Thanks for all the replies....the thing is my wife is shy, gets nervous easily, and i would hate her to feel responsible if anything should go south....I mean, she's my wife, and we're in this together. And seeing it would be the single most important "interview" of our lives, I see no reason why they shouldn't encourage attendance for both....I mean seeing the two together and asking both sides should be considered in such an important decision.
At the very least, if they request an interview for us, ii'm going for support for my wife. If they let me in, that's great, if not, I'll be in the waiting room.
Thanks again!!