Greetings to those that gives their time to assist others, encouraging others in this forum, I call them HEROES for their outstanding courage and assistance they give to people on here. I just want a thread for us to do more because l couldn't find a thread for this kind of discussion and l decided to come up with it for us to share knowledge, encourage one another, counseling each other to make our relationship more healthy. No wisdom is lost.
In life, we face many challenges that include social, economic, cultural or political factors. It’s rare to live without trials. These circumstances we encounter make us develop our reasoning. In fact, the challenges we face force us to find ways to deal or overcome them thus widening our thinking capacity. Remember that Problem shared is a problem half solved!
I know some of us could say oh there is no point in discussing something like this, each of us are capable of controlling our relationship, yes you are damn right (mr. One soldier army who need no help of others) but no one is here to control another person relationship, we are adult and capable enough to handle our stuff but we learn from one another, people around us influenced us one way or the other to become part of who we are in life.
If you don't wanna be part of the thread, you don't need to give comment at all let alone discouraging others that wish to contribute in a positive way.
I believe we are here as one family and respect one another even though there are some that shows bad example with the way they step on toes with their words because if we can take our time to assist people in their immigration purpose for family union, l know we could do better than that, we could be of help to assist each other to make our relationship more stronger to keep us going.
l wanna be part of those that build up in a positive way not part of those that pull down or have come to destroy another person in the name of relationship or LOVE.
Therefore, if we have questions concerning our relationship, the relationship is no longer stable after sometime or after landing, having fight all the time that could lead to destruction of the relationship, or any challenges facing our relationship that we believe we can share, l don't want us to be shy to discuss those challenges because some of us are really good in their contributions to assist others and people can tell you how long they have been in their relationship, the understanding that keep them moving on stronger till date, with such people experiences; others can achieve to also build their relationship to be more stronger too.
There are circumstances we may handle by ourselves and those where we may need assistance from a friend, a brother, a counselor, a religious leader or any other relative. When a problem is shared, the solution may be got easily rather than concealing it.
Sometimes we fall into trouble because of being too secretive or shy even about something we cannot handle by ourselves. For instance, a colleague of mine almost missed a job opportunity because he was afraid of asking for help from others. He is a proud man and believes he can be independent of others.
The trouble came when he applied for a job in a certain company. The human resource told him to submit his application and the C.V via email before the day ended.
This comrade is not conversant with the internet. He never wanted others to know he was applying for a job. He trembled for the whole day until he failed and asked for help from a comrade. The friend helped him to write the application as well the C.V and they sent it to the right address.
He learnt a lesson that day because if it had not been for the friend, he would have missed the employment opportunity. He has now changed his attitude after realising the importance of sharing our dilemmas with others.
There are many people who have committed suicide just because of a simple problem. But if they had sought for help from others, that problematic scenario would have been solved and they would still be alive. There are others who have also lost their marriages, jobs and businesses due to the act of hiding their mistakes and hesitating to ask for help from colleagues.
Whenever we share our problems with responsible people, we get help. By responsible people I mean those who can really understand your problem and give you the necessary advice not those that can easily tell you or encourage you to divorce your partner without even knowing what is going on in those couple lives but because one of them talks about divorce in anger in which he or she could regret the action later but maybe it will be too late for correction.
I know there are people who don’t mind or bother helping others. Some take other people’s tears to be their joy. I describe such as vultures. But not all people are like vultures. We should seek help from those whom we think have a sense of care and love and l do believe some of us in this forum have those sense of care and love for others.
Otherwise, if you stay with the problem without getting a solution, it may become disastrous to you as well your family members. Let us always seek advice from others when we fail to solve problems.
If you are haters, back off from this thread, God bless every one of us.
In life, we face many challenges that include social, economic, cultural or political factors. It’s rare to live without trials. These circumstances we encounter make us develop our reasoning. In fact, the challenges we face force us to find ways to deal or overcome them thus widening our thinking capacity. Remember that Problem shared is a problem half solved!
I know some of us could say oh there is no point in discussing something like this, each of us are capable of controlling our relationship, yes you are damn right (mr. One soldier army who need no help of others) but no one is here to control another person relationship, we are adult and capable enough to handle our stuff but we learn from one another, people around us influenced us one way or the other to become part of who we are in life.
If you don't wanna be part of the thread, you don't need to give comment at all let alone discouraging others that wish to contribute in a positive way.
I believe we are here as one family and respect one another even though there are some that shows bad example with the way they step on toes with their words because if we can take our time to assist people in their immigration purpose for family union, l know we could do better than that, we could be of help to assist each other to make our relationship more stronger to keep us going.
l wanna be part of those that build up in a positive way not part of those that pull down or have come to destroy another person in the name of relationship or LOVE.
Therefore, if we have questions concerning our relationship, the relationship is no longer stable after sometime or after landing, having fight all the time that could lead to destruction of the relationship, or any challenges facing our relationship that we believe we can share, l don't want us to be shy to discuss those challenges because some of us are really good in their contributions to assist others and people can tell you how long they have been in their relationship, the understanding that keep them moving on stronger till date, with such people experiences; others can achieve to also build their relationship to be more stronger too.
There are circumstances we may handle by ourselves and those where we may need assistance from a friend, a brother, a counselor, a religious leader or any other relative. When a problem is shared, the solution may be got easily rather than concealing it.
Sometimes we fall into trouble because of being too secretive or shy even about something we cannot handle by ourselves. For instance, a colleague of mine almost missed a job opportunity because he was afraid of asking for help from others. He is a proud man and believes he can be independent of others.
The trouble came when he applied for a job in a certain company. The human resource told him to submit his application and the C.V via email before the day ended.
This comrade is not conversant with the internet. He never wanted others to know he was applying for a job. He trembled for the whole day until he failed and asked for help from a comrade. The friend helped him to write the application as well the C.V and they sent it to the right address.
He learnt a lesson that day because if it had not been for the friend, he would have missed the employment opportunity. He has now changed his attitude after realising the importance of sharing our dilemmas with others.
There are many people who have committed suicide just because of a simple problem. But if they had sought for help from others, that problematic scenario would have been solved and they would still be alive. There are others who have also lost their marriages, jobs and businesses due to the act of hiding their mistakes and hesitating to ask for help from colleagues.
Whenever we share our problems with responsible people, we get help. By responsible people I mean those who can really understand your problem and give you the necessary advice not those that can easily tell you or encourage you to divorce your partner without even knowing what is going on in those couple lives but because one of them talks about divorce in anger in which he or she could regret the action later but maybe it will be too late for correction.
I know there are people who don’t mind or bother helping others. Some take other people’s tears to be their joy. I describe such as vultures. But not all people are like vultures. We should seek help from those whom we think have a sense of care and love and l do believe some of us in this forum have those sense of care and love for others.
Otherwise, if you stay with the problem without getting a solution, it may become disastrous to you as well your family members. Let us always seek advice from others when we fail to solve problems.
If you are haters, back off from this thread, God bless every one of us.
