was not prepared to trust anyone, especially not someone who lived a zillion miles away... but I have to say that I now trust my husband implicitly. I fell victim to the sad Cuban/Canadian stories too early on, before agreeing to be committed to him and it led me to be paranoid and check everything, even having spies.. haha, it later came up in conversation and he said "So thaaaaats why xxxxx showed up at my house at 7am!" lol It's not easy, and the distance makes it scarier, but you have to trust your gut feeling. I trust mine, and I trust my parents' and friends' too, and I know that all the right intentions are there. Be strong everyone, and remember, most people who write on blogs and groups (excluding this thread of course) are the ones who HAVE been hurt. There is not enough people who are living happy fulfilling lives with Cuban wives/husbands who have the time to sit and write on the internet about it, so it's the ones who have been hurt that do! (except for us but thats cuz all were doing is waitiinnngggg.... lol) I guess what also helps is that I know so many Cuban/Canadian couples that are perfectly happy and living a normal life, for 5, 10 years... so there is definitely a possibility for happiness!
wooooh, that was a rant... haha
what a loser!Avana said:by the way, speaking of this, has anyone seen this thread?
http://www.canadavisa.com/canada-immigration-discussion-board/im-under-sponsorship-and-want-to-file-for-my-new-wifebaby-mother-t123553.0.html
I've refrained from answering because i dont think I can keep my cool... lol
We just did something up with a lawyer (same one who did the custody documents of his daughter) Had it signed and authenticated by Minister then translated and filed with a lawyer here (the same one who did my immigration papers). We married after 4 months and I was nervous bc of my past experience however I wouldn't do it now. We've been together almost 2 years, and I have lived with him for months. I trust him completely...long distance relationships changes the game lol I'd never do it again!! haha So he better not leave me because I'll never date a Canadian man again either. I've told him I would move to Cuba and he would be supporting me with Alimony ... it's just a joke now.... I love him so much and I have no doubt he feels the same, but there are days I ask myself...WTF am I doing?? Is this for real? Am I going to get hurt? Is he using me? But then I remember I ask myself those things in ALL my relationships...this one just happens to be a little more complicatedppsandy79 said:
but at least I'm being treated better than I ever have been, and I am learning strengths, not insecurities!!
I did marry an asshole from Canada......and DDG you are right they are everywhere.....I did the same thing...had my husband sign a prenup!!! I was royally screwed by my last husband and was not taking a chance again.....took a while for him to understand but he signed it.DDG said:
This prenup is needed when there are assets involved such as house and children correct?KJG said:
It's not needed with children per sae but if you own a home and have a lot of equity in it.....it is a good idea to have a prenup to ensure you keep your share of the equity before it becomes a matrimonial home and therefore matrimonial property. Also if you have RRSP's; a good pension plan anything like that. My reason is that I own my home jointly with my parents...so I wanted to protect their money and then to make double sure I changed the title to my house last year to me owing 1% of it and gave the other 99% to my parents. We have a written side agreement in case anything happens to me that my actual share will go to my children. Like I said earlier, was burned badly by the ex so as much as I love Yoani.....we will share equally anything we obtain once he gets here and we do it together. Did I mention I was a Law Clerkppsandy79 said:
