Hi all,
I need your honest opinion, and I beg any of you to help me.
A and B have been in a long-distance relationship for five years. A is a Canadian citizen and works full-time, but A has muscular weakness, which means A cannot walk and uses a wheelchair. Despite this, A is highly educated, good-looking, generous, and intelligent. B is also educated, hardworking, and religious person. However B comes from a different background, B's family has concerns about their marriage because of A's disability. B has fought with their family for approval, and after many attempts, they finally agreed, but not completely.
A and B had a wonderful relationship when B was back home. They always found a way to resolve their issues during their conversations. They made plans for their future together, discussing everything from marriage and starting a family and ensuring equal access to each other’s finances and etc. However, since moving to Canada, things have shifted, and they haven’t been able to accomplish any of their goals.
Since B's family did not agree to the marriage, A's parents felt similarly, believing that B was only interested in A for Canadian status. B has always disagreed with this idea, insisting that their feelings are genuine and focused solely on A. Given A's physical disability, A's parents agreed to to allow A sponsor B on one condition: that B would pay a certain amount of money. They feared that if B took advantage of A, and come to Canada but did not marry A, then the money would protect A's interests. B agreed to this condition but has not taken any action or made a plan to make the payment, continually postponing it. After some time, B changed their mind, saying they would pay once they arrived in Canada, but A's parents disagreed.
Just so you know, involving family is a cultural norm and considered essential. B's family chose not to get involved, as it’s not a topic they prefer to discuss; only B was in contact with A and their parents.
After three years in their relationship, A realized that reaching an agreement or resolution was not happening. A loves B deeply, and B feels the same way. However, A understood that this situation couldn’t go on forever. A wondered how much longer they could wait, especially with no hope of B making the payment to A’s parents.
A decided to hire a lawyer and sponsor B through a conjugal application. A’s parents do not know that A has paid for everything. B has a business back home and used to make good money, but during COVID-19, the business declined, and B did not earn anything. As a result, A started supporting B financially. A did this because A wanted to build a life with B, who made many promises to work hard and provide A with a good life. However, the application was denied multiple times because immigration officials felt their relationship wasn't genuine. A persevered, refusing to give up, and even filed for a court hearing to seek the judge's approval for the application.
Application approved and B is now in Canada.
Due to their religion, A and B cannot live together until they are married. While the application was in process and before B traveled to Canada, B made financial promises to cover the costs of their small wedding with seven guests. As B's departure approached, there was still no update from B about where he would stay or how he would manage expenses, as he has no money. B has often said he would pay but has not provided a timeline. Legally, A is financially responsible for B, but B knows that A also has financial obligations. B does not expect A to support B financially because B is supposed to find a job and work.
When B arrived in Canada, A gave some money to B to send to A’s parents as reassurance that B was marrying A for love and not just for Canadian status. A’s parents accepted the money but held onto it, waiting for B to verbally approve its use for the small wedding. Due to cultural norms, they felt it would not be appropriate to use it or plan the wedding without B’s permission. B, however, did not speak up about this; being unshy and outgoing, B struggled to address the topic of marriage. In some cultures, it is customary for the groom’s family to initiate such discussions, and while some men might take the lead, many do not.
Eventually, the money was returned to B, who rented a room and began looking for a job. They maintained good contact over the phone, but when A suggested planning outings to restaurants or exploring the city, B consistently refused. Eventually, B found a cash job and started working long hours for a small wage.
After two months in Canada, B kept working but didn’t plan the wedding. A and their family often reached out to discuss wedding plans. They had a family meeting and agreed to get married in the summer. However, in private talks, B never started the conversations; it was always A. As summer got closer, A and their family asked B to begin planning, but B hesitated, saying B would block A because A always starts an arguments.
A’s parents wanted to understand why B was postponing everything and if he had changed his mind due to A’s disability. However, B consistently said no; he still wanted to marry A. Nevertheless, his unexplained delays frustrated A and made her wish that B would be clearer about his intentions. Instead, B avoided giving a reason and changed the subject.
Finally B got tired and inform A that they will get married in the fall.
B kept working but continued to say there was no chance to save money and hide his income from A. A believes B now has enough money to get married and start a new life together, but B insists there is no money.
In one of the conversations B suggested that A should start changing and learn not to ask B about money and even after get married.
Now that fall is approaching, A wants to plan the wedding, but B said he wants to travel back home to see family first and will plan the wedding upon B’s return.
A feels increasingly frustrated and disheartened by B’s constant postponements. B promised to marry A, but each time they discuss their plans, B finds a reason to delay. It feels as though A’s hopes are being dismissed, leading A to believe that B is taking advantage of their trust. A is left wondering if B truly values their relationship or if those promises are just empty words. Each delay makes A question whether B is genuinely committed to their future together, leaving A feeling anxious and uncertain about what lies ahead.
A and B had an argument a week ago, and A stopped communicating with B. B, however, didn’t seem to care and continued with life as usual.
A is heartbroken and deeply in pain because B has been lying to A. B works and saves money but never spends any on A or even on themselves. Even though B made many promises, A now sees that B never planned to keep them. A feels hurt and used, left in lots of pain and full of tears, knowing B never truly cared as they said they did. A now know that B is taking advantage of A.
A cannot forget B or move on because A is deeply attached to B and loves B so much. Despite all the pain and disappointment, A’s heart remains with B. Letting go feels impossible, as A’s love for B is too strong, making it hard to imagine life without them, even though B has hurt A.
Sometimes, A thinks about contacting the right department to file a marriage fraud lawsuit against B but isn’t sure if it’s the right thing to do. Other times, A hesitates, hoping that just seeing B from a distance, now that B is in Canada, might help heal some of the pain. However, A is afraid that B might use this chance to meet someone else, get married, and live a happy life while leaving A to suffer alone. A feels torn between taking action and holding on to the hope that B will change.
Any legal advice would be greatly appreciated.
I need your honest opinion, and I beg any of you to help me.
A and B have been in a long-distance relationship for five years. A is a Canadian citizen and works full-time, but A has muscular weakness, which means A cannot walk and uses a wheelchair. Despite this, A is highly educated, good-looking, generous, and intelligent. B is also educated, hardworking, and religious person. However B comes from a different background, B's family has concerns about their marriage because of A's disability. B has fought with their family for approval, and after many attempts, they finally agreed, but not completely.
A and B had a wonderful relationship when B was back home. They always found a way to resolve their issues during their conversations. They made plans for their future together, discussing everything from marriage and starting a family and ensuring equal access to each other’s finances and etc. However, since moving to Canada, things have shifted, and they haven’t been able to accomplish any of their goals.
Since B's family did not agree to the marriage, A's parents felt similarly, believing that B was only interested in A for Canadian status. B has always disagreed with this idea, insisting that their feelings are genuine and focused solely on A. Given A's physical disability, A's parents agreed to to allow A sponsor B on one condition: that B would pay a certain amount of money. They feared that if B took advantage of A, and come to Canada but did not marry A, then the money would protect A's interests. B agreed to this condition but has not taken any action or made a plan to make the payment, continually postponing it. After some time, B changed their mind, saying they would pay once they arrived in Canada, but A's parents disagreed.
Just so you know, involving family is a cultural norm and considered essential. B's family chose not to get involved, as it’s not a topic they prefer to discuss; only B was in contact with A and their parents.
After three years in their relationship, A realized that reaching an agreement or resolution was not happening. A loves B deeply, and B feels the same way. However, A understood that this situation couldn’t go on forever. A wondered how much longer they could wait, especially with no hope of B making the payment to A’s parents.
A decided to hire a lawyer and sponsor B through a conjugal application. A’s parents do not know that A has paid for everything. B has a business back home and used to make good money, but during COVID-19, the business declined, and B did not earn anything. As a result, A started supporting B financially. A did this because A wanted to build a life with B, who made many promises to work hard and provide A with a good life. However, the application was denied multiple times because immigration officials felt their relationship wasn't genuine. A persevered, refusing to give up, and even filed for a court hearing to seek the judge's approval for the application.
Application approved and B is now in Canada.
Due to their religion, A and B cannot live together until they are married. While the application was in process and before B traveled to Canada, B made financial promises to cover the costs of their small wedding with seven guests. As B's departure approached, there was still no update from B about where he would stay or how he would manage expenses, as he has no money. B has often said he would pay but has not provided a timeline. Legally, A is financially responsible for B, but B knows that A also has financial obligations. B does not expect A to support B financially because B is supposed to find a job and work.
When B arrived in Canada, A gave some money to B to send to A’s parents as reassurance that B was marrying A for love and not just for Canadian status. A’s parents accepted the money but held onto it, waiting for B to verbally approve its use for the small wedding. Due to cultural norms, they felt it would not be appropriate to use it or plan the wedding without B’s permission. B, however, did not speak up about this; being unshy and outgoing, B struggled to address the topic of marriage. In some cultures, it is customary for the groom’s family to initiate such discussions, and while some men might take the lead, many do not.
Eventually, the money was returned to B, who rented a room and began looking for a job. They maintained good contact over the phone, but when A suggested planning outings to restaurants or exploring the city, B consistently refused. Eventually, B found a cash job and started working long hours for a small wage.
After two months in Canada, B kept working but didn’t plan the wedding. A and their family often reached out to discuss wedding plans. They had a family meeting and agreed to get married in the summer. However, in private talks, B never started the conversations; it was always A. As summer got closer, A and their family asked B to begin planning, but B hesitated, saying B would block A because A always starts an arguments.
A’s parents wanted to understand why B was postponing everything and if he had changed his mind due to A’s disability. However, B consistently said no; he still wanted to marry A. Nevertheless, his unexplained delays frustrated A and made her wish that B would be clearer about his intentions. Instead, B avoided giving a reason and changed the subject.
Finally B got tired and inform A that they will get married in the fall.
B kept working but continued to say there was no chance to save money and hide his income from A. A believes B now has enough money to get married and start a new life together, but B insists there is no money.
In one of the conversations B suggested that A should start changing and learn not to ask B about money and even after get married.
Now that fall is approaching, A wants to plan the wedding, but B said he wants to travel back home to see family first and will plan the wedding upon B’s return.
A feels increasingly frustrated and disheartened by B’s constant postponements. B promised to marry A, but each time they discuss their plans, B finds a reason to delay. It feels as though A’s hopes are being dismissed, leading A to believe that B is taking advantage of their trust. A is left wondering if B truly values their relationship or if those promises are just empty words. Each delay makes A question whether B is genuinely committed to their future together, leaving A feeling anxious and uncertain about what lies ahead.
A and B had an argument a week ago, and A stopped communicating with B. B, however, didn’t seem to care and continued with life as usual.
A is heartbroken and deeply in pain because B has been lying to A. B works and saves money but never spends any on A or even on themselves. Even though B made many promises, A now sees that B never planned to keep them. A feels hurt and used, left in lots of pain and full of tears, knowing B never truly cared as they said they did. A now know that B is taking advantage of A.
A cannot forget B or move on because A is deeply attached to B and loves B so much. Despite all the pain and disappointment, A’s heart remains with B. Letting go feels impossible, as A’s love for B is too strong, making it hard to imagine life without them, even though B has hurt A.
Sometimes, A thinks about contacting the right department to file a marriage fraud lawsuit against B but isn’t sure if it’s the right thing to do. Other times, A hesitates, hoping that just seeing B from a distance, now that B is in Canada, might help heal some of the pain. However, A is afraid that B might use this chance to meet someone else, get married, and live a happy life while leaving A to suffer alone. A feels torn between taking action and holding on to the hope that B will change.
Any legal advice would be greatly appreciated.
