Hi renluv, I am smiling at your "obsession" we have all been there!!! And during the wait we all seem to stay there, it is hard!! You are most welcome, I do not know what I would have done without some of the people here on the forum who advised and encouraged me and kept me sane.
I believe I may be the TRV queen

, we were refused 4 times, hubby and I had to do the long distance thing for over 6 years actually. So to answer you question it is NOT seen as a red flag (although there are some other folks on other threads who will say it is), immigration expects that there will be some attempts between spouses to visit each other. I know this from my own GCMS notes that talk about our sincere attempts to be together. So for sure, show the pics of you and the kids at the wedding and just tell the truth, hubby was denied TRV. it will not have any negative impact on your file. As for your parents, the more proof the better. A letter from them, if they are willing to provide bank statements or notice of assessments from Canada Revenue, whatever will provide the evidence to back up your claim. A letter of job offer for hubby cannot hurt, they may think "oh any friend of the family could do that" as it will not be an official labour market document, but it certainly will not hurt.
The one thing that I have learned about this process which was a very hard pill for me to swallow as I have always been a proud and patriotic Canadian with much love and gratitude for my country - is that immigration sees each file as guilty until proven innocent. Unfortunate but true. There is a couple from our POS thread who had been married for some time with 2 kids and they were allowed TRVs and travelled back and forth between Trini and Canada and the wife (applicant) was
STILL called for an interview
!!!! They were approved, but those things just make me shake my head in disbelief at where our taxpayer dollars are going. My rant of the day. Not trying to scare you (I am sure you folks will get approved) it's just that sometimes the way the VO's do things does not always make sense. Blessings.