Feel so unhappy after moving to Canada

[kriskris]

One more suggestion.. Try to find a mentor who has a job in the field of your interest. It helps a lot.

 

[chilkootcee]

You are not the only one.
You miss your job. I miss my freedom.
I love the fact that I finally am with my wife, but neither I nor her, likes the way people treats us here.
Just because we have lots of tattoos and piercings, and my hair is very long, we're seem like animals.
She have her job, I still working with the same company I used to work for the past five years, but still really sucks when the government takes 34% of my payiment.
Theses days I was walking and an old lady made a "cross sign" when she saw me and said "you need a priest".
Everyone here wants to know about what the couple next door is doing.
I don't know if this happens in all places in Canada, but here, in Montréal, it happens a lot.
We are seriously thinking about going back to our home country. The only problem is her family. We don't want them away from her. We will give a shot, a year or two and will see how things will develop. But now, I really hate this place.

It makes me so mad to hear you are being treated like this. I know lots of people with lots of ink that seem to do okay...but racism bigotry and intolerance exist. I'm sad to hear this. I don't know what to say other than wherever you are...walk proud like you own the place...let your kindness through your actions shine through (you have provided so much advice on this forum). If people still don't respect you politely don't waste your time with them.

Sorry...you probably don't need advice but I am just trying to encourage you.

And for all those who having a difficult time...hang in there and continue to try and meet people and don't hesitate to tell people you are looking for work. Also for those you trust tell them what you are feeling.

Hugs to all of you.

C.

 

[Sa3Sa3]

You are not the only one.
You miss your job. I miss my freedom.
I love the fact that I finally am with my wife, but neither I nor her, likes the way people treats us here.
Just because we have lots of tattoos and piercings, and my hair is very long, we're seem like animals.
She have her job, I still working with the same company I used to work for the past five years, but still really sucks when the government takes 34% of my payiment.
Theses days I was walking and an old lady made a "cross sign" when she saw me and said "you need a priest".
Everyone here wants to know about what the couple next door is doing.
I don't know if this happens in all places in Canada, but here, in Montréal, it happens a lot.
We are seriously thinking about going back to our home country. The only problem is her family. We don't want them away from her. We will give a shot, a year or two and will see how things will develop. But now, I really hate this place.

I never expected to hear that from you. With all the positive energy that you are adding to the forum.
Very sad to hear that and as others said. Don't even bother yourself with them. It is their problem not you.

 

[DanSlh]

Thank you guys!
It's very kind from all of you! <3
Like I said, I'm trying to live in the best way I can and trying to be as much supportive as I can on this forum.
If thing don't get better, maybe we can give a shot living at the federal side!
Again, a big thank you!

 

[mikeymyke]

Before I even finished reading your post DanSlh, I had a strong feeling you were living in Montreal. It's not exactly the most friendly city in Canada, although I can tell you that many other cities outside Quebec will not judge you so much on your appearance.

As for the OP, she's living in Vancouver. Her inability to find a job might depend on what type of job she's looking for.

 

[DanSlh]

Before I even finished reading your post DanSlh, I had a strong feeling you were living in Montreal. It's not exactly the most friendly city in Canada, although I can tell you that many other cities outside Quebec will not judge you so much on your appearance.

As for the OP, she's living in Vancouver. Her inability to find a job might depend on what type of job she's looking for.

Thank you, Mikey.
Yes, Québec have a fame
It surprises me a lot!
Thanks for your kind words!

 

[MiriamT]

Hi,

I already got my PR here. However, after I moved to this country, I feel so depressed! I rezlized it is very difficult to get a job here. I had a good job and made good money back home. It looks like that going back to do my profession I need to go back to school and take several exams. Now I am sitting home every day,and I have been sending out many resumes but no luck at all!!These days, I feel strongly to move back home becasue I am not happy with my lifestyle in Canada. I don't know what to do? The face is that I am married and my husband is nice to me, but I just don't feel happy at all, and this depressing feeling is getting worse. Is there anyone feeling the same way as me?

Hi,

Hang in there, things will get better. I too got very depressed not long after my arrival in Vancouver, it was a pretty terrible winter for me. My situation was very different from yours: I had already been living abroad for 1.5 year when I moved up here, had turned 21 years old just a few weeks before and didn't have a career to give up and start anew elsewhere. I couldn't do much because I was here on a visitor visa (we sent in our application 2.5 months after my arrival, and our process only ended at the end of November - almost a year after my arrival), my English wasn't that good, I didn't have any friends here, I had several difficulties with my compatriots, my (now ex) husband insisted that my mental health issues (depression) were just because I wanted to be depressed and got in the way every time I brought up asking for professional help... Life sucked.

It hasn't been easy and I've faced several whirlwinds in my life in Canada... But it's been worth it. And after much procrastination, I've finally applied for citizenship because this is my country.

Read carefully the advice of those who went through the validation process to exercise the profession in Canada, and try to get moving. Make friends, get to know what your city has to offer.

Best of luck.

 

[MiriamT]

Thank you, Mikey.
Yes, Québec have a fame
It surprises me a lot!
Thanks for your kind words!

When I visited Montréal I'd been told that some people could be rude to me upon realizing I don't speak French (perhaps thinking I'm someone who never bothered to learn the language?) and had heard so many negative things about it from friends and family, that I arrived a bit scared. But mostly excited to be there. I did notice a significant difference between the cities in just about anything and everything when visiting - not negative or positive, just different -, and decided that I'm moving to Montréal next summer (or maybe even earlier, in the spring). Vancouver will always be in my heart, though, I've been here for close to 7 years now.

If things don't get better and la belle province just isn't for you (plural; this includes your spouse obviously), then just give a shot elsewhere and see where it takes you.

Boa sorte.

 

[ttrajan]

In Alberta many people lost their jobs due to oil recession and gone back to their home countries. We don,t know when the situation will improve?

 

[mitchieescarlos]

After reading your post I'm suddenly more agitated about getting there. I am just waiting for approval for PR and I already feel nervous about moving to a new country. I guess, having my husband and his parents there give me a little bit of relief. But I'm worried that I will be stuck at home and won't know what to do when I arrive. Right now, I'm trying to get all the information about school and possible work and how I can prepare for it.

I hope you find some comfort knowing that you're not alone. Be strong.

 

[Aquakitty]

After reading your post I'm suddenly more agitated about getting there. I am just waiting for approval for PR and I already feel nervous about moving to a new country. I guess, having my husband and his parents there give me a little bit of relief. But I'm worried that I will be stuck at home and won't know what to do when I arrive. Right now, I'm trying to get all the information about school and possible work and how I can prepare for it.

I hope you find some comfort knowing that you're not alone. Be strong.

BC at least is a hiker, cyclist and mountain bikers etc. paradise. We also have some of the best skiing/boarding in the world. We have lakes out the wazoo. If you like the outdoors, Canada is for you. But, in my opinion, Canada is not the most exciting country. Maybe because I've lived here too long. My main goal in life is actually to travel to many other countries.

The US has many more advantages due to their high population, but I just love the fact that I can actually go into the woods here and see no people, hear no engines. And, our Walmarts aren't crowded as hell! ;D Sure our cell phone plans are rip off, but at least you don't have to worry about someone pulling a gun on you at any moment.

Every country has their advantages and disadvantages, nowhere is perfect. There are places in the US that would scare the living daylights out of you, not so much like that in Canada. I don't even feel bad walking down East Hastings in Vancouver like I did in some places we were in, in the US. So take the good with the bad. The country is what you make of it.

As for the recession alarmist talk, well blame Harper for putting too many of our eggs into the boom and bust oil basket. Overall Canada has a ton of resources that should be used wisely, not exploited. On the world stage looking to the future, Canada is going to be a big player as we have much of the world's resources. As much as I am an environmentalist at heart, the fact remains that our land is valuable here, so we will never be that badly off.

We just need to be smart about how we use our land. Use, not exploit.

 

[canvis2006]

unless you own a home or live in a nice condo, your lifestyle in an apartment building can't be great at all....

 

[Snowisland]

Aquakitty is right on about crime here in U.S. My Canadian husband kept insisting that I go to the corner store or go pick up drive thru food at 11 PM or even 1 AM. But then he got the ABC13 news app. Day after day he would see the crime. Now when his friends ask why I am moving to a small town in the Northern Region of BC where it has two to four feet of snow from October thru May, he shows them the news for the day. I am always on guard and never trust anyone. My house was burglarized in June. Everyone has security cameras because alarms don't scare burglars. Cameras at least show police who to arrest. Only good thing is you can shoot them before they enter your house..oh yea, everyone packs a gun. I was at a corner store and heard a child ask his daddy why does that man have a gun? I froze and thought this is gonna be bad.. But his dad said cause he is a police officer. Thank God.
But when I am in BC I am completely relaxed and happy. i shovel snow for exercise. I will not work as I am retired at a very early age and receive a pension but I will volunteer at the hospital clinic if they let me. There is a shortage of doctors and maybe if I work for free it will free up at least a little money to keep the clinic open. There is always something to do, you just have to find it.

 

[Snowisland]

I should clarify..I am an office worker..not a doctor.

 

[Aquakitty]

Aquakitty is right on about crime here in U.S. My Canadian husband kept insisting that I go to the corner store or go pick up drive thru food at 11 PM or even 1 AM. But then he got the ABC13 news app. Day after day he would see the crime. Now when his friends ask why I am moving to a small town in the Northern Region of BC where it has two to four feet of snow from October thru May, he shows them the news for the day. I am always on guard and never trust anyone. My house was burglarized in June. Everyone has security cameras because alarms don't scare burglars. Cameras at least show police who to arrest. Only good thing is you can shoot them before they enter your house..oh yea, everyone packs a gun. I was at a corner store and heard a child ask his daddy why does that man have a gun? I froze and thought this is gonna be bad.. But his dad said cause he is a police officer. Thank God.
But when I am in BC I am completely relaxed and happy. i shovel snow for exercise. I will not work as I am retired at a very early age and receive a pension but I will volunteer at the hospital clinic if they let me. There is a shortage of doctors and maybe if I work for free it will free up at least a little money to keep the clinic open. There is always something to do, you just have to find it.

Yea the gun culture is the weirdest thing to get used to in the US. My husband's dad was a tow truck driver for many years, and he showed me his bosses semi automatic hand gun he had just sitting in a freaking desk. There's no way in hell I was gonna touch that thing! My husband told me about growing up with friends who's family had 10 guns in the house, like what? Sure someone might have hunting rifles and whatnot here in Canada, but handguns and *censored word* all over your house with kids? Why is that needed. In my mind the only purpose of handguns is to kill someone. Ug. Just happy my husband's family has no interest in guns.