Do they check age differences?

[BostonGirl]

My fiance is 18 nd I am 31,
we look alike in age and we are perfectly matched in every way.

Is this a problem, our difference?
I never thought of it before.

 

[nyssa]

They do take it into consideration when trying to assess the genuinity of the relationship/marriage. Things like: age difference, backgrounds, religion, whether or not your family attended the wedding, etc are all taken into account. It's not that you are automatically denied, just "red flagged".

Compile your evidence and try to shine as much light on your relationship as possible. If you have the photos and letters and communication evidence like any other couple would then your age difference will not be the heavily weighed factor in the end. However, your evidence will be crucial to showing CIC that you really are genuine.

 

[sbwv09]

I would defiantly address it in the portions where you explain your relationship. You provide birth certificates and other documents with your DOB, so they will find out, even if you look the same age.

 

[bonacker]

since they're interested in examining how long the applicants have been in a relationship with their significant other -- and the longer the better in broad terms, as far as proving the relationship's validity-- your age difference might also play a role. (I mean, you can't exactly claim you've been together for years . . . without other kinds of alarm bells ringing, ya know?)

 

[Lois Lane]

your age difference will raise more than one red flag without a doubt and needs to be addressed carefully and in detail in your application. You may look similar in age, but your life experiences will be totally different, and perhaps your maturity levels....but maybe not....each case is unique...and so you need to express that in detail

best of luck

 

[iarblue]

The longer you have been together the better,but since he is only 18 chances are you have not been together long.Is there anyway you can be together for a bit before you apply as it will just make your case stronger but if not and you apply you can bet on an interview.And hopefully by that time your married and have been together for a while.
All you can do is apply and cross those fingers and toes.To tell you the truth there is no way of anyone on here can tell you what the officer at immigration will be thinking.So all you can do is try.If its refused marry spend time together reapply.

 

[BostonGirl]

We have known eachother nearly 14 months. We have been dating for nearly 10 months.
We lived together for 4 months (Jan through Apr), we plan to marry end Sept (him coming here, meeting folks)
Then sending the aplication in end of Oct (using immigration lawyer)
This is a total of 19 months friends, 15 months of that in a truely loving relationship

 

[iarblue]

Boston using a lawyer is a waste of money and they honestly have too many clients and stuff just gets lost.Save your money do it yourself.Love just make sure you collect a lot of proof and pics especially with friends and family.

 

[javcil]

My husband and I have a 15-year age gap (he is 23). He is actually 6 years older than my eldest child. Although they questioned him about this in his interview, they didn't seem to really take issue with it.

 

[louieong]

I totally agree with iarblue, lawyer are a waste of time. You only need them if your case is special or difficult. Base on what you post, it seems that your situation is totally normal.

There is no law, that states age is a factor when falling in love. ;D all is equal, as long as you can prove your relationship is real. Then no reason for you to worry. It's not going to be easy but it's all worth it.

Provide, wedding invitation cards, wedding pictures, pictures with your family, love letters, emails, txt messages, most of all wedding certificate.

Good luck to you and your future husband.

 

[Lois Lane]

a husband at 18 and a large age difference will no doubt raise many red flags

my husband is 20 years younger (same age as my son)
they grilled him at the interview but also in the CAIPS once we received the refusal
it was clear that was a big issue
that being said since you are not sponsoring from a third world country it will be easier
but it doesn't take away from the fact that you need to address it in the application in full
noting how similar your interests and values are, how the maturity level you are both at is comparable
plans for the future together...ie buying a home, a car what ever that looks like for you
along with all the other proof you will supply....may all turn out smooth

best of luck

 

[boyee6576]

Im 44 my husband is 34 and have been in a relationship for 7 years it was a problem for the officer but not too big. I think since your better half is 18 they might be a bit tougher on you. I hope I am wrong but better to be prepared.

 

[buddhadimple]

I don't know the answer but (and not to be judgemental) if I were an immigration officer, I would consider your age difference to be an issue since your relationship started before he turned 18 (in the interests of child safeguarding). I would want to be very sure that he was not being groomed and that he was in a healthy state of mind with the whole thing. Recent legislation has been passed and is also being reviewed in this area, especially to prevent internet predators. If I were you, I'd expect an interview.

 

[BostonGirl]

We met in real life and were friends in real life for months.
I have never dated anyone younger than me, I didn't ask to fall in love
with someone younger either.

I am not even close to an internet predator, I only ever speak to friends on the computer.
This is the first message board i've signed up for, and even this is just for him.

 

[buddhadimple]

I never said you were an internet predator... ???