CHC, Islamabad Spouse Sponsorship Timeline 2009 -2010

[became-a-loner]

Nope, it's not popular in Pakistan but many prefer this when the wedding is done with a non-resident specially the parents of the bride as they do not want a nawasa/nawasi without the bride's husband being with her to support her emotionally and be there for the birth of the kid.

Also, trust is another issue, what if the guy does full shadi and never returns? or what if the immigration does not work out and he send out a divorce (God forbid) + considering other suspicions + fikermand rishteydars and their microscopic monitoring of the husband's character = Nikah seems like a smart solution....she is married yet not married...

are you representing CHC-ISB in justifying rukhsati...

 

[became-a-loner]

ok someone has to give me +1 because I am superstitious about my +13 rating .......... Tori-wife if you dont give me +1 . I will give you +1 to make u +13 ..........equally evil...

 

[ayesha_a]

Congratts ayeshaa for your remedical request. You will have your ppr in 1-3 months after u submit your remedical.. Goodluck and pray for us..

Thanks Alpha! How are you feeling now? Out of the hospital? Please take care specially in this weather when dengue etc is getting very common...:s

 

[Danny4450]

ok someone has to give me +1 because I am superstitious about my +13 rating .......... Tori-wife if you dont give me +1 . I will give you +1 to make u +13 ..........equally evil...

There .. I gave you a +1. Btw 13 could have been lucky 13 for you.. lol

 

[anzee]

Yes, thats the same doubt they have in that way ppl feel secure. if u get married out side. i think they r right but how to convince chc-i

Nope, it's not popular in Pakistan but many prefer this when the wedding is done with a non-resident specially the parents of the bride as they do not want a nawasa/nawasi without the bride's husband being with her to support her emotionally and be there for the birth of the kid.

Also, trust is another issue, what if the guy does full shadi and never returns? or what if the immigration does not work out and he send out a divorce (God forbid) + considering other suspicions + fikermand rishteydars and their microscopic monitoring of the husband's character = Nikah seems like a smart solution....she is married yet not married...

 

[Tor-wi]

Hate to admit but it is true...that until rukhsati a shadi is not really shadi technically...however, correction here is...according to CIC's definition, acceptable marriage is when it is in accordance with the laws and regulations of the country in which you are getting married...so we all are married...just some of us did not do rukhsati...they better expand on the definition and add the commencement of marriage part in it too

are you representing CHC-ISB in justifying rukhsati...

 

[Tor-wi]

just for the post you wrote before and it made me laugh...I will give you a +1

ok someone has to give me +1 because I am superstitious about my +13 rating .......... Tori-wife if you dont give me +1 . I will give you +1 to make u +13 ..........equally evil...

 

[Danny4450]

Which brings me to another question...why is Nikah without Rukhsati so popular in Pakistan?

Its not popular too popular in Pakistan, its mostly popular with the foreign groom/bride cases.

Lets say if one of these things happen, then the girls life would be hell:

1) The guy turns out to be a jerk and doesn't want the girl to come to the foreign country.
2) Immigration refuses the cases, saying that the relationship is not genuine and appeal is rejected.
3) The girl gets pregnant and her family has to take care of everything and until the girlt gets a visa there is a lot of stress due to the What ifs.


If the rukhsati isnt done, the girls immediate family and the close family can tell people that only nikkah was done in the previous marriage and then its easier for her to marry another guy rather than staying divorced. There is a fault in peoples mentality and thinking there and that needs to be changed for the betterment of the society.

 

[ayesha_a]

Hate to admit but it is true...that until rukhsati a shadi is not really shadi technically...however, correct here is...according to CIC's definition, acceptable marriage is when it is in accordance with the laws and regulations of the country in which you are getting married...so we all are married...just some of us did not do rukhsati...they better expand on the definition and add the commencement of marriage part in it too

But even otherwise, its a common practice in Pakistan because you are husband wife by contract, religiously,legally, morally...however, till, for instance, studies arnt completed the girl stays with the parents till the actual 'rukhsati/vidaai'- its easier for them to go out in public, or communicate and socialize with the grooms family, since alot of families are not that liberal and do not approve of their daughters meeting their fiance in public, or roaming around alone or for their daughter to visit the fiance's house. So the Nikkah is performed, since they do become husband and wife legally, but since they are not living together the marriage isnt consummated...

 

[wes786]

anyone send the link of supplementary form they request in letter.

http://www.canadainternational.gc.ca/pakistan/assets/pdfs/PakistaniNationals-Form-en.pdf

 

[lonly widout hubby]

But even otherwise, its a common practice in Pakistan because you are husband wife by contract, religiously,legally, morally...however, till, for instance, studies arnt completed the girl stays with the parents till the actual 'rukhsati/vidaai'- its easier for them to go out in public, or communicate and socialize with the grooms family, since alot of families are not that liberal and do not approve of their daughters meeting their fiance in public, or roaming around alone or for their daughter to visit the fiance's house. So the Nikkah is performed, since they do become husband and wife legally, but since they are not living together the marriage isnt consummated...

how did u got remedical so earlyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy???????????????????????????
i m augest i didnt heard nythng?
did u do nythng special ???

 

[Tor-wi]

Yeah, I guess it has taken the place of engagement now which is less reliable since it can be broken off more easily (take off the ring and mo per maro - kahani khatam ;D)…even if let’s say one side family is not happy with the relationship but agrees to tie the knot due to their manjo/laila crying too many tear and flooding the country, the other side will demand Nikah (mostly girl’s side demands it) instead of engagement. Breaking Nikah not only has consequences in the society but also in the religion…as Khuda ka Khauf factor resides in such relations…and I agree with you Ayesha…I’ve seen cases that you have stated as well…

But even otherwise, its a common practice in Pakistan because you are husband wife by contract, religiously,legally, morally...however, till, for instance, studies arnt completed the girl stays with the parents till the actual 'rukhsati/vidaai'- its easier for them to go out in public, or communicate and socialize with the grooms family, since alot of families are not that liberal and do not approve of their daughters meeting their fiance in public, or roaming around alone or for their daughter to visit the fiance's house. So the Nikkah is performed, since they do become husband and wife legally, but since they are not living together the marriage isnt consummated...

 

[ayesha_a]

how did u got remedical so earlyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy???????????????????????????
i m augest i didnt heard nythng?
did u do nythng special ???

Nahi yaar I didnt do anything...You'll hear something soon just keep praying

 

[ayesha_a]

Yeah, I guess it has taken the place of engagement now which is less reliable since it can be broken off more easily (take off the ring and mo per maro - kahani khatam ;D)...even if let's say one side family is not happy with the relationship but agrees to tie the knot due to their manjo/laila crying too many tear and flooding the country, the other side will demand Nikah (mostly girl's side demands it) instead of engagement. Breaking Nikah not only has consequences in the society but also in the religion...as Khuda ka Khauf factor resides in such relations...and I agree with you Ayesha...I've seen cases that you have stated as well...

Haan true...Girls side demand it usually taakey bandey ki koi credibility ho and he cant run away...though, those who intend cheating cheat anyway

Acha khair, koi mujey +1 he dey de... :

 

[depression]

Haan true...Girls side demand it usually taakey bandey ki koi credibility ho and he cant run away...though, those who intend cheating cheat anyway

Acha khair, koi mujey +1 he dey de... :

ye +1 se kia hota hai yeh point system koi mje btaye ga plz