aarcee said:
o your wife and her 1st husband were relatives ? I said no. The Visa Officer said, they are first cousin.your wife told you a lie.
Hi there,mantrarasa said:I attended an interview in Bangladesh on 04 December 2016. Here is my experience. I have been in the room for about 1.5 hours.
I went inside the interview room, after greetings done, I submitted all my conversations in facebook, viber, skype, text messages, 400/500 pictures, money transfer receipts, joint FDR certificates, all my educational certificates and so on. The interviewer didnt see the things well what I submitted ....just a very quick look. I was explaining everything to him.
Qsn: Do you live in Australia? I said, I have been in Australia in work and holiday Visa for 1 year.
Qsn: Do you have work permit in Australia ? I said, I had work permit while i was there but right now I dont have work permit to work in Australia. My Australian Boss wanted to Sponsor me in his company as an employee but I said to him that I am sorry, my wife lives in canada so I have to move there.
Qsn: Do you want to apply for the Canadian Work visa ? I said, no because my wife applied for me so why i am going to apply separately. Besides i am working in a company as an accountant in bangladesh.
Qsn: Is your marriage arranged ? I said yes.
Qsn: Who arranged the marriage? I said Moazzem Hossain Khan.
Qsn: But here it is said, Who introduce you to your wife? Jane Alam Moral, your wife's uncle. And he is your Family friend ? I said, he is my wife's uncle so he is my family friend too.
Qsn: Was he arranged the marriage? I said no, he introduce me and my family to my wife and her family when the matchmaker took us to my wife's uncle house.
Qsn: Where is it written about the matchmaker? I said, it is written in the form.
Qsn: No. there is nothing written like this, where is this ?? I said, give me your application so that i can help you finding out.
Qsn: After searching again and again, he found it and asked me, Here it is written that, Your "Uncle" arranged the Marriage? I said My uncle is Moazzem Hossain Khan and he arranged our marriage.
Qsn: In case of arranged marriage, the Matchmaker/Arranger introduce two parties with each other ? Your case is different and thats why it is not understandable to me. I said, In bangladeshi custom the matchmaker brings the groom to the bride's place, then the host of the family introduces the bride and her family members to the groom and his family. As in my case, the matchmaker only knew my wife's uncle, not the bride and her family, he only took me and my family to the bride's uncle's house. Then my wife's uncle introduce my wife and her family to me and my family. Visa officer was not happy with that answer. He asked, how the matchmaker is your uncle? I said, his wife and my father's elder brother's wife is cousin. In our country we called all the family friends as "Uncle". He said, This is not the way arranged marriage works. I have doubt about it.
Qsn: What is the name of your wife's first husband ? I answered.
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Qsn: How long was the relationship ? I said from 2002-2006.
Qsn: Why the marriage was dissolved ? I said, when my wife was married she and her husband were so young to carry on a serious relationship like marriage. besides there were so many differences between them, personal, habitual, cultural etc. my wife had a very tough time to cope with the new culture, new people, specially fulfilling his husband's choices.
Qsn: I can see her first marriage were dissolved just after 4 months from her landing to canada. How it is possible ? I said, My wife knew that her ex has female friends before she went to canada but after going there she came to know that her ex husband has girlfriend. As a bangladeshi girl she was so disappointed and asked for divorce.
Qsn: Do you think your wife’s first marriage was a fraud marriage ? I said, No.
Qsn: Do your wife has any connection with her 1st husband? I said, No.
Qsn: What is the name of your wife's second husband ? I answered.
Qsn: Why the marriage was dissolved? I said, My wife had been maintaining a long distance relationship for long 7 years. As his ex husband had not got visa, She wanted to settle down in Bangladesh. Besides she wanted to have baby bcz her doctor suggested her to having baby as soon as possible when she had a medical condition and that is her irregular period. She requested him again and again for take the responsibilities while she would be here but her ex refused her all the time. Then my wife’s family pressured on him. Her ex mind it and divorced her and remarried to another girl. He is with that girl now.
Qsn: So she wanted to come and settle in Bangladesh ? I said, yes.
Qsn: Did your wife sponsored for her ex husband ? I said, Yes but he didnt get the visa. Later, due to the divorce with her husband my wife withdrawed the sponsorship application.
Qsn: How many times the guy had come for the interview here ? Do you know why he was been refused visa? I said, The guy came here for 2 or 3 times for interview. I dont know why he was refused.
Qsn: When was the Divorce happened? I said, 1st January 2014.
Qsn: Why the form says, the relationship continues till 27 January 2015? I said, divorce formally works after around 1 month of divorce registration.
Qsn: She accepted you marriage proposal just 30 days later when she just ended up her 7 years marriage? I said, No she didn’t accept my proposal.
Qsn: It is written in the application “before valentines day you propose her and she accepted? I said, no it is written in the application that ‘I proposed her for a Date on Valentines Day and she accepted”. I proposed her for marriage on valentines day 2014 and she said to me that, I have some issues to tell you and my answer is no.
Qsn: I cant find it out here, where is it written? I said, go a bit further and you will find it is written. Interviewer found it written and asked me in detail. I said, on valentines day 2014, I told my wife that ‘’I want to marry you and whats your opinion? She said to me, I have something to say. Then she described her past to me. I listened to her very carefully. I intend to marry her despite her past, and convince my parents about it. Our marriage was fixed after almost 1 year by the permission of both of our families. My uncle, Moazzem Hossain Khan Arranged the marriage.
Qsn: You have done your masters and you are a good candidate for marriage market. Besides, you are the first child of your parents who got married. It is not acceptable to me at all. Besides, it is the matchmaker's duty to research about bride and groom before the marriage. How he brought someone who had been married twice before. And in that case your family should get furious on the matchmaker after knowing the truth.
I answered that, you are totally right that my parents were so angry with the matchmaker. But i came to know from my wife that the matchmaker didnt know anything about her past. Still the matchmaker doesnt know anything about my wife's past. And I myself talk to my parents, i told them I am an educated guy, I shouldnt think the same way my grandparents and the old people would think about. I want to help her. If I share my hand with her, she will be fine. Finally I have been able to convince my family"
Qsn: Did your parents were present in your marriage wedding? I said, Yes.
I again added to the interviewer, "From my childhood me and my family loved to help others and that is how i have been brought up." I tried to help her in humanitarian way. I added, I asked my wife before marriage, can you love me again ? she replied, "I am filled with love and I would be able to love 10 more times. Her words really assured me to marry her.
The Interviewer was writing all my answers in PC. He then summarized some points:
I am concerned with why your wife hide a key point that her 1st husband was her first cousin.
Why you went to Australia instead trying to go to Canada just after you marriage. It looks like you have some lack of attraction between you two. Your wife supposed to apply for you as soon as she went to canada after your marriage.
I have doubt about your marriage arrangement. Why her uncle introduce your wife to you, why not the matchmaker ?
You being a Very good candidate in marriage market, why your parents agreed to marry their 1st child to a two times divorced one.
Then the Interviewer told me to explain the points. I was explaining. Then he interrupted me saying, you're making stories. Ok, Now I have to end the interview. You have given me lots of information to think about. I will think about them. You will be notified about the result. You have to wait now.
I told the Interviewer that, Can You please have a look on my stuffs (that I have brought to the interviewer as proof of our relationship)? Then he looked them a bit seriously. He was ready to go inside. Then I thanked him and Said Good bye.
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I want your expertise help please. I am not sure how did I have been able to answer. One thing i can say, the interviewer wanted to make me extremely nervous. I was not at all nervous. I answered all looking at the interviewer. I was calm and positive.
Thank you so very much, Hasan Bhai for your kind response. I am getting new hope after your positive words.Hasan9999 said:
Hello Lovely_one,farhana766 said:
mantrarasa said:I attended an interview in Bangladesh on 04 December 2016. Here is my experience. I have been in the room for about 1.5 hours.
I went inside the interview room, after greetings done, I submitted all my conversations in facebook, viber, skype, text messages, 400/500 pictures, money transfer receipts, joint FDR certificates, all my educational certificates and so on. The interviewer didnt see the things well what I submitted ....just a very quick look. I was explaining everything to him.
Qsn: Do you live in Australia? I said, I have been in Australia in work and holiday Visa for 1 year.
Qsn: Do you have work permit in Australia ? I said, I had work permit while i was there but right now I dont have work permit to work in Australia. My Australian Boss wanted to Sponsor me in his company as an employee but I said to him that I am sorry, my wife lives in canada so I have to move there.
Qsn: Do you want to apply for the Canadian Work visa ? I said, no because my wife applied for me so why i am going to apply separately. Besides i am working in a company as an accountant in bangladesh.
Qsn: Is your marriage arranged ? I said yes.
Qsn: Who arranged the marriage? I said Moazzem Hossain Khan.
Qsn: But here it is said, Who introduce you to your wife? Jane Alam Moral, your wife's uncle. And he is your Family friend ? I said, he is my wife's uncle so he is my family friend too.
Qsn: Was he arranged the marriage? I said no, he introduce me and my family to my wife and her family when the matchmaker took us to my wife's uncle house.
Qsn: Where is it written about the matchmaker? I said, it is written in the form.
Qsn: No. there is nothing written like this, where is this ?? I said, give me your application so that i can help you finding out.
Qsn: After searching again and again, he found it and asked me, Here it is written that, Your "Uncle" arranged the Marriage? I said My uncle is Moazzem Hossain Khan and he arranged our marriage.
Qsn: In case of arranged marriage, the Matchmaker/Arranger introduce two parties with each other ? Your case is different and thats why it is not understandable to me. I said, In bangladeshi custom the matchmaker brings the groom to the bride's place, then the host of the family introduces the bride and her family members to the groom and his family. As in my case, the matchmaker only knew my wife's uncle, not the bride and her family, he only took me and my family to the bride's uncle's house. Then my wife's uncle introduce my wife and her family to me and my family. Visa officer was not happy with that answer. He asked, how the matchmaker is your uncle? I said, his wife and my father's elder brother's wife is cousin. In our country we called all the family friends as "Uncle". He said, This is not the way arranged marriage works. I have doubt about it.
Qsn: What is the name of your wife's first husband ? I answered.
Qsn
Qsn: How long was the relationship ? I said from 2002-2006.
Qsn: Why the marriage was dissolved ? I said, when my wife was married she and her husband were so young to carry on a serious relationship like marriage. besides there were so many differences between them, personal, habitual, cultural etc. my wife had a very tough time to cope with the new culture, new people, specially fulfilling his husband's choices.
Qsn: I can see her first marriage were dissolved just after 4 months from her landing to canada. How it is possible ? I said, My wife knew that her ex has female friends before she went to canada but after going there she came to know that her ex husband has girlfriend. As a bangladeshi girl she was so disappointed and asked for divorce.
Qsn: Do you think your wife’s first marriage was a fraud marriage ? I said, No.
Qsn: Do your wife has any connection with her 1st husband? I said, No.
Qsn: What is the name of your wife's second husband ? I answered.
Qsn: Why the marriage was dissolved? I said, My wife had been maintaining a long distance relationship for long 7 years. As his ex husband had not got visa, She wanted to settle down in Bangladesh. Besides she wanted to have baby bcz her doctor suggested her to having baby as soon as possible when she had a medical condition and that is her irregular period. She requested him again and again for take the responsibilities while she would be here but her ex refused her all the time. Then my wife’s family pressured on him. Her ex mind it and divorced her and remarried to another girl. He is with that girl now.
Qsn: So she wanted to come and settle in Bangladesh ? I said, yes.
Qsn: Did your wife sponsored for her ex husband ? I said, Yes but he didnt get the visa. Later, due to the divorce with her husband my wife withdrawed the sponsorship application.
Qsn: How many times the guy had come for the interview here ? Do you know why he was been refused visa? I said, The guy came here for 2 or 3 times for interview. I dont know why he was refused.
Qsn: When was the Divorce happened? I said, 1st January 2014.
Qsn: Why the form says, the relationship continues till 27 January 2015? I said, divorce formally works after around 1 month of divorce registration.
Qsn: She accepted you marriage proposal just 30 days later when she just ended up her 7 years marriage? I said, No she didn’t accept my proposal.
Qsn: It is written in the application “before valentines day you propose her and she accepted? I said, no it is written in the application that ‘I proposed her for a Date on Valentines Day and she accepted”. I proposed her for marriage on valentines day 2014 and she said to me that, I have some issues to tell you and my answer is no.
Qsn: I cant find it out here, where is it written? I said, go a bit further and you will find it is written. Interviewer found it written and asked me in detail. I said, on valentines day 2014, I told my wife that ‘’I want to marry you and whats your opinion? She said to me, I have something to say. Then she described her past to me. I listened to her very carefully. I intend to marry her despite her past, and convince my parents about it. Our marriage was fixed after almost 1 year by the permission of both of our families. My uncle, Moazzem Hossain Khan Arranged the marriage.
Qsn: You have done your masters and you are a good candidate for marriage market. Besides, you are the first child of your parents who got married. It is not acceptable to me at all. Besides, it is the matchmaker's duty to research about bride and groom before the marriage. How he brought someone who had been married twice before. And in that case your family should get furious on the matchmaker after knowing the truth.
I answered that, you are totally right that my parents were so angry with the matchmaker. But i came to know from my wife that the matchmaker didnt know anything about her past. Still the matchmaker doesnt know anything about my wife's past. And I myself talk to my parents, i told them I am an educated guy, I shouldnt think the same way my grandparents and the old people would think about. I want to help her. If I share my hand with her, she will be fine. Finally I have been able to convince my family"
Qsn: Did your parents were present in your marriage wedding? I said, Yes.
I again added to the interviewer, "From my childhood me and my family loved to help others and that is how i have been brought up." I tried to help her in humanitarian way. I added, I asked my wife before marriage, can you love me again ? she replied, "I am filled with love and I would be able to love 10 more times. Her words really assured me to marry her.
The Interviewer was writing all my answers in PC. He then summarized some points:
I am concerned with why your wife hide a key point that her 1st husband was her first cousin.
Why you went to Australia instead trying to go to Canada just after you marriage. It looks like you have some lack of attraction between you two. Your wife supposed to apply for you as soon as she went to canada after your marriage.
I have doubt about your marriage arrangement. Why her uncle introduce your wife to you, why not the matchmaker ?
You being a Very good candidate in marriage market, why your parents agreed to marry their 1st child to a two times divorced one.
Then the Interviewer told me to explain the points. I was explaining. Then he interrupted me saying, you're making stories. Ok, Now I have to end the interview. You have given me lots of information to think about. I will think about them. You will be notified about the result. You have to wait now.
I told the Interviewer that, Can You please have a look on my stuffs (that I have brought to the interviewer as proof of our relationship)? Then he looked them a bit seriously. He was ready to go inside. Then I thanked him and Said Good bye.
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I want your expertise help please. I am not sure how did I have been able to answer. One thing i can say, the interviewer wanted to make me extremely nervous. I was not at all nervous. I answered all looking at the interviewer. I was calm and positive.
Why you got two marriage? In china they dont accept nikhanama Or there is some other reason.can1989 said:
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