Stress in your relationship?

[mohanas12]

This process is a long and tedious one. With so many miles between u and ur significant other the visa process can only be so much more stressful. My SO and i lOve one another greatly but the stresss just adds up and we snap at each other and argue a lot more that there is no sign of visa after so many months of waiting.
Are we the only ones or is this normal. Please share your experiences and advice.

 

[aileenruss]

very normal, we just try to understand each other..

 

[Danny4450]

very normal, we just try to understand each other..

Normal for you as it only took 3 months for your PPR since your application was filed. There are couples who are waiting for more than 2 years. It certainly builds frustration over time when the other half is miles away from you and you can't do anything about it.

 

[dair2dv8103100]

OHHHHHHH I can sooo relate...

Things are NOT good for us right now. I am beginning to wonder what the heck I was thinking. Only seeing each other for 3 weeks this year (January 2011) is eating us up. With the cost of the application and my poor financial situation there is no chance for me to visit him again any time soon.

Jan 21 is our 1st wedding anniversary and there is still silence from the VO.

That being said.. I know one person on the forum that has been in this process for 4.5 YEARS... how she does it.. I don't know.

 

[asmallant]

Yes, I have bless from Buddha, I live in WA now. We were broken for 9 months
We need more blesses.

 

[Arezou]

This process is a long and tedious one. With so many miles between u and ur significant other the visa process can only be so much more stressful. My SO and i lOve one another greatly but the stresss just adds up and we snap at each other and argue a lot more that there is no sign of visa after so many months of waiting.
Are we the only ones or is this normal. Please share your experiences and advice.

We are waiting since 8 months for a good news. But still nothing! We try to support each other emotionally. We are practicing patience! Both of us know that no one can not do anything. Therefore we try to busy ourselves with our jobs and then there is not time for argues.

 

[Canadagirl85]

Yes, its very normal at least I think. I can not imagine the stress your going through being miles away from one another. I am lucky and my wife is here with me in Canada(in land app) but this whole process puts ALOT of strain on our relationship too. I thank god every day that I beleive that our love is strong enough to go through this. I know its very hard but you have to think the same. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I always tell my wife after we have a fight that this process is teaching us so much about our relationship, that after this nothing can ever come between us I try to keep that in mind. Maybe you can too! Stay strong! Wishing you nothing but the best in the new year

L

 

[emrn]

This process is a long and tedious one. With so many miles between u and ur significant other the visa process can only be so much more stressful. My SO and i lOve one another greatly but the stresss just adds up and we snap at each other and argue a lot more that there is no sign of visa after so many months of waiting.
Are we the only ones or is this normal. Please share your experiences and advice.

Yeah I know what you mean. Not a week that lasts that we don't argue. I even had to stop working to give him peace of mind and to minimize the arguments. I stay home most of the time my laptop's on 24/7. But that's the thing after the arguments u talk things through and it makes your love more stronger. You just have to increase your patience and understand each other more. Happy New Year to you

 

[emrn]

This process is a long and tedious one. With so many miles between u and ur significant other the visa process can only be so much more stressful. My SO and i lOve one another greatly but the stresss just adds up and we snap at each other and argue a lot more that there is no sign of visa after so many months of waiting.
Are we the only ones or is this normal. Please share your experiences and advice.

Yeah I know what you mean. Not a week that lasts that we don't argue. I even had to stop working to give him peace of mind and to minimize the arguments. I stay home most of the time my laptop's on 24/7. But that's the thing after the arguments u talk things through and it makes your love more stronger. You just have to increase your patience and understand each other more. Happy New Year to you

 

[rjessome]

OHHHHHHH I can sooo relate...

Things are NOT good for us right now. I am beginning to wonder what the heck I was thinking. Only seeing each other for 3 weeks this year (January 2011) is eating us up. With the cost of the application and my poor financial situation there is no chance for me to visit him again any time soon.

Jan 21 is our 1st wedding anniversary and there is still silence from the VO.

That being said.. I know one person on the forum that has been in this process for 4.5 YEARS... how she does it.. I don't know.

They live together in a third country.

 

[aerogurl87]

Normal for you as it only took 3 months for your PPR since your application was filed. There are couples who are waiting for more than 2 years. It certainly builds frustration over time when the other half is miles away from you and you can't do anything about it.

No need to be angry because hers was approved quickly. I will say this though. Although my boyfriend and I are lucky enough that I was able to secure a job transfer to a company in Canada, so we can now live together during the process. When we were apart for a year, it was hell. About a year into our long distance relationship I became extremely depressed and for a period of time we did break up because of the amount of stress from being so far apart from one another. But we got back together and trudged on. Why? Because we love each other, and as long as the love is there you can find a way to make it work.

 

[sabii]

quite normal...but stress increases when spouses cant talk much and cant give time to each other....
otherwise we know its a lengthy process and its understood that it will take time.....

 

[Danny4450]

No need to be angry because hers was approved quickly. I will say this though. Although my boyfriend and I are lucky enough that I was able to secure a job transfer to a company in Canada, so we can now live together during the process. When we were apart for a year, it was hell. About a year into our long distance relationship I became extremely depressed and for a period of time we did break up because of the amount of stress from being so far apart from one another. But we got back together and trudged on. Why? Because we love each other, and as long as the love is there you can find a way to make it work.

I didn't mean to sound angry ;D. I was just pointing out that 3-4 months processing doesn't usually have that much impact on the relationship than 1-3 years of processing. 3-4 months just go by preparing for Canada and mentally preparing for the Winter here

 

[sabii]

I didn't mean to sound angry ;D. I was just pointing out that 3-4 months processing doesn't usually have that much impact on the relationship than 1-3 years of processing. 3-4 months just go by preparing for Canada and mentally preparing for the Winter here

ya, u r rite!

 

[locolynn]

They live together in a third country.

Yes, that is true! But that was AFTER we had already been separated for 3 years...enough was enough. Lol!

Lynn