CHC, Islamabad Spouse Sponsorship Timeline 2009 -2010

[sahibzada_2010]

Congratulations to all of those who got ppr and redmical. Please remember us in the prayers.

 

[mainbucha]

Any news from November 2010 aplicants ?

 

[Danny4450]

I have both Urdu and English nikahnama and I sent only English ones and marriage registration certificate from nadra issued to me. But the thing is that in Urdu nikahnama my wife don't have her last name because at the time of nikah the imam shaib forgot and he wrote everything in the nikah time from her national ID card. However the English nikahnama is similar as the Urdu ones but I have her last name in it. Would that be a problem?

It might be an issue as you know CHC-I is very picky, so you might want to have her last name added on the Urdu copy before they request for an Urdu copy.

 

[wes786]

Any news from November 2010 aplicants ?

Not that I have heard of, only sept and a few octobers so far that I have seen

 

[BLOOMINGFLOWER]

My in-laws backhome received both ‘Re-medical examination' and ‘Passport Request' letter from CHC-Islamabad. (Finally Alhamdulillah) But My wife is residing with me now in Canada on a TRV Visa, and we are expecting a child soon Insha'Allah in 3 months. There might be a possibility that DMP will not take X-RAY, Will the X-RAY from the previous medical examination be considered? OR CHC-Islamabad will wait for X-RAY after delivery? In that case, it may delay the visa issuance.

Secondly CHC-Islamabad letter 'Passport Request' states "If we do not receive your passport(s) within fifteen (15) days we will presume that you are no longer interested in proceeding to Canada and your file will be closed" which contradicts another point in the same letter "Please submit your passport after completing medical". And 'Request for Remedical' letter states "If you do not book an examination within 30 days, or fail to undergo an examination, we will assume that you are no longer interested in proceeding to Canada and will refuse you Canada". ahhh! I am lost here, Since I am aboard and courier will take times, I need to make which one is the correct deadlines, any ideas? To me it seems like they are putting pressures but I don't want to ignore it at the same time.

Any guidance/links on courier-management for passports?

When we are submitting the documentation along with the passport - is there any documentation that we need to submit as a proof of my wife re-medical exam?

another suggetions is to prob speed up your correspondence would be contact the mp in your area. They usually can fwd email from their office faster and mostly likely CHC will also respond to them alot faster than to our email....

 

[sahibzada_2010]

It might be an issue as you know CHC-I is very picky, so you might want to have her last name added on the Urdu copy before they request for an Urdu copy.

Thank you Dan bro. Can I write by my own in it but there is no space in it. I can make another one but the registration will be late or so.

Thanks again

 

[became-a-loner]

I have both Urdu and English nikahnama and I sent only English ones and marriage registration certificate from nadra issued to me. But the thing is that in Urdu nikahnama my wife don't have her last name because at the time of nikah the imam shaib forgot and he wrote everything in the nikah time from her national ID card. However the English nikahnama is similar as the Urdu ones but I have her last name in it. Would that be a problem?

I am not aware of Nadra Issued Marriage certificate ....... can you please guide on that ..... I only have one signed and stamped by Nikkah Khawan which we took to NADARA to change her last name to mine

 

[bestplace4u]

I am not aware of Nadra Issued Marriage certificate ....... can you please guide on that ..... I only have one signed and stamped by Nikkah Khawan which we took to NADARA to change her last name to mine

no need to go to nadra shadra for Marriage Ceritificate, Nikah Nama is acceptable when its stamped by the registrar that is it. Then get it translated, acceptable world wide.

 

[Zaamin]

Married or not... you should read this.
Marriage.

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

Really touched.

 

[Zaamin]

Alhumdulillah, my wife received passport and Visa today.. Thanks everyone for support and dua.. Inshallah you guys will be getting one soon..

Congrats bro. God bless u.

 

[ainy inam]

Alhumdulillah, my wife received passport and Visa today.. Thanks everyone for support and dua.. Inshallah you guys will be getting one soon..

salam.........kitnay days bad ayaa apki wife ka visa????

 

[ainy inam]

Really touched.

REALLY NICE.........

 

[Zaamin]

Its a certificate issued by same Union Council, where marriage is registered. The secretary UC enters all the information in NADRA database and take a print on NADRA letterhead, and that computer is attached with centeral data.

I am not aware of Nadra Issued Marriage certificate ....... can you please guide on that ..... I only have one signed and stamped by Nikkah Khawan which we took to NADARA to change her last name to mine

 

[Danny4450]

Thank you Dan bro. Can I write by my own in it but there is no space in it. I can make another one but the registration will be late or so.

Thanks again

I don't think that the registration would be late. You have already registered it, all you need to do is get the last name added on it.

 

[sahibzada_2010]

I am not aware of Nadra Issued Marriage certificate ....... can you please guide on that ..... I only have one signed and stamped by Nikkah Khawan which we took to NADARA to change her last name to min

Nadra Marriage Certificate can be issued by Nadra with a requested of you with a valid National ID card and valid Nikahnama. To get this you have to go to your union council town where you can get Birth Certificate / MARRIAGE REGISTRATION CERTIFICATE/ death certificate etc. Marriage registration certificate is pretty much similar as Nikahnama but in different format and it says when and where the wedding held. How old was the bride and groom at the time of marriage. The imam who register the nikah his name and NIC number.

Hope this is helped.