I am in the same boat... my husband wants me to move to Egypt, but my dad is a widower and I am all he has, I wont leave him ..... it would be devastating for him... so fight it is... and ladies, since we have nothing but time..... we can accomplish quite a bit I think ;DMrs Selim said:@ canjen my husband never applied before ,this was his first time and he was deneid a visa cause im older and he is muslim and he believe my husband use me for a bridge to come too Canada lol..i wish i was in office there i would tell him what i think of it...my husband told him that he wants me to move to Egypt but that i cant cause my parents are elderly and i have a son here ,thats why i want my husband come to Canada..we will fight for this and not give up..
To be honest, I dont think it is possible to make sense of it... he talks primarily of age and religion... ...he says our age gap is too large... 8 years... yet he has approve larger gaps... he is suspicious of converts... and if u are christian with a muslim that is not "custom" ... this is no game plan with him... it simply depends what side of the bed he woke up onCanJen said:I'm not saying this man is right in his thinking; I'm just trying to make sense of it all, trying to see the differences in the cases so that we might understand it a bit better, to help other applicants and to help people appealing their cases. If we know what the specific problems are, we can better address them.
I am on your side - I hope you see it that way.
i was thinking about that too , camping with hunger strike ( wearing a shirt saying the reason of my protest ) but then i realized that the police won't leave me alone because i'm alone and easy haunted .Ahmegan said:@ canjen I appreciate you helping us in trying to make sense of it all. Of course I know you are on our side, sorry if I sounded opposite, I am just really stressed and tired of waiting for the embassy to answer us, and its extremely frustrating.
I agree there is nothing that makes sense in his reason...he said there is a big age gap in my marriage-6 years, i think that is pretty normal, and he complained to me that people shouldn't marry of a different religion, well that's bogus too because we are both Muslims. At this point I think there is more behind why he is rejecting these cases. I really think he cannot accept all of them so he has to reject some. I had a lot of evidence to show him and he refused to look at it. I had a lot to say about my marriage after he asked only simple questions like how old are you and where do you work--and then your rejected because your marriage isn't genuine. But he ignored what I said and instead told me Im a liar and my husbands a liar and we are all damned if we want to try again-yet he was for some reason encouraging me more than normal to appeal the case after he rejected us? I swear my husband and I prepared for hours and hours and we gave really strong answers. Especially after being in a car accident and there being no sign of remorse...something just doesn't make sense to me. I will be speaking with someone here in Egypt before I return to Canada to try and figure this out, even camping in the embassy if I have to lol.
Ahmegan said:@ canjen I appreciate you helping us in trying to make sense of it all. Of course I know you are on our side, sorry if I sounded opposite, I am just really stressed and tired of waiting for the embassy to answer us, and its extremely frustrating.
I agree there is nothing that makes sense in his reason...he said there is a big age gap in my marriage-6 years, i think that is pretty normal, and he complained to me that people shouldn't marry of a different religion, well that's bogus too because we are both Muslims. At this point I think there is more behind why he is rejecting these cases. I really think he cannot accept all of them so he has to reject some. I had a lot of evidence to show him and he refused to look at it. I had a lot to say about my marriage after he asked only simple questions like how old are you and where do you work--and then your rejected because your marriage isn't genuine. But he ignored what I said and instead told me Im a liar and my husbands a liar and we are all damned if we want to try again-yet he was for some reason encouraging me more than normal to appeal the case after he rejected us? I swear my husband and I prepared for hours and hours and we gave really strong answers. Especially after being in a car accident and there being no sign of remorse...something just doesn't make sense to me. I will be speaking with someone here in Egypt before I return to Canada to try and figure this out, even camping in the embassy if I have to lol.
I think you guys really need to as a couple together and with 10 couples or more go to the embassy together, this should make the ambassador listen and meet you and hopefully look at your cases again.Egyptian man said:i was thinking about that too , camping with hunger strike ( wearing a shirt saying the reason of my protest ) but then i realized that the police won't leave me alone because i'm alone and easy haunted .
if we are so many supported also by our canadian spouses , believe me we can do something , before we have to wait another year and have for the appeal
Hi Ahmegan, maybe there is something to this theory, about there being a quota/cap on accepted cases? If he didn't give you an opportunity to argue your case, yet encouraged you to appeal, maybe there was some remorse or guilt being expressed. Did he seem genuine when he encouraged you to appeal, or was it more of a cocky remark? Might be worth investigating....Ahmegan said:@ canjen I appreciate you helping us in trying to make sense of it all. Of course I know you are on our side, sorry if I sounded opposite, I am just really stressed and tired of waiting for the embassy to answer us, and its extremely frustrating.
I agree there is nothing that makes sense in his reason...he said there is a big age gap in my marriage-6 years, i think that is pretty normal, and he complained to me that people shouldn't marry of a different religion, well that's bogus too because we are both Muslims. At this point I think there is more behind why he is rejecting these cases. I really think he cannot accept all of them so he has to reject some. I had a lot of evidence to show him and he refused to look at it. I had a lot to say about my marriage after he asked only simple questions like how old are you and where do you work--and then your rejected because your marriage isn't genuine. But he ignored what I said and instead told me Im a liar and my husbands a liar and we are all damned if we want to try again-yet he was for some reason encouraging me more than normal to appeal the case after he rejected us? I swear my husband and I prepared for hours and hours and we gave really strong answers. Especially after being in a car accident and there being no sign of remorse...something just doesn't make sense to me. I will be speaking with someone here in Egypt before I return to Canada to try and figure this out, even camping in the embassy if I have to lol.
I agree, he told me my 2 year relationship is for him to come to Canada. Right now we are in Sharm El Sheikh but will move to live in the embassy any day now lolMrs Selim said:@ Ahmegan..it doesn't make sence ..my husband had same exp this man told him he is using me for a bridge to get into Canada ..yes im sure some do but most are legit relationships and by reading ur post urs is for sure legit..were are you in Egypt? my husband lives in Giza Cairo
I agree, because it isnt fair if we have to empty our wallets in an appeal if there is a free and more effective option...yes worried about the police but i dont think they can do anything if its not violentEgyptian man said:i was thinking about that too , camping with hunger strike ( wearing a shirt saying the reason of my protest ) but then i realized that the police won't leave me alone because i'm alone and easy haunted .
if we are so many supported also by our canadian spouses , believe me we can do something , before we have to wait another year and have for the appeal
no of course not, I was only saying the officer is accusing me of lying, thats what i was doing is sharing what he told me. I appreciate all the support everyone is givingBarbara Baraka said:Dear Ahmegan, First we all share the pain and hard time you are going through, even with us who got the visa still feel your pain, but you should know better that we don't accuse you for lie or anything, everyone here tell his/her experience, we are not here to judge each other, we here to support each other. Believe me, I have no doubt that CanJen give you all her support, she is not against you, she is totally with you and for you. The point is councilor might be racist with you on higher level than he was with us, so, believe me on that, don't give up and keep fighting, listen to everyone and if you need any help be sure we are here for you.