Tech Based Relationship

[truesmile]

True, we did not. But after finding this forum AFTER the fact I couldn't help the feeling that our application was somewhat ahem "anorexic".

 

[Rob_TO]

True, we did not. But after finding this forum AFTER the fact I couldn't help the feeling that our application was somewhat ahem "anorexic".

Haha ya same with us. Our whole application fit into a nice regular sized envelope and our whole "proofs" part was maybe 20 pages total. Then i read on this site how some people have 1,000 or more pages and need to send the app in a series of boxes that weigh several pounds!!

I really wish some VOs would post here sharing what they actually go through in reviewing these things

 

[sariss]

My husband and I played world of Warcraft together for 3 years before meeting.
He visited for 2 weeks in 2009, then for 4 weeks in 2010. He came here for 6 months in 2011 and we got married 2 months after he got hers. I applied in May 2012, ans he came back that month.
Our application took 7 months to process. We had no real proof of our meetings except plane tickets. We made a joint bank account together through TD in 2010 and he has been my beneficiary. I also got him onto my lease before applying.
I hope things go well for you!!

 

[parker24]

We are training to be interviewers.

Danggit, you blew our cover!!! :-X

Hubby got me into games, we didn't meet ON games, but online. Then when he came here to visit, he had his xbox in his suitcase and got me HOOKED. Now I have my own Xbox 360, plus I play games on the PC and we share a PS3. Used to have a Wii, but never used it. I got him a 64 last (2011) Christmas. He was over the moon.

He's currently talking to his best friend on Xbox 360 while sitting at the main screen of Darkness 2... I'm not into games like he is, I do like COD:BO2 and Minecraft and Persona etc etc but I'm more of a book person...or Sims person

 

[amikety]

Danggit, you blew our cover!!! :-X

Hubby got me into games, we didn't meet ON games, but online. Then when he came here to visit, he had his xbox in his suitcase and got me HOOKED. Now I have my own Xbox 360, plus I play games on the PC and we share a PS3. Used to have a Wii, but never used it. I got him a 64 last (2011) Christmas. He was over the moon.

He's currently talking to his best friend on Xbox 360 while sitting at the main screen of Darkness 2... I'm not into games like he is, I do like COD:BO2 and Minecraft and Persona etc etc but I'm more of a book person...or Sims person

The Sims rule.

But I won't be in another relationship with a gamer. My ex-husband taught me my lesson.

 

[parker24]

The Sims rule.

But I won't be in another relationship with a gamer. My ex-husband taught me my lesson.

You learned a lesson?! Holy crow!

 

[noshi11]

Since the discussion is about long distance relationships. My husband and I knew each other for 8.5 years online before we actually met for the first time in real! We got married the next day. I've been concerned about the biggest red flag. ie not meeting each other in those 8.5 years. I hope the VO will not see this as a red flag but rather our love that made us patiently wait for that long.

I love hearing about long distance relationships

 

[amikety]

You learned a lesson?! Holy crow!

So mean Grandma!

 

[amikety]

Since the discussion is about long distance relationships. My husband and I knew each other for 8.5 years online before we actually met for the first time in real! We got married the next day. I've been concerned about the biggest red flag. ie not meeting each other in those 8.5 years. I hope the VO will not see this as a red flag but rather our love that made us patiently wait for that long.

I love hearing about long distance relationships

8.5 years is a long time. Most scammers push for marriage ASAP and wouldn't wait for 8 years! The length of your relationship alone speaks volumes.

 

[parker24]

Since the discussion is about long distance relationships. My husband and I knew each other for 8.5 years online before we actually met for the first time in real! We got married the next day. I've been concerned about the biggest red flag. ie not meeting each other in those 8.5 years. I hope the VO will not see this as a red flag but rather our love that made us patiently wait for that long.

I love hearing about long distance relationships

Nah I think you're good! Hubby and I were friends for 4 years before we started dating, we dated for 4 months then got engaged I think you're good! It shows you had a real relationship/friendship before the marriage, which is how so many relationships are in close contact!

 

[aerogurl87]

Am I the only person who read this:

We are fully capable of having a relationship purely long distance as physical presence isn't important to us at all and we love each other too much to need a body next to us for it to continue

I really hope this was sarcasm. And I'd get as much proof for the relationship if I were you, as your application sounds like it will have a few red flags.

 

[ZebraJCH]

Am I the only person who read this:

I really hope this was sarcasm.

I don't know why you feel that is a problem. Otherwise, it is a case of, "You need to be physically in front of me for me to love you." which is not what we're about at all. How we were utilizing what we had when we were in different countries worked extremely well and if in a hypothetical situation where I could not live in Canada to be with him and he could not be in the United States to be with me and all other options failed, then that is what we may end up doing if we can't find anywhere else. Hypothetically speaking as that is an extreme situation, but we're both comfortable with that as we have been comfortable with it way before we even began to discuss who was moving in with who.

Also, yes we already have quite a ton to prove our communication over that period as well as other documents that I have already stated earlier.

 

[aerogurl87]

I don't know why you feel that is a problem. Otherwise, it is a case of, "You need to be physically in front of me for me to love you." which is not what we're about at all. How we were utilizing what we had when we were in different countries worked extremely well and if in a hypothetical situation where I could not live in Canada to be with him and he could not be in the United States to be with me and all other options failed, then that is what we may end up doing if we can't find anywhere else. Hypothetically speaking as that is an extreme situation, but we're both comfortable with that as we have been comfortable with it way before we even began to discuss who was moving in with who.

Also, yes we already have quite a ton to prove our communication over that period as well as other documents that I have already stated earlier.

That isn't the problem, the problem is that you said "physical presence isn't important to us" and you mentioned that "we both have tons to do in long distance so there's no real reason for us to visit the other because that is just a waste of money right there." Which if that is the case, it makes me wonder why you are applying for PR in the first place. It sounds to me like being in the same place for you isn't all that important and you could take it or leave it. And you say mentioning the one you love is a waste of money, which to me is a red flag in itself. CIC wants to know that you are committed to trying to be together in person, and that doing so is important to you both. They also want to know that you are well integrated into one another's lives and have a real world based relationship or want to have one. I'm not saying you don't, but what you wrote tells me that you're going to need to include lots more evidence than the average US/Canadian couple. Do you have photos from your wedding? Pictures of you two around each other's respective families and friends? Ticket stubs from your trip to meet up? Or anything else really other than your time spent together on Steam? Just things to seriously think about before you apply.

 

[ZebraJCH]

Yep, got all those bases covered.

And you know what I mean. This isn't stuff I'm going to submit to the VO about us not needing to be together physically to be in a relationship, but it is true.

And I'm not sure about me mentioning the one I love is a waste of money, the context was that a whole bunch of trips back and forth would be a pretty exhaustive expense.

Basically, what I am saying is this. Even though we are capable of having a long distance relationship through and through, we are wanting to be physically together. We are not indifferent, it would suck pretty hard if we couldn't be together, but we would be willing to go through that if we have to. It is important, but not that important to go, "Oh well, time to find another man then." and wander off. We are committed no matter the distance.

 

[aerogurl87]

Yep, got all those bases covered.

And you know what I mean. This isn't stuff I'm going to submit to the VO about us not needing to be together physically to be in a relationship, but it is true.

And I'm not sure about me mentioning the one I love is a waste of money, the context was that a whole bunch of trips back and forth would be a pretty exhaustive expense.

Basically, what I am saying is this. Even though we are capable of having a long distance relationship through and through, we are wanting to be physically together. We are not indifferent, it would suck pretty hard if we couldn't be together, but we would be willing to go through that if we have to. It is important, but not that important to go, "Oh well, time to find another man then." and wander off. We are committed no matter the distance.

I get that, but it just didn't come off that way in your original post to me. So I apologize. And yeah trips back and forth from the US to Canada can be pretty expensive. I think my boyfriend and I spent at least 5k on trips to go and visit one another for the year we were in a long distance relationship. Good luck!