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[The Scared]

Thanks to everybody even you Shiny but lets not forget thi country its builted by emigrants nd it seems u come from a family of imigrants too ne even my wife come from imigrant parent so lets not rush in our coments nd im not saying that im not willing to get back to normal but the thing is that cant stand fighting everyday i grew up with my parents never heard them fight they have been married for 35 yrs nd still so happy that was all i wanted nd want but it seems nd im not willing or dying to get the divorced title but i just ask what would happen now nd thanks to everybody nd if there is somethign that u can force marriage is not one of them thnx everybody

 

[saint4peace]

The Scared: I have a little question to you. If you have a job, what are you scared of having child with your wife? Her 'short temper'? Anything else? Please indicate a little. Then we won't find any 'problem' with you. I personally think your wife is NOT happy with you for some other reasons and you gotta dig them out, buddy. Good luck with your famly life.

 

[sunsun]

He just worries about his PR , job and new Canadian friends.... He just used her wife to get Canadian PR.....He forgets his wife has done so many things to make sure he could come to Canada united with her...He forgets how his wife missed him so much and wanted living together , have babies , house for their family....He forgets he had promised to God to take care his wife even the worst problems until death separate them . He forgets his wife guarantee him and sign in CIC paper....
I told my wife about you....My wife was upset and told me if she were your wife , she will report police, CIC , judge ( when you want divorce in court ) etc to make sure CIC kicks you out from Canada.
If your wife is so bad to you , why not you return your Canadian PR card to her and you go back to your country and never live in Canada anymore? I hope someone did the same things to your sisters , daughters ( if you married again with other woman next time and has babies) so you will know how your wife's feeling now !!
A person like you has made other people who are genuine marriage get harder to apply PR and long processing time in CIC . Shame on you!!

 

[amikety]

All real married couples fight. If your parents never fought, there was a serious flaw in the marriage.

It seems to me you're looking for the go-ahead from this forum. You may find it here, but as you've seen, most of us are into working hard to save our marriages because we take the commitment seriously. The least you can do is attend marriage therapy, even alone.

If you aren't enough of an adult to make decisions about separation and divorce without validation (from a bunch of strangers at that) then you should never have gotten married in the first place.

This is a highly personal matter. Between you and your spouse.

For the record, some Canadians have succeeded in having their sponsored spouses removed on fraud. It's unlikely but never say never.

 

[sunsun]

Here is his story...so other people can read it......I hope your wife reports you and CIC kicks you out from Canada....


The Scared's story :
Hi please somebody advise me i arrived in Canada 20 months ago my wife sponsored me the thing is she has changed since there shes not the woman i fell in love with i have been doing everything to make it work nd make her happy but shes so controling nd demanding i talked to her so many times but shes never changed shes really giving me so much stress now . i left everything behind and came in a country that i knew no1 besieds her nd started a new life from 0 so i could be with her i think me not being rich is bothering her shes asking for kids nd buying a house nd the thing is i can`t afford to have none of them for now im a hardworking family guy but nothing seems to make her happy now that i started my life in here have job nd new friends i wanna divorce her because i can`t take this anymore fighting every day it is killing me but i dont wanna lose my permanent resident im a tax payer nd never did anything wrng in my life is there a way i could lose my pr . sppecial thanks to all of you

 

[amikety]

A family guy that wants a divorce. Oh my.

 

[gsize]

as a wise man once said...... ".you should never judge a man before walking a mile in his shoes'

Cant believe how many in this thread have all the answers and find him guilty.

There are always 3 sides......his side, her side and the truth.


Lets hope VO's are more compasionate than the posters.

 

[sunsun]

He said he left Everything in his country and started from 0 in Canada . Now He is so worry about his Canadian PR . Why not he goes back to his country which he has Everything ?
He is afraid to has a baby with his wife , do not want to buy a house or even planning/dreaming to buy a house in future...
Please read it again and again....,Gsize

 

[gsize]

we dont know the details, therefore, I would never pass judgement on anyone.

 

[Tipha]

we dont know the details, therefore, I would never pass judgement on anyone.

ya its hard to judge over this, usually if theres relationship problems, its not just one sides fault, usually both partners are to blame and theres always things that both need to work on. I dont know the wife and her side....hard to tell if shes really like that and not willing to change or if you do something wrong that makes her behave that way. But i agree with others saying, try to make the marriage work first, if all fails, ok then you might have to go separated ways in the end, if you got nothing here in canada, go back to your home country. I think to worry about PR shouldnt be your main concern, its about the relationship, the decision to stay in canada comes after and depends on what you still got there after the relationship breaks apart, if you have to go back to your home country then it is so.....talk to your family back home and see what can be done if that situation comes up and prepare for it with their help. If you dont got anyone to help you there, thats sad, but since you mentioned youre parents are a good couple that never fights, im sure they have advice and will help you returing back home if needed.....

 

[sunsun]

He loves Canada so much and afraid losing his PR than losing his wife even he has Everything in his country with his great parent who Never fight but he never learn why his parent never fight ? It is funny

 

[Halfmoon]

How many scared threads are there?

I'm sure your kind hearted wife put alot on the line to sponsor you as there are both financial and emotional risks involved. Put that aside for a second. I am sure her dreams of which she SURELY discussed with you of one day having a family and home were both your goals while on the phone all those nights apart. I am almost certain that a reasonable person who would consider dating and thus getting married and then sponsoring is not thinking about how you would join her in Canada and ditch her for your "new" friends. Sure it's healthy to have a group of friends but your first priority is your wife and the commitments you made to her on your wedding day!

Asking for children and planning around building a home is the natural progression of a marriage. If you don't believe me, start another thread called "What comes next after marriage?". You on the other hand have hit a candy store when you landed, thrown out every moral value that may have existed within the narcissistic mind of your yours and can't think beyond the empty shell you call a brain.

I'm a pretty good judgement of character and what I smell here is "by the way everyone, I'm Scared..please listen to my sob story. I'm a good man, devoted husband, blah blah blah...........now wait here it comes.........BY THE WAY, my wife complains too much BUT WHAT I'd really like to know is, can I leave my wife without loosing my PR!

Wow, didn't see that one coming. You're like a FOR SALE sign that no one is buying.

 

[sunsun]

He is scared of losing his PR because in his home country , he is Nothing... If he has everything , he will ask his wife just stay in his country and not need to worry about his Canadian PR.... He won't worry about having a baby and has a house etc in his country (Again , he has Everything in his country !!)

 

[saint4peace]

The Scared: People like 'you' makes our lives harder to bring our spouses. I did not want to be hard on you. But I can't help myself saying you a 'scammer'. Please forgive me. I really don't like a man like you, being myself a man. I just see that you are so selfish. Jumped into 'divorce' within 20 months! So sad a man, you are! Feel Shame for you being a man. Every man MUST know how to handle his wife delicately, and softly. It is kind a delicate relation, and at the same time a heck of a responsibility. Please grow up man.

 

[saint4peace]

The Scared: People like 'you' makes our lives harder to bring our spouses. I did not want to be hard on you. But I can't help myself saying you a 'scammer'. Please forgive me. I really don't like a man like you, being myself a man. I just see that you are so selfish. Jumped into 'divorce' within 20 months! So sad a man, you are! Feel Shame for you being a man. Every man MUST know how to handle his wife delicately, and softly. It is delicate kinda relation, and at the same time heck of a responsibility. Please grow up man.