Sorry to hear the visit is not going well. No, you don't have a right to send her back home.
On a different note, I would not recommend asking your mother to leave without first of all having a talk with her. You may also need to set boundaries. I would take her to lunch and find out what is really bothering her, etc and do the same with your husband. Sometimes a parent may act out because they are perceiving certain things negatively, so they step into "protection mode". So it's really important to get to the root of the matter, address it and communicate clearly what you need from her and your husband. Remember, it is your home and family and the only person who can be asked to leave in this situation is your mom and you don't want to have to do that, but it could come to that if things don't improve.
My cousin had similar problems with her mother-in-law (MIL). Her MIL was old school and believed that a woman should serve her husband, cook him meals, etc. My cousin wasn't into that type of life and her hubby was happy with that. His mama wasn't though and despite her protests he didn't really deal with it until things came to a head. They asked her to leave, which she did, and never returned to their home until her death. Eventhough they apologized, things were never quite the same again. I share this story to illustrate how by not setting boundaries they ended up in this situation.
Hope things work out well for you.
MissPeak said:
My husband and I have sponsored my mother from the Philippines to visit Canada for 15 months as super visa . The visit is not going well . Its been 4 months now that she is here and nobody is getting along(husband) . Being that we are sponsoring her . Do we have the right to send her back home? What are the guidelines????
