Does This Really Go Okay? Success stories?

[GorgonGal]

I've been in love with my best friend for about five years. I am 25 and live in the U.S. as a citizen. He is 22 and lives in Alberta as a Canadian citizen. Over the years we've occasionally 'joked' about having him move here or me there and so on, but I've never let myself take it seriously because I didn't think it was possible. I am considered poor and went into the workforce after high school, no college degree. He makes a decent wage but also could not afford a college degree and went right into the workforce. I haven't even been on a date in over two years because nobody else is him, so I've just more or less accepted this bittersweet forever friendzone thing. Months ago while we up late talking as usual, he said he would marry me if I would move there. I didn't know if he was joking or not and was afraid to ask. He has joked about sponsoring me before, but this time was different. But I didn't want to get my hopes up. Started doing some online searches today, and my head is kind of spinning.

Does anyone have a success story? Either their own or someone else's? How it went, how it worked? I'm gathering a lot of information, but honestly more than anything I'd just like to read from some living humans that this could actually be possible. Sorry if this seems all melodramatic, I don't mean to be. Just trying to explain why I am asking for stories.

 

[zardoz]

Unless there are specific circumstances that would actively prevent it, there is no good reason why this should not work for you.
Before you even think about the process of immigrating, sort out what you both really want to do with your relationship, as sponsorship is a 3 years commitment and there is also a mandatory 2 years cohabitation rule now. If you marry, it's going to have to be a "real" marriage and you need to be very sure that it has a good foundation.

 

[canadianwoman]

There is no reason it could not work out well. American citizens are rarely refused, for one thing.
Your lack of a college degree does not matter. Neither does his education. The fact he is working is in your favour.
If you two love each other, get married and have him sponsor you. When people are refused it is usually because the visa officer does not believe the relationship is genuine, so you need to gather proof that your relationship is real. However, they are more suspicious about couples with very different backgrounds, especially when the applicant is from a poorer country. In your case, this does not sound like it is an issue.

 

[Catou]

I agree with zardoz. If you are married it's very likely that you would be able to immigrate. However, you are both young and marriage is a huge commitment. You need to think about whether you have spent enough time together, face-to-face, and know each other well enough to want to make a lifetime commitment. We always present ourselves at our best when talking long-distance and it doesn't show the little habits that can be hard to take when you are living with them. Starting life over again in a new country, away from friends and family, is also a big step.

It sounds like you really love each other, which is great. However, you both need to really think things through and decide on what you want for your relationship. That is far more important than checking out immigration processes.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do.

 

[keesio]

The biggest unknown to me is how serious he was about marrying you and if you want to marry him. If both of you are 100% sure you want to get married and want to spend the rest of your lives together, then I'd say the rest of your worries about sponsorship is not anything to be too concerned about (other than waiting for the process to go through)

 

[Malinka]

If both of you are absolutely sure you want to get married, from immigration point of view I see no reason why it should not work out for you. You also have the advantage of being visa exempt. A lot of people on this forum wish for the luxury of being able to visit each other or even live together during the proces, and you will have it. Good luck.