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Card from flowers after a fight, include or not?

internationalvelvet

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My fiance sends me flowers from time to time and I've held onto the florist's cards and am scanning them to include in our packet. But two of them (out of maybe 20) happen to be apology cards. Part of me says include them because normal couples fight once in a while and don't have non-stop fairytale romance. But part of me is worried they'll decide our relationship isn't solid. Should I include cards from apology flowers or is it a bad idea?
 

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internationalvelvet said:
My fiance sends me flowers from time to time and I've held onto the florist's cards and am scanning them to include in our packet. But two of them (out of maybe 20) happen to be apology cards. Part of me says include them because normal couples fight once in a while and don't have non-stop fairytale romance. But part of me is worried they'll decide our relationship isn't solid. Should I include cards from apology flowers or is it a bad idea?
I inculded apology cards/emails in our package...I thought it proved a real relationship with real problems and that we overcame them......
 

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I would include them if you have a lot of evidence your relationship is genuine and you have no 'red flags'.

I would not include them if your relationship has any elements that the visa officer is going to question: a big age difference, the applicant is from a poor country, a short internet-based relationship. etc.
 

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I think if you've got a lot of other evidence, it won't make much of a difference. So it just depends whether you want to include it or not.
 

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How long ago are the apology cards? Two cards in the last month is way different than two cards that were a couple years ago.
 

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I'd think it would show that your relationship is strong enough to survive the rough spells any couple goes through and won't fall apart the first time you have a fight.
 

internationalvelvet

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Isometry said:
How long ago are the apology cards? Two cards in the last month is way different than two cards that were a couple years ago.
It's two cards over the course of a seven year relationship. We've got a pretty solid long standing relationship.
 

internationalvelvet

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canadianwoman said:
I would include them if you have a lot of evidence your relationship is genuine and you have no 'red flags'.

I would not include them if your relationship has any elements that the visa officer is going to question: a big age difference, the applicant is from a poor country, a short internet-based relationship. etc.
We're roughly 3.5 years age difference.

Met online, but our relationship proof is pretty strong, we've been together for roughly seven years. We've got emails, trips together, texts, have stayed with each other's families on visits, trip itineraries, plane ticket stubs, and spend roughly 8 hours a day on the phone on a daily basis.

I'm a US citizen and my fiance is a Canadian, so hopefully no big red flags.
 

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internationalvelvet said:
We're roughly 3.5 years age difference.

Met online, but our relationship proof is pretty strong, we've been together for roughly seven years. We've got emails, trips together, texts, have stayed with each other's families on visits, trip itineraries, plane ticket stubs, and spend roughly 8 hours a day on the phone on a daily basis.

I'm a US citizen and my fiance is a Canadian, so hopefully no big red flags.
Include them! My hubby and I fought as friends and as a couple, I included an e-mail where we were friends and I was mad at him and he apologized haha.