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[GandiBaat]

Why does the wife's parents not move in as well?

Thats a sticky issue indeed, typically they don't. It becomes a cause of contention at times.

 

[Impatient Dankaroo]

either way i wish there are no kids who'll go shooting people randomly, oh yes the result of western parenting and family life.
maybe i have seen only the worst so i am always leaning to the middle ground. not gonna lean to the east or west.
what i like about the west- Terrain
what i like about the east- Elements of zen
what i like about the north- Aurora
what i like about the south- Tropical climate

 

[dankboi]

I'm getting the vibes you think you need to justify your points to me - please understand that you don't. I respect your opinion, and I am not having this discussion to try to change your mind or point out the "wrongness" in your opinion. I was just giving my perspective (as someone who is outside of your culture and certainly do not understand/appreciate it).

If it sounded like I was coming at you for your cultural stance, please know that was not my intention at all .

you def were trying to jump on him, weren't you boss, you needn't worry.
impatient kankaru and his team will keep everything under control.

 

[dankboi]

 

[Psyoptica]

you def were trying to jump on him, weren't you boss, you needn't worry.
impatient kankaru and his team will keep everything under control.

You are like that annoying Chinese guy in my work group who’s always interfering during a serious discussion.

Just kidding

 

[Deleted member 994371]

you def were trying to jump on him, weren't you boss, you needn't worry.
impatient kankaru and his team will keep everything under control.

Sad kangaroo can't partake in cultural discussions cause that might reveal where he is from.

@ImpatientKangaroo should place a bet - if he gets his PR within 6 months, he will reveal is his COR.

 

[Impatient Dankaroo]

Our leader Sir Holthe was streaming, we missed it

 

[wonderbly]

Thats a sticky issue indeed, typically they don't. It becomes a cause of contention at times.

Which is something that I see as a fundamental flaw in most cultures - even mine. If my husband's parents can live with us and raise our kids, why can't mine? Are they not good/smart/knowledgeable enough? If my husband needs his parents around him, why can't I also have my parents around?

What is good for the goose should also be good for the gander, no? But our society is set up in such a way that the bride's parents are often relegated. I don't think that's fair. It all stems from the fact that females are generally second citizens in Africa (not sure if it's the same in India and Asia generally?).

Heck, there's a saying in my culture that someone with only girl children might as well not have any child at all! Makes me so sad.

 

[dankboi]

You are like that annoying Chinese guy in my work group who’s always interfering during a serious discussion.

Just kidding

kankaru ain't around so someone should take that wheel

 

[wonderbly]

I am glad that as a woman I was born here (west from a cultural perspective) because if I had to born again I probably wouldn't have this much luck. I am happy that i don't have to do everything by myself at home, we split housework. If I want to leave I can leave whenever I want. (the good thing is that I don't want to leave I stay with him because I want to)

I'm glad too. I was not born in the western world, but I am privileged to have been raised in an African home where culture is strong, but we were all treated as equals regardless of what happens to be between our legs. I was lucky to also marry someone with similar upbringing, particularly in the area of shared chores and decision making .

 

[slavicgirl]

Which is something that I see as a fundamental flaw in most cultures - even mine. If my husband's parents can live with us and raise our kids, why can't mine? Are they not good/smart/knowledgeable enough? If my husband needs his parents around him, why can't I also have my parents around?

What is good for the goose should also be good for the gander, no? But our society is set up in such a way that the bride's parents are often relegated. I don't think that's fair. It all stems from the fact that females are generally second citizens in Africa (not sure if it's the same in India and Asia generally?).

Heck, there's a saying in my culture that someone with only girl children might as well not have any child at all! Makes me so sad.

If I was reborn and had a chance to choose my gender I would 100% opt for being a male. Not because I am trans or anything, I just want to enjoy the privileges that men do even in western societies. We are equal in terms of law but not 100% equal from a cultural perspective even though serious progression has been made in the past decades.

 

[Impatient Dankaroo]

If I was reborn and had a chance to choose my gender I would 100% opt for being a male. Not because I am trans or anything, I just want to enjoy the privileges that men do even in western societies. We are equal in terms of law but not 100% equal from a cultural perspective even though serious progression has been made in the past decades.

I'm a guy and if I could be reborn, I would be a guy

 

[dankboi]

If I was reborn and had a chance to choose my gender I would 100% opt for being a male. Not because I am trans or anything, I just want to enjoy the privileges that men do even in western societies. We are equal in terms of law but not 100% equal from a cultural perspective even though serious progression has been made in the past decades.

Not because I am trans or anything
you trans?

 

[GandiBaat]

Which is something that I see as a fundamental flaw in most cultures - even mine. If my husband's parents can live with us and raise our kids, why can't mine? Are they not good/smart/knowledgeable enough? If my husband needs his parents around him, why can't I also have my parents around?

A hell lot of this have to do with patriarchal setup that has existed for long... That being said, a lot of "bugs" are getting fixed starting from dowry, inheritance laws etc.

 

[slavicgirl]

Not because I am trans or anything
you trans?

no and i don't even feel like it