Here's the problem: Who to say what's considered genuine relationship and what isn't? Just be honest, IRCC use guidelines to approve applications because it costs them too much money and time to deter marriage fraud so they just pulled out easy way--the condition 51
Too bad, Condition 51 had never been more helpful than giving the sponsor the power to rule the sponsored. Every genuine relationship will fight and there's no doubt about it. Unless it's about Disney fairy-tale, I don't buyt that every genuine relationship will always be happy. But this is reality we're living, not Disneyland. when a couple fight, they can get emotional and when they're emotional they make an irrational decision to shut up the other. This is when a genuine relationship can turn abusive in one moment and the sponsor will use the condition to say, "it's my way or highway." Condition 51 doesn't let the sponsored to have the chance to stand up and speak out what they think it's wrong in their relationship, because they're scared to talk. Believe me. The condition actually force the sponsored to eventually comes from being genuine to become silent and eventually the sponsor will take advantage of it without even knowing. And sometimes this isn't because the sponsor is abusive, but because the lack of communication that is resulted from fear of the sponsored that they will have to go home.
But someone could say, "Oh, if the relationship doesn't work, then the sponsored should've gone home." Just be realistic. Going back home isn't that easy. It's just like sending a cat back to the wild after living in your home. And sometime the sponsored got stuck in their dilemma as to whether or not to go home or to to stay with the partner and hope he/ she will change. And that will put the sponsored into a prolonged time of abusive relationship, which, again, caused by the condition51. There's a paradox, if you think about it.
Some of you might not have a problem with your relationship and dare to say that the condition51 won't bother you. But are you sure? Maybe not for the sponsor but it might for the sponsored . . . and they can be silent about it. Maybe some sponsored aren't bothered by the condition because the sponsors are kind, but some aren't. The bottomline is, back to what I say, you cannot generalize what is considered IDEAL genuine relationship, and the condition will uniquely affect every relationship