Victim of marriage fraud

[Mike2015]

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I married and brought my filipina wife to Canada.Her attitude towards me was the total opposite of when she was in Phillipines.I caught her on an online dating site 2 weeks after her arrival.She befriended several Filipina also married and brought to Canada and ended up divorced taking their spouses for a ride as well as being given subsidized housing and welfare.These Filipinas coached and advised my wife on how to leave me and get a big payout.I was never allowed to meet any of her freinds,never invited to their gatherings and parties.My wife refused to sleep in bed with me as soon as she arrived,pushed me away if I ever tried to hug her.Refused to even cook one meal or help with any house chores.I asked that we attend marriage counselling,she refused.After 1 year living together she pushed my buttons and I raised my voice to her for the first time.She was in an adjacent room and recorded me yelling with her phone.She then laughed and said "got it" as she put her phone away.The next day she called 911 and showed them her phone and claimed abuse.I was not charged with any crime.She then left with the police and got a restraining order against me.We both lawyered up and I was ordered to give her $3000 a month for 2 years.Her claims of abuse were not beleived by social workers,she did not get subsidized housing or welfare.She hooked up with a new guy and is sponging off him the last 2 years.I brought all this to the attention of Canada government as I feel she used me to get into Canada.Now she has received a letter saying the government is investigating her.I am concerned for our child as I do not want him sent to the Phillipines with her.

 

[scylla]

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I married and brought my filipina wife to Canada.Her attitude towards me was the total opposite of when she was in Phillipines.I caught her on an online dating site 2 weeks after her arrival.She befriended several Filipina also married and brought to Canada and ended up divorced taking their spouses for a ride as well as being given subsidized housing and welfare.These Filipinas coached and advised my wife on how to leave me and get a big payout.I was never allowed to meet any of her freinds,never invited to their gatherings and parties.My wife refused to sleep in bed with me as soon as she arrived,pushed me away if I ever tried to hug her.Refused to even cook one meal or help with any house chores.I asked that we attend marriage counselling,she refused.After 1 year living together she pushed my buttons and I raised my voice to her for the first time.She was in an adjacent room and recorded me yelling with her phone.She then laughed and said "got it" as she put her phone away.The next day she called 911 and showed them her phone and claimed abuse.I was not charged with any crime.She then left with the police and got a restraining order against me.We both lawyered up and I was ordered to give her $3000 a month for 2 years.Her claims of abuse were not beleived by social workers,she did not get subsidized housing or welfare.She hooked up with a new guy and is sponging off him the last 2 years.I brought all this to the attention of Canada government as I feel she used me to get into Canada.Now she has received a letter saying the government is investigating her.I am concerned for our child as I do not want him sent to the Phillipines with her.

This is a child custody question. You need to hire a family lawyer to assist you.

 

[Kaibigan]

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I am concerned for our child as I do not want him sent to the Phillipines with her.

In the past you posted about the difficulties in this relationship and the fact that DNA testing showed that you were not the biological father of 2 of her children. Is this now a third child and you are biological father this time? I ask because the answer is relevant to whether your wife could easily return to the Phils with the child. If you are biological father, or you legally adopted the child, then your rights as a parent are equal to those of your wife.

I believe your wife arrived here in 2016 and has lived here since. So Canada, and whatever province you happen to be in, is the "habitual residence" of wife and child, as that term is used in the Hague Convention, the Divorce Act of Canada and some provincial legislation, such as BC's Family Law Act.

If you are the biological father, or parent/guardian through adoption, you are not likely to have a hard time obtaining an order barring her from relocating to the Philippines with the child. If you are a stepparent, you have really no chance to block the mother from moving where she likes with the child. If you are someone with status to oppose a "relocation application", Canadian courts apply the "best interests of the child" test. If mum shows that relocating to the Phils will serve those interests better than remaining in Canada, the move will be sanctioned.

So, while @scylla is correct that it's a child custody question, I would not waste time and money with a lawyer if you are not in a position to assert a claim to custody, i.e., you are not a biological father, or parent/guardian through adoption.

Looking back at your post, I see you being concerned about the child being "sent to the Phillipines with her." I take that as a reference to Canada ordering her deported for immigration fraud. That is unlikely in the extreme, particularly with her being here for 7+ years already. So, you only have to worry about the child ending up in the Phils if returning there would be her choice.

 

[Mike2015]

Thanks,one child is mine,DNA proof and the other is a step child.

 

[andrew3081]

Dam OP, that at is something like this happened to you.
some Filipina can be very mean and try to scam the system.